Trigger Proof Transmissions

In case you haven’t noticed, there are a lot of keyboard warriors out there
criticizing how things are being run.

Throughout the pandemic, I found myself in that same boat for a hot minute.

And lo and behold:  It got me nowhere.

I wasn’t any happier complaining endlessly— and nothing was changing.

I realized there was only one place I could go to make a difference….
The one place that very few people who scream the loudest about the world dare go:

Inside.

One of the sad by-products of childhood trauma is that we fall into a relationship with reality
where we give away power.

The rejection, hostile control, lack of warmth, and unpredictability with parents that perpetuate
maltreatment cause us to unconsciously adopt what’s called “an external locus of control”. 

What happened to us begins to inform us of WHO WE THINK WE ARE.

We then view the entire world, our relationships, our work environments through the same lens,
thinking we are powerless.

WE END UP ASSUMING ITS OUR JOB/ROLE TO TRY TO CHANGE THE WORLD.

This ends up being EXHAUSTING.  It’s why most rescuers who are trying to change the world
I meet have complex post traumatic stress injuries and are burnt out and depressed.

I’m going to make a bold statement that might sound selfish (especially if you’re a rescuer)… but hear me out:

THE MOST EFFECTIVE PATH TO CHANGING THE WORLD IS TO HEAL OURSELVES FROM
OUR OWN CHILDHOOD TRAUMA.

It’s precisely why Clinical Psychologist and Professor Jordan Peterson’s rule #6 in his book: “12 Rules for Life” states:

“Set your house in Perfect Order before you criticize the world”. 

If we don’t look inward first— our unresolved attachment wounds limit our capacity, destroy our health, cause reactivity that
keeps destroying our relationships— and unfortunately get downloaded onto our children as they view the world with the same
identity…. and we crush their own possibility.

Our relationships become co-dependent as we bring that "powerless victim” identity into our relationships.

When we finally stop looking outside, then focus on looking inward for healing and change,
we grow, we mature, and we come up with better strategies to empower ourselves and others.

We then break the cycle of trauma for our children.
We heal.
We inspire change, instead of forcing it.

In working with clients who are burnt out rescuers tired of trying to fix everyone on the outside,
the biggest obstacle is within the identity itself.

You see, rescuing others is an unconscious strategy for avoiding our own pain.
Most rescuers can’t bear the thought of helping rescue themselves.
The guilt would consume them.

And yet it’s the only way to break the cycle.

Try to Change the world without first cleaning up our own wounds— and we burn out and destroy our relationships.

Look inward first and rescue ourselves… and break the cycle.

If you’re finally ready to end this hamster wheel so you can heal, shift the dynamics in your relationships
and get your house in order so that your children can grow in possibility rather than the same fate of co-dependency…

jump in and join us at our next event that’s coming up below to get a taste of how to put your house in order…

or if you’re ready to take it to the next level, apply to become a #Cyclebreaker where my team and I
help you heal attachment trauma at a somatic level so that you can literally shift the world around you
not by force or criticism, but by who you BECOME.

A rising tide lifts all boats, while criticism causes others to feel diminished.

Your call.

Choose wisely.

To your health,
your guide on the side,
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

FIGHTING THE TEARS

Your relationship with your tears is very telling.

Do you stuff them down?
Do you have problems even accessing them?
Or perhaps you feel that you’re “too much” with them.

If we want to get to the root of this riddle with our emotions—
there are some deeper questions to ponder.

From my observation, this block of emotions is most commonly seen in men,
but many women also have the same judgment and shame
towards their own emotions. 

It seems small, but it’s massive and has huge implications in our lives.
The places this will show up the most is in
1) Our health— suppression or blocking (repression) of emotions causes
health problems, like digestive issues, skin issues, and auto-immune problems,
as well as chronic fatigue and pain.

2) Relationships— our dysfunctional relationships with our emotions and inability
to deal with them and regulate them causes breakdown in relationships with others
who are equally as incapable of understanding their emotions and others. 

The worst part of this messed up dance is the conflict that happens inside of ourselves.

Ever wonder what the culprit is to this Inner War?  Ever wonder why it happens?

When you were a child, the way your emotions were met
by your primary care-givers pretty much informs how you
will meet yourself when you have these emotions.

Take a moment and ask yourself:

When I was a child, and I had "big emotions,"
how were they met by my parents/ caregivers?

Think about it right now. Take a pause and reflect.

If you ever had your emotions judged, shamed,
or more commonly, met with contempt and pushed away,

you were being taught how to treat yourself.

This was a huge revelation for me,
I went into personal development to help me understand and overcome
the Trauma I experienced as a child, and when I really GOT this, I realized that
I was using personal development to avoid my feelings.

(read that again).

Healing can only happen when we surrender to the pain of our younger parts.
To learn how to change the relationship with them.
To allow, to feel, to express what has been suppressed since you were a child.

When we don’t learn how to break this endless cycle,
we keep accumulating wounds and traumas to our attachments that are crumbling as the world keeps
spinning into further collective trauma— and we get taken down with it.  Our children
begin to express what we are avoiding and suppressing. 

The trauma gets passed down.

But When you finally master the art of becoming Trigger Proof— , you’re able to meet the stresses and challenges of life
with resilience.  You’re able to greet your anger, your fear, your loneliness and scarcity with ease, grace and flow.

Then they move THROUGH you, and don’t get stuck.
You feel lighter.
Your health expands.

Relationships heal— because you’re healing within yourself.

This is the greatest skill never taught in schools.

The biggest obstacle is fear.  Fear of letting go.  Fear of being seen.
Fear of feeling pain.  Fear of losing control and falling into a pit and never getting out.

But the exact opposite happens. You get to experience freedom and relief.

If you’ve been stuck in your relationships — Beginning by looking at the dysfunctional relationship
with yourself and your emotions is the BEST place to begin.
Life completely transforms when you end the fight with yourself.

When you’re ready to learn how to dance with this “dark passenger” of emotions,
release and let go, connect with true intimacy, and have healthy relationships,

Join us at our next event— Link is below. 
See you at the next perfect time.
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships
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Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

Do you know why your parents had you?

Sounds like a weird question, but the answer to that question
actually makes a profound difference in how your life plays out.

Most parents who haven’t resolved their traumas
will have children to suit THEIR needs.

Without getting clarity on this foundational intention,
children often experience the trauma of “not belonging”
and are conditioned to abandon their own values and identity
in order to help their parents meet THEIR needs.

Soon, instead of following our own path,
and learning to connect to our own inner voice,

people might be surprised to find themselves feeling unfulfilled,
constantly holding themselves back in life,
feeling unworthy of a life of their own choosing.

It’s almost as if our life force gets shut off when we live to meet
our parents needs:

Their Need for achievement,
Their Need for keeping up with the Jones’s
Their Need to "look good"
Their Needs have your run the family business.
Their Need for love, connection, and validation
that they’re not receiving from from their partner.

And when you don’t measure up to that covert need…
often there is a deep resentment towards the child

that is felt to the CORE.

This feeling of rejection from a parent for not measuring up
makes a child feel like a defective doll that a child gets,
and throws on the shelf. 

Without getting to the root cause of this conflict and healing it
at a SOMATIC BASED LEVEL,

we find ourselves running in circles looking for love and validation,
feeling invisible if we are not needed,
settling for breadcrumbs,
and having deep anxious and avoidant attachment patterns in relationships….

Which are a breeding ground of co-dependency,
causing us to feel unsafe and unfullfilled in our relationships.

After all, if you’ve found yourself thinking of yourself like a defective doll,
how on earth can any relationship actually work?

Even with the right partner, we simply won’t feel worthy of receiving love.

To heal from this dance,
we are called to go deeper than our stories,
and examine our conditioning.

By doing so, we can reset the contextual pattern that causes us to
choose partners who disrespect us, who take from us, but don’t give,
and who keep on abandoning us physically and emotionally.

The answer comes from changing the patterns of conditioned self-abandonment.

If you’re ready to change the dance and heal from these unconscious trauma bonds
with our primary attachments so that we can create the freedom to call in
healthy relationship dynamics that feel nourishing….

If you’ve ever wondered why you end up in the same shitty relationship dynamics and want to create
and ENTIRELY NEW possibility (even if you’ve been locked in for years and feel hopeless),
then join us at our next event…
I’m so stoked to teach those who are keen how to break the cycle
and identity they were born into — through no fault of their own.

Follow the links below and jump in.
There’s a satisfaction guarantee in all our events…

If you jump in and play full on and aren’t totally satisfied,
you get a refund.

You literally have nothing to lose, except excuses ;)
It’s never to late to change the narrative running in your body.

See you at the next perfect time,
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click link below to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

THE PRICE OF CHANGE

I’m going to risk sounding rude here and come out and say it:

NO ONE IS COMING TO RESCUE YOU.

No one is going to push you to wake up and claim what you deserve:

A healthy mind, a healthy body, and relationships that work.
Yes, you deserve all of that.

But unfortunately, not everyone will achieve it.

Many of us are finding ourselves completely disempowered,
in relationships that don’t work,
disconnected from ourselves…

WANTING change… SAYING we are ready to change…

But there’s a sense that someone ELSE should be saving us.
Deep down we want someone ELSE to support us and save us from the pain.

Someone ELSE to provide us the resources, time, and energy so we can heal…

Someone ELSE to change for us.

After speaking to thousands of people who are suffering
at the hands of their unresolved traumas,

I’ve noticed a palpable difference between those that get the results they’re wanting,
and those that will be in the same place this time next year as they are now:

Those who are willing to take RESPONSIBILITY.

Responsibility to break the trauma bonds from their past
that have them choosing the same partners to RE-LIVE that trauma.

Responsibility to take ownership of their story rather than be the victim to it.

Responsibility to invest in receiving the RIGHT guidance from the RIGHT help,
that won’t just keep them stuck in their story— but will actually help them
take RESPONSIBILITY for creating a new narrative.

If you’re wondering what price you’re willing to pay to change your situation,
start by asking what’s the COST if you DON’T change this.

(Read that again).

When you do, you then CHOOSE your destiny rather than having it chosen for you.

what will it cost you to NOT shift your current relationship to yourself and your past?

If you’re ready to choose a reality where your nervous system can transform,
so you’re able to feel safe in your body,
safe in relationships,
worthy and deserving of receiving support, guidance, love and giving it to the right people
in relationships that feel mutually nourishing,

Follow the link below to apply…

Share what you’re committed to creating for yourself in 2022….

And let’s see if we’re a fit.

Your biggest supporter,
(and butt kicker)

Dr. Nima
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

When I learned about the word “enmeshment” everything began to make sense.

Why my relationships never worked out.
Why I had fear and anxiety around so many people.
Why we are so afraid of what people think of us.

Why we have “the disease to please”.

without understanding this fundamental concept,
we endlessly go around searching for love and approval,
living in fantasy world where others can finally “see us”
and “understand us”,

never really getting to the root cause.

Enmeshment is a developmental “small t” trauma
that causes us to have almost no boundary or definition
of our own emotions, values, preferences and identity
OUTSIDE of someone else’s. 

This begins in childhood when we are raised with unconscious parents
in cultures where we are conditioned to abandon our own selves
in service of pleasing others.

As a result, we end up in relationships where we can’t have
ourselves AND another person simultaneously.

“I can’t have you AND me at the same time.”

We then feel relationships must come at the cost of ourselves.

Then our insecure attachments run our lives,
and we don’t have relationships, really.

We have Trauma Bonds.

To solve that, we must solve the upstream issue itself:
Enmeshment Trauma.

When you do, you go from being a victim and slave to relationships
to becoming a "safe container" for them to thrive.

It’s not automatic.
It takes work.

It takes a new level of skill to learn. 

And nothing in the world is more worthwhile. 

I have gone from Enmeshed relationships all my life to
living in a secure attachment for the first time, and I’m in my mid 40’s.

And now parenting my son to not be Enmeshed with us
and to teach our #Cyclebreakers how to do the same is my
mission in life.

The skills CAN be learned, but it can’t happen without
courage.

See you at the next perfect time.
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

WILL THIS WORK FOR ME

I wish I could have a nickel
for everyone who has reached out wondering
if our events and programs will “work” for them.

Some of them request a guarantee from me that it will,
and don’t feel safe in proceeding unless there is one.

It’s almost as if they feel so duped by all the things they’ve tried
to break the deeply conditioned patterns
that have them

- Choosing partners they KNOW aren’t good for them
- repeating the same arguments,
- feeling sad, lonely, anxious and in DEEP emotional pain.

“Why hasn’t anything WORKED for me???”😩

We have been conditioned to seek out pain relievers.

Which makes perfect sense, because emotional pain sucks.

What we don’t see in the background of this game
is that we are setting ourselves up to lose. 

Because in our endless search for pain relief,
we become trapped in our addictions
so that we can avoid feeling them.

When we don’t get to the CAUSE of the pain,
(often Trauma Bonds and Self-Abandonment from Childhood Adversity)
and work to heal the ROOT of it
(The wounded child inside of us)
and finally master the practice of reconnecting a bond that has been broken...

To face it, to feel it, to INTEGRATE it,
which basically means to take it all in as a PART of us
instead of trying to dismiss, deny, abandon, or shame it…

If we DON’T address it...
Then the pain keeps chasing US.

When you finally stop looking for pain relievers,
and become more proficient at FEELING,
something magical happens. 

We feel lighter, more grounded, and human again.
When we surrender to the PROCESS instead,
We learn skills to adapt and HEAL rather than just COPE.
 
Rather than expecting a program/guide that offers a SOLUTION to END pain,
which sets us up to lose because life involves having a relationship TO pain...

it’s wiser to look for a PROCESS to help you become more resilient and adaptable
to the pain of emotional flashbacks which are a part of life….

And COMMIT to learning the rules of the game.

When this happens, you learn the language of the Nervous System.
Your capacity to feel discomfort expands.
You begin to heal. 

Healing is learning,
and learning is forgetting.

So might as well master a process YOU CAN WORK to heal,
rather than expecting something is going to work FOR YOU.

Huge distinction.

Choose wisely, my friend.
I GUARANTEE if you don’t,
you’ll forever be looking for something that “works for you"

But when you do,
You’ll make incremental progress on your healing,
and you’ll take the tools with you for life.

If you’re ready to learn the process,
follow the link below and see what I’m talking about.

Your biggest supporter (and butt kicker)
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

Common Question: 

“Dr. Nima, help. I know I’ve been triggered lately in a relationship.  It keeps coming up,
and it feels like we’re going nowhere.  I know I want to change, but I don’t know where to begin.
Where do I begin to heal this?”

If you’ve ever been in that situation 👆🏽 you’re not alone.

I was in the same boat. 
I was re-living the same relationship again and again, and by the time I hit my mid-40’s
I was beginning to feel hopeless.

“How could I be so intelligent, yet can’t figure out the relationship bit?” I would ask myself.

As it turns out, I’m in good company with a lot of people. 
There’s a Billionaire who has created re-useable rockets and has sent civilians into outer space,
and will someday land Folks on Mars….

But he just can’t figure his relationships out— now working on his 4th or 5th divorce (I’ve lost count).

I can empathize with him.

It turned out, I was living with unresolved attachment traumas, and the work I was doing
for personal growth was more of a "coping strategy” rather than healing.

To heal, we must face our shadows.  Our insignificance…

All the feelings we’ve been running and hiding and avoiding.

The biggest obstacle isn’t actually time, or money, or “I’m busy”.

The real obstacle is that facing all the stuff we’ve been burying can feel daunting.

I see it. I get DM’s from people who SAY they want change and healing…
But when it comes down to it— the body feels like a dead weight,
not wanting to return back into the vortex of the feelings of loneliness, anger, fear, and scarcity.

(After all— we’ve been going to great lengths to NOT feel them, right?)

When you FINALLY dance with this resistance, and do it anyway—
you find a tribe of other CycleBreakers who, like you, are leaning into it too…

You find strength.  Courage.  Vulnerability. 

Your authentic Self emerges. 

With all the DM’s and questions, I wanted to find the answer to “Where can I begin?”

You begin by TAKING ACTION. 
Not “planning” to take action.  It’s by taking ONE. INCREMENTAL. STEP. FORWARD.

If you’ve been lurking, reading, and digesting what I’ve been sharing with you,
and you feel scared, but you’re finally ready to take the step towards HEALING (instead of coping)

Join us at our next Breathwork and Badassery, and Overview Experience and learn the difference
between “talking” about doing the inner work, and ACTUALLY doing the Inner work…
(links given below)

So the past no longer runs you.
You get to run you.

Healing Attachment wounds isn’t easy.
And it’s not meant to be done alone.

See you at the next perfect time.
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

The Co-Dependency Dilemma

Losing touch with your own reality
and getting emotionally enmeshed with another
is the main dilemma in co-dependent relationships.

It's almost an "out of body" experience. 

Without awareness we give up our "agency,"
our choice,
our power,
our well being

and we unknowingly place it in the other person's hands...
and emotions.

This inevitably leads to resentment because
we then don't feel honored and seen.

Earlier in the year, during the early
stages of the Corona Virus Pandemic,
it felt like there were a million ambulances
going on every day.
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

During one of my events, we were interrupted
dozens of times, and each time, 
I could feel myself wanting to drift,
much the same way we do when we
are co-dependently constantly worrying about the feelings
of someone in our space. 

It was an amazing opportunity for me to 
practice the tools I was teaching in that very moment.

Turns out it was a perfect teaching moment.

The interesting thing is--
when we start to take responsibility 
for how and where we place our attention
and intention, 

we are able to stay grounded and separate 
from enmeshment.

Our emotions remain ours, 
and we don't take responsibility for someone else's.

It's all part and parcel of healing your attachment wounds.

When you do-- relationships transform 
to match the degree of grounding you have to yourself.

If you want to learn how to transform your co-dependent 
patterns and find connection with yourself,
and find freedom from the need for approval and acceptance
externally,
join us at our upcoming event.

GOING FROM TRAUMA BONDED RELATIONSHIPS TO SECURE ATTACHMENTS-- IS IT POSSIBLE??

If you've been following the Johnny Depp / Amber Heard case, you can see the Impact of a Trauma Bond.

When we're used to relating to others in the lens

of our trauma, having secure relationships can feel

weird AF-- downright gross.

So we keep attracting the same types of dynamics, until we choose to finally heal.

On today's transmission we chat with Marissa who shares her experience in what is the difference between her past Trauma Bonded relationships and the secure relationships she's developing now.

When you get this right, your entire life changes for the better.

When we skip this part, we go round and round in circles dating the same type of person.
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

CAN CODEPENDENCY BE HEALED

There’s an epidemic going on behind the scenes in many relationships…
and experts say that it’s literally impossible to overcome.

Without awareness, this phenomenon runs in the background of the way we relate to one another,
causing problems like stress, anxiety— digestive and hormonal issues— all the way to attachmentissues and push/pull dynamics.

This dynamic is responsible for abuse and often leads to death.

This phenomenon is Co-Dependency.

It’s part of the toxic dynamics at the root of why Marie felt stuck in her relationshipwondering “should I stay or go?”.

When she reached out to me, her relationship had reached a boiling point where she realizedit wasn’t good for her.

But she just couldn’t get out.

It would go into cycles where she just couldn’t break free.

She had taken a lot of courses, done a lot of work, but hadn’t yet dealt with the most important part:

THE TRAUMA BOND THAT IS HELD IN THE NERVOUS SYSTEM LEVEL.

Unless you address THAT then yes, it’s impossible to heal.

Mari was in a year long course that was extremely helpful, but it didn’t address the Trauma Bond:

The unresolved wounds hiding in our shadow that are responsible for the addiction to the cycle.
This causes guilt to hard-wire us to remain a prisoner and a slave to it.

The unresolved guilt is the prison.

I talk to a lot of people who say they’re ready to heal.
Many aren’t.
But something was different about Marie.
She was committed to breaking the cycle of the trauma bond she was living.

I knew we could help her get the outcome she wanted — which experts say is impossible.

Can Co-Dependency be healed?

The answer is, it’s impossible for certain people, yes.
But when you’re truly committed, you CAN heal from Co-Dependency.
If you’re committed to breaking the Trauma Bond that was there long before your relationship was.
If you’re committed to being a Cyclebreaker.

The biggest obstacle in the way is the pre-occupation with what the other person doing.
The hope that THEY do the work for us.
The guilt for taking care of our OWN health and well being first.

Letting the “I don’t deserve this” take over.

If we don’t step through that— and keep complaining about how the other person is behaving,
looking for validation, then no, we can’t heal from that place of victimhood.

The work is ours to do.
When we do, we return home to ourselves.

When we do, it’s FELT by the way we see ourselves and speak to ourselves.
The shame turns to pride.
The guilt turns to acceptance.

Just listen to how Marie describes her transformation.

If this resonates with you I have a 3 hour workshop replay that’s up for the next 48 hours to show you the path to breaking this cycle that we took Marie through.

Comment below and I’ll send it over.
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