Trigger Proof Transmissions

If you’ve ever caught yourself wondering “is this all there is to life?”
then I want you to know that I get it.

Even though since I was 13 I always dreamed of being a Chiropractor
(despite my parents initial reaction of discouragement),
after 10 years in practice I found myself feeling uninspired in treating
physical symptoms of stress and trauma related problems in my patients.

I craved and hungered to go deeper. 
To get to the root cause.

After seeing some crazy miraculous results in my office with patients who
became students in the in-office workshops I held,

My soul was calling me to make the leap. 
Even though I was crapping my pants and people were wondering if I was crazy,
I was ready to make the move to teaching full-time.

When I would share this with my parents, the idea was met with even GREATER discouragement.

It felt like they weren’t supporting me. They were my harshest critics over the idea.
Their approval and validation meant everything to me, but not more than my soul’s calling.

So once again, I felt unseen, unheard, and misunderstood
How familiar.

(you see why I gravitate to teaching so much 😉)

DEEP DOWN, I KNEW THEY WOULD BE EATING THEIR WORDS ONE DAY.

I was so confident, I pulled a Kanye West and brought my buddy with a camera to record them in an interview.

I wasn’t expecting what took place:

In that interview, my dad implanted an idea inside my mind.

4 years later, almost as he predicted, that vision/idea magically came to pass— all caught on camera.

The rest is history.

Today, I lead a global community of Cyclebreakers who are learning how to break the cycle of trauma passed down to them
and all our trainings help people break through “impossible” problems
simply because we point them towards the mastery off this one word: 

INDIVIDUATION.

Individuation is the process whereby we develop a sense of IDENTITY and INDIVIDUALITY that’s separate
and distinct from others.

One's unique self-identity, which is separate from that of any other individual,
develops through the process of individuation.
Individuation is ongoing and can be considered both a goal and a lifelong process for all of us to
aspire to in order to live meaningful healthy lives.   

NOT individuating from our parents is one of the reasons why we get into toxic relationships
with the same types of people, and fall into the same patterns of arguments,
and completely lack boundaries, or why we feel we are unworthy and undeserving.

It’s all because of a LACK OF Individuation.

One of the main symptoms that your soul is calling you to individuate is the experience of feeling a hunger
for MEANING AND PURPOSE.

Without individuating, we fall into the illusion that we don’t have one.

The coolest part about this video for me is watching my process of individuation.  A 6 year span in 11 minutes
watching me try to find my own way through the world OUTSIDE of the safety of my parents approval.

I could feel how badly I was fighting for it.
And I can feel when I finally broke through. 

Can you see it in the video?

This may not be a big deal to you, but as a Persian kid who loves his family, the process of
individuating (finally in my 40’s) was the most difficult experience of my entire life.

But well worth it— because without it— I couldn’t find a relationship that was stable and secure.

Not while I was still married to my parents.

That’s why it’s such an honor for me to hold space for our Cyclebreakers community
as they individuate from the impact of their family systems on their OWN lives.

Without individuation, our lives don’t belong to us.
We make choices based on outside validation, and abandon ourselves.
We chase externals, and we lose touch with who we are.
We feel lost, hopeless and purposeless.

I’m here to tell you, you’re NOT MISSING “purpose".

All that's missing is a path to your individuation that makes sense to you.

Luckily, if this video and message resonates with you,
you can begin carving out that path,
without having to do it alone.

Imagine having access to hundreds of others who are doing the same.

What difference would that make for you in this one life you have?

If you’re ready to find out, join us at our Next
Overview Experience where I break it all down for you.
https://go.drnima.com/oevw?sl=youtube
Take the red pill, and we’ll see you on the other side, Neo.

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Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

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Now that all the ‘Rona talk has died down,
It’s time to expose a silent epidemic/pandemic
that destroys health, relationships, and self worth.

That’s Childhood Attachment Traumas.

Without getting to the root cause of them,
we fall into the same toxic relationship patterns,
tolerate abusive behavior,
still wounded by affairs and betrayal running in the background,
feel anxious and depressed all the time,
with an inability to regulate our emotions,
and a resistance to actually enjoying life.

Even when things are going good for us,
when unresolved childhood attachment wounds are activated,
we’ll burn everything to the fucking ground,

and have no idea why we keep sabotaging ourselves.

The answer is in the silent pandemic of unresolved attachment traumas.

I left my Chiropractic practice years ago when I made this discovery.

Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

Give me any problem you have that’s CHRONIC.

I can show you that it’s tied to unresolved attachment wounds 
from your primary care givers:

The fact that you’re a pleaser to the point of abandoning youself.  ✅
The fact that you keep attracting emotionally unavailable people ✅
The reason why you’re so avoidant and push love and compliments away ✅
The fact that you want approval so bad, yet you feel so “unworthy and undeserving” all the time.✅
The reality that you’re Co-Dependently obsessed with external validation ✅
and feeling like you have to stand on your head and bend over backwards to work for love ✅

Unfortunately for all of these problems people spend thousands a year on therapy for, 
NONE OF IT WILL ACTUALLY CHANGE THE BEHAVIOR.

Unless we get to the underlying root cause, 
we’re spinning in circles praying for a Savior to come and rescue us. 

When you finally address the problem at the root, 
confidence emerges, 
Self worth comes back, and you’re getting your swagger again.

You’re able to finally set boundaries, ask for what you want, 
and KNOW YOU’RE WORTHY OF MORE. 

The universe starts to show you exactly what you’ve been showing and investing in YOURSELF. 

Best part:  You break the cycle so that the children don’t have to download all the trauma from you.

If you’re finally ready to break the cycle so that it finally ends with you, 
follow the link below and join us at our next event to get a taste of the Somatic work at a body-based level. 

Or, if you’re not interested in just dipping your toes in— 
you’re all in and ready to become a #Cyclebreaker, click the link and fill out an application, 
and jump on a call with my team to determine if we’re a fit.  

I bet you hadn’t considered this blind spot in your relationships before.

Try this on:
If you notice the same arguments in relationships
or you’re single and finding yourself in the same relationship dynamics
over and over again, you might have had the same problem:

A LACK OF INDIVIDUATION.

Let me explain: 

Growing up, in order to emerge as a fully functional adult with secure attachments,
it’s imperative that we INDIVIDUATE from our parents.

That means to EMERGE as a separate individual, fully present and aware
of our own values, identity, beliefs, preferences, and boundaries.

But unless you had trauma-informed, unicorn parents who healed from their own
attachment traumas, you likely grew up in an environment where there were
strict and harsh consequences of having your own particular values, identity, beliefs,
and preferences. 

For example, If you grew up gay in a strict religious household and felt you had to hide who you were,
your psyche will be affected by this conflict.
You would have to make the choice of fitting in, or being emotionally (sometimes physically)
shunned or exiled from connection.

If your parents were struggling emotionally and with addictions and co-dependency with one another,
and you felt you had to take care of them and your younger siblings to feel safe,
developing a sense of “good boy/girl” identity by choosing to suppress who you are in order to feel loved by your parents,
then you could argue that you haven’t INDIVIDUATED.

In both of these cases, you can easily see how the lack of individuation would shape the person’s identity,
and creates a “false self” they would use to interact with the world.

Suddenly, every relationship, every belief,  every behavior is informed by this unresolved conflict.

When driven by this unconscious conflict,

EACH AND EVERY COGNITIVE BASED THERAPY WE DO BECOMES INEFFECTIVE, BECAUSE WE
ARE STILL UNCONSCIOUSLY TIED TO OUR PARENTS.

That was me. 

43 years old, divorced, and 9 failed relationships later,  trying to make sense of
how I keep screwing this up despite all the personal development courses I took.

I began looking closely at these patterns and I did the unthinkable:

I moved back in with my parents for the sole purpose of divorcing them.

It was the best thing I ever did— although I wouldn’t recommend you do that unless you had a guide.
Not for the faint of heart.

I did it because deep down I knew why the patterns were there and why nothing ever worked for me.

That’s why I’m so keen to share how to break that same cycle with you.

If you’re ready to master the art of Individuation, RUN… (don’t walk) RUN, to our next
Overview Experience event.
(https://go.drnima.com/bbvw?sl=youtube)
This is a clip from our last one.

They are f%^& ing 🔥🔥🔥 if I may share what the feedback is. 

Will you Individuate in one 6 hour Event?

Hell No! It takes a lifetime!

But you’ll learn the tools to get you started, and you’ll be surrounded by a room full of 50-75 other
high-vibing people who are doing the exact same thing… learning how to Individuate WITH you.

These are the first steps on the path to being a Cycle Breaker. 
It’s about getting out of your "freeze state” and learning how to feel safe in your body again.
It's about creating a relationship with yourself that finally feels nourishing.
It’s about living a life by DESIGN, not by DUTY.

Today my relationship with my parents is better than it’s ever been,
and I’ve finally been able to do what I’ve never done before:

Get married. Have a family.  Become a father.
End the pattern of dating wounded birds that I could “rescue” that always ended in disaster.
Heal from my Trauma Bonds.

You can too.

I love showing people how it’s done.

1) Write down what Individuation could possibly do for you in this ONE LIFE.
2) Click the registration link below.
3) On a piece of paper, make a list of excuses why you can’t show up on Saturday.
4) Then, burn it.  And jump in and join this party… It’s supposed to feel scary (but you won’t be alone).

Enjoy the clip from the event.
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

Nobody wants to feel like a Shitty Parent. When our children struggle with anxiety and depression, we want to help them so bad, that sometimes we forget to look in the most obvious places.

On todays fb live/clubhouse chat we will discuss 3 uncommon solutions parents in our #CycleBreakers community have adopted to get results that aren’t available by medicating or sending the kid to a therapist.

Please understand— the goal of this discussion isn’t to blame parents.

It’s to acknowledge what hasn’t been working and what actually gets to the root cause-- so we can break cycles that didn't start with you.
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

I used to hate setting goals.
I couldn’t figure out if I was being realistic or not with them.

I mean, who doesn’t want to have the best relationship connection
while cruising on private jets together to exotic resorts and adventure destinations?

I wouldn’t say no to a life where those experiences are possible.

But how do I know if it’s a legit goal vs a pipe dream?

When you set your goals for yourself— Have you ever wondered if your goal is a TRUE goal,
or if it’s just a fantasy?

The answer to this question is on the other side of your relationship with PAIN.

If my example above was a TRUE, ALIGNED goal, then I would have a plan.
I would have a date circled.

If I’m short of money and time for the excursion, I would set a date, and a financial target,
and then I would live each day with my focus and energy moving towards that vision.

Here’s the kicker:
If it was TRULY an aligned goal, I would be willing to endure PAIN in the pursuit of it.

The PAIN of the financial burden.
The PAIN of the disruption to the operation of my business.
The PAIN of jet lag.
The PAIN of the risk of getting sick, getting lost, and losing stuff along the way.
The PAIN of a disrupted routine.
The PAIN of being critically judged family members and friends who might feel envy towards me.

If I’m perfectly aware of the downsides of this vision,
aware of all the painful consequences,
and I’m STILL willing to make progress towards this vision,

Then it’s a truly aligned goal.

Healing works the same way.

EVERYONE SAYS they want to heal from relationship dynamics, divorce, infidelity,
and heal from insecure attachment styles…

UNTIL it becomes painful.

It becomes shockingly clear how many folks think they can heal
simply by reading social media posts, listening to podcasts, and watching youtube.

Often it’s a cunning way of avoiding the pain of the real work.

Unfortunately when we don’t choose an inspiring pain to grow into,
that pain gets chosen for us.

If your pain of continuing down the same path,
living the same pattern of stuck relationship dynamics,
same reactions,
same arguments…

Same feelings of resentment are working for you,
then own it, and celebrate.

But if your relationship anxiety and pain you’re still unconsciously choosing to carry
is WORSE than the NECESSARY pain/fear you will TEMPORARY experience in creating a new reality….

And you’re ready to choose a different path,
one that is more empowering,
one that builds self trust,
one that fosters a healthy relationship with yourself through your Nervous System,

and you’re ready to receive guidance and invest in yourself,

follow the links below, and apply to COMPLETELY upgrade your relationship
with yourself, with others, with your emotions, your children by becoming a #Cyclebreaker.

The pain that you are going through— It didn’t start with you, but it can end with you.

The motto that has worked for me:

When in doubt, UPGRADE YOURSELF.

In 3-6 months where would you love to be?

Let me know on the application.

Till the next perfect time,

Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

If you feel frustrated in a relationship that's not working, you're not alone. 

Everyone wants to feel safe in a container of a healthy functional relationship where you both grow and evolve together. 

Without working on meeting these requirements I share in this training, we are bound to keep going around the hamster wheel, weeping, wailing and gnashing our teeth wishing the world will change to get easier for us, feeling unfulfilled.  

Said with love:  IT WON'T. 

No one is coming to rescue us from our misery. 

To live well, to move forward with grace, there are undeniable requirements most people never meet, and that's why relationships will always be a "problem".  

If you're ready to learn what they are, watch this training

Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BECOME "TRIGGER PROOF?"

Trigger proof does NOT mean Trigger LESS. 

(read that again).

We teach what we most needed to learn.
And you can't learn how to regulate your nervous system in a therapist's office.
The work of expanding the space between stimulus and response is NOT easy,

and no one ELSE can do it for you.

It's the work of breaking Cycles of Inter generational Trauma that didn't begin with you.
 
In case you didn't notice,
your parents were completely powerless and unconscious themselves
and passed it down to you.

It's unfortunate, but here we are. 
What now?

Well, the truth is we are faced with an epidemic of toxic and volatile relationships and family dynamics
simply because people don't take the time to look inside and take responsibility for regulating

what their volatile emotions are all about.

We end up having family dynamics where disconnection happens.

In those milliseconds of time and space-- families are destroyed, relationships break down, and we suffer anxiety in epidemic numbers. 

The collective is suffering.

The only way out is by each person raising their hand and committing to becoming a
#Cyclebreaker and expanding that space so that we are no longer run by the past unresolved wounding.

When you do, you go from unconscious, to conscious.
As that space between stimulus and response widens,
our reactivity turns to responsibility and we can single handedly shift the outcome of an entire generation. 

When we do— we can repair after conflicts and take ownership rather than play the victim.

I do this work so my son can experience feeling love that's not conditional upon performing,
obeying, and choosing a path that's outside of his own inner guidance.

When we do the work it takes to become Trigger Proof,
we create a life of our own design rather than what we think was "expected" of us.
Are you ready to break the cycle?

Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

WHY MEN "HATE" DOING THE WORK | CLIENT TESTIMONIAL

I used to think that “men don’t do work” on healing their emotions.

This is the messaging many of us unconsciously receive growing up.
Ask yourself this:

Did you experience your father expressing HIS emotions in a healthy way?
Did you experience your father validating YOUR emotions in a healthy way growing up?

What was your experience like?

Only 3 years ago I made a startling discovery that rocked my entire world:

MEN TREAT THEMSELVES WITH THE SAME LEVEL OF RESPECT
THAT THEIR FATHER’S TREATED THEM.

And this includes our relationship with our own emotions. 

We learn to father ourselves the way we were fathered….

This will include the good, the bad, and the ugly.

Without examining this and making conscious changes,
our relationships begin to falter,
anxiety creeps in,
and our relationship with our children begins to reflect
the relationship we had with our parents.

Trevor Turnbull is a dear friend of mine who helped me
at a time when I had to re-calibrate my entire business
after my last breakup. 

I took time off to heal and practice the Nervous system Regulation
 tools I teach today, and had the opportunity to help him
and his wife and partner get back into alignment. 

He showed up on our last “Breathwork and Badassery” event,
to go deeper with his practice…

and he had a chance to share how bad he felt he “sucked” at doing the work.
But he kept at it.
Stayed the course.
One foot in front of the other,

Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

like learning a new language, 
and both his life, and my life are COMPLETELY different now. 

This is a note for the men who are being stuck in resistance.   
We see you, and get you. 

I see you wanting to move forward. 

If this resonates, step in and join us as next event is about Healing (with)  the Masculine. 
(Link: https://go.drnima.com/bbvw?sl=youtube)
And tag/share this with a friend or partner who needs to see it. 

You CAN learn how to rewire your past. 
You DO NOT need to be run by it.  

Men all over the world are stepping up, 
and taking responsibility. 

If you’re frustrated with the progress of your healing journey,
you’re not alone.

If you’ve struggled with anxiety, addictions, relationship disconnection,
chronic health issues, and fatigue,
you’ve likely tried the psycho-pharmaceutical route,
based on receiving a diagnosis for a condition
that is likely routed in Childhood Trauma.

And if you’re practicing “mindfulness,” yoga, breathing techniques,
and talk Therapies and personal development seminars
I ACKNOWLEDGE AND APPLAUD YOU for your commitment
to your well-being.

The problem is…
most of the current modalities for healing are only “coping” strategies.

I realized this 2 years ago. 
Instead of “healing,” I was using them to cope with unresolved pain
from childhood that I didn’t even know were there,
but showed up in my behaviour and body. 

To heal, I had to go deeper, where I had been avoiding.
When I did,
I was able to release decades of pain that was at the root of the anxiety
that took hold of my life.
I was able to become a safe container where secure relationships could thrive,
where as before I was showing up as "Insecure avoidant" attached in my romantic relationships—
now I’m married and a father to our beautiful son, Dominic.

If you were like me,  previously finding solace by escaping into your mind
“learning” lots but stuck in the same patterns,
relationships not working,
zero concept of what “intimacy” is,

You’d be doing your Nervous System a huge favor
by jumping into our next live event to begin the sacred practice
of returning back to the “you” that you abandoned
to belong.
to feel safe.
to feel accepted. 

And learn how to get out of the endless loops in your head,
and practice the ONE PLACE you’ve left behind:

Your body.

It will terrify you.
And you’ll be grateful you did it.
See you at the next perfect time.

Watch the video to learn more.

Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:

Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.

There’s a lie they don’t tell you about in the “positive psychology”
“Good vibes only” “feel good" circles. 

It’s not because they’re deliberately lying to you.
I don’t even think it’s conscious.

Please understand, I’m not bagging on happiness.

It’s a blind spot. 

I’m saying that if you put an expectation on yourself to feel a certain way (happy/positive)
then there is a good chance you’re setting yourself up to fail
when you’ve been through a challenging time that has caused
your nervous system to go into "protection mode”. 

In that state of protection, we don’t feel good. 
We’re not supposed to. 

If we don’t learn the mechanisms of how our Nervous System operates,
and how to become active operators of it,
we run the risk of judging, abandoning, blaming, and shaming ourselves
for NORMAL ADAPTIVE RESPONSES.

If you caught your partner cheating,
and you are dealing with the grief of potentially losing,
AS WELL AS having  your childhood abandonment wounds triggered,
not SUPPOSED TO FEEL HAPPY.
You’re SUPPOSED TO FEEL FROZEN, ANGRY, OR SHUT DOWN.

Positive thinking is what one would do to BYPASS the pain.
But that won’t help you,
as your attachment wounds are still undressed.

To heal, we must abandon the notion of positive thinking,
and learn the skills of meeting ourselves exactly where we are at,
and mastering how to actively operate our Nervous Systems from a body based level,
and guide ourselves back to safety.
Back to meaning.
To something purposeful, which brings a state of SATISFACTION.

When we do, we become more resilient.
When we do, the exhausting masks we wear come off,
and energy levels rise, and we feel less anxious.

Embracing our shadows not only helps us become more authentic,
but it gives us power and confidence as well,
Which form the building blocks to creating secure relationships.

If you’re ready to learn how to take off the "positive thinking” and “pleasing" mask and
show up as the REAL you that you lost when you were trying to follow the “good vibes only” train,
and learn how to use this awareness to create and maintain secure relationships,
join us at our next event.

Your fully-integrated self awaits.

Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

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Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

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