Trigger Proof Transmissions

This is the topic I get the most hate for talking about.

So I’m going to request you pause and reflect before reacting to this.

And especially after you watch the video.

I’ve been a primary care practitioner for over 20 years now as a Doctor of Chiropractic,

helping hundreds if not thousands on their healing journey and I know with certainty

what keeps people stuck and NOT healing.

The way we respond to this topic is telling of where we are at in our healing journey.

I’m talking about Victimhood Identity.

Victimhood identity is a dark force in the human shadow

that gets passed down from generation to generation.

It’s entangled within our relationship to “power”.

That experience of being helpless,

powerless and ashamed is not a fun place to be.

No matter who you are— man, woman, white, or a person of color,

we have ALL experienced those feelings when we relate to others.

It’s universal. Even white men experience it EVEN THOUGH THEY SHOULDN’T!!

(I’m kidding)

When someone judges you,

shames you,

blames you,

criticizes you,

cheats on you,

or is abusive to you—

in that moment freeze-framed in time,

you can easily argue that there is a victim— and a villain/perpetrator in the dynamic.

When you freeze that scene, anyone can see it and no one will argue with that narrative.

But the problem is— too many people in the world of healing from relationship conflict GET STUCK THERE.

Then they go to counsellors and therapists that all too often keep replaying that narrative,

validating one side of the story,

making one person the victim, and the other the villain…

Which is great for a momentary feeling of validation…

but TERRIBLE for your healing journey if repeated years down the road.

Because you’ll take that one sided narrative (as the victim)

to your next relationship — and attract someone who wants to rescue you.

Allow me to explain:

VICTIMS ATTRACT RESCUERS/SAVIORS.

And rescuers are all too often those of us who have low self worth,

looking for wounded birds to fix— so we can feel good about ourselves.

That was me. My ex was a deeply wounded bird.

And deep down the motive of the rescuer (me)

who has an unconscious Savior/God complex hidden in their shadows,

is to feel grandiose and important. (hello— Narcissism?)

Eventually the savior fails— because quite frankly no one can rescue us but us.

And when the savior fails, feeling used, resentful, overwhelmed as I did,

the rescuer bails, or gets reactive from feeling victimized by the victim—

which I did.

then turns into the next perpetrator in line for the victim, with abuse or abandonment.

Can you see how this triangle perpetuates itself?

HOW DO YOU BREAK THIS NASTY CYCLE?

In a society that has gone awry with celebrating victimhood,

we need to first recognize that our victimhood identity

from something that happened years ago,

STILL calling yourself a “survivor”

you’re literally giving your power away by identifying with an illness or a person

you’re unconsciously pedestalizing.

You literally can’t win by staying there.

The way you win?

See where you YOURSELF were also the “bad guy”.

You heard me right.

Only by owning where WE were the villain/perpetrator,

can we then overcome the victimhood identity narrative

that keeps us sick, stressed, powerless and helpless.

I know you want to feel powerful,

free from resentment, guilt and shame,

and I know you’re here because you want to create a foundation for love that is secure.

That’s why I am inspired to show those who are ready to break this nasty cycle,

not to invalidate the pain you’ve gone through,

but to help those who are ready to turn that pain into fuel for their healing and growth.

When you do, you lay the groundwork to be a force of mutual connection

instead of being a perfect storm for a trauma bond to thrive.

Going from victim identity to a compassionate identity is CRITICAL to

expanding into the world instead of shrinking.

Ask yourself,

“Where am I holding onto resentment towards someone in my life?”

That’s where your freedom is…

freedom from your illness,

freedom from your past resentment towards an abusive

mother/father or ex,

freedom from the guilt and shame.

the biggest obstacle is confronting the identity you’ve been holding onto

to make sense of your reality. Who would you be without the story?

The answer is: A powerful, healed, self-actualized secure human being.

That’s who.

Your healing awaits.

Your wingman on the adventure,

Dr. Nima
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships
https://drnima.com/lp/should-i-stay-or-go/?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.
https://go.drnima.com/oevw?sl=transistor-podcast

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)
https://drnima.com/discovery/application/?sl=transistor-podcast

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproof

Are you on Telegram? Click link below to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.
https://t.me/joinchat/TPQjyH2MCBKHonIR

Digestive issues

Inflammatory Bowel

Auto-immune disorders

Chronic Anxiety and Depression

What an exhausting merry-go-round with doctors to heal from these.

The truth is— an MD can’t do anything to help you with those, besides prescribe medication, and I know you are looking for other answers. 

That’s why I am doing this training. 

There’s a reason why you’re not healing, and it’s not your fault.

And it’s not your MD’s fault either, because they don’t know 

about how to help you with 3 blind spots that almost everyone 

with Chronic illness/pain/fatigue overlooks— and I’m speaking from the experience of a 20 year career as a primary care practitioner. 

When I discovered this, I decided to leave my practice. 

Getting these 3 blind spots is CRITICAL to your healing.

You’d think that EVERYONE would want to learn this and take part, 

but sadly that’s not the case, and that’s because of blind spot #1. 

I cover the rest on this transmission. 

Not learning this keeps you on the chronic pain/illness/fatigue merry go round. 

When you get this right, your health, vibrance, and vitality emerges NATURALLY as a bi-product. 

The contents of this training might surprise you.
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships
https://drnima.com/lp/should-i-stay-or-go/?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.
https://go.drnima.com/oevw?sl=transistor-podcast

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)
https://drnima.com/discovery/application/?sl=transistor-podcast

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproof

Are you on Telegram? Click link below to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.
https://t.me/joinchat/TPQjyH2MCBKHonIR

what’s your style of arguing during a rupture (aka, conflict)?

This is the first thing I want to understand when I’m helping someone in distress
stuck in a “should I stay or go” situation. 

The love is there, 
there’s so much to be grateful for, 
there are often kids involved, 
but the way people fight is not conducive to a healthy dynamic,
and the worst thing about it is when the kids are standing there,
watching and learning — the exact same way YOU DID when you were a child 
watching your parents as they navigated a rupture/conflict between them.

You are likely someone who values personal growth, 
leadership, expansion and responsibility— and NOT wanting to remain in a victim story.

But once you’re triggered in conflict, 
and stuck in a rupture you’re ill-equipped to repair from, 
you’ll fall back into patterns that were implanted 
since you were little. 

None of this is your fault. 
If you want to blame anyone— blame your family and societal conditioning. 

Ruptures and disagreement aren’t something you actually learned how to navigate.
So if you’re like MOST people, 

your system has very little capacity for ruptures and disagreement.

This was me in my last relationship. 

We were in a Trauma Bond, so we got off on the rupture repair process—
which was intensified by make-up sex.

Which feels awesome during those moments— 
But at what cost?

- Sleepless nights
- Constantly on high alert
- Depression and needing out of the situation, but feeling powerless to move
- Wondering if secure love is possible for you
- Self Hate, low self worth
- Constant resentment 
- Health takes a down-turn (digestive and auto-immune) 

If you’re resonating with all of this and feeling a sense of immense shame, 
don’t beat yourself up. 

I know exactly what that’s like. 

You’re not a bad person— and you’re not broken.

You simply haven’t learned how to repair through conflict —
in such a way that the intimacy deepens. 

You haven’t learned how to become Trigger-Proof. 

When you do— you can go through the discomfort of a rupture 
without people pleasing and fawning while simultaneously 
communicating your boundaries in a way that your partner
feels understood and appreciated.

When you do, the polarity is restored and magnetism arises.

And the repair doesn’t spin you into another cycle of love-bombing/honeymoon phase either…
It’s far more grounded and stable than that.

I know if you’re reading this, you probably hate that merry-go round, 
wondering if you should leave the relationship,
endless talk therapy sessions that try to validate your story, 
books and courses on communication that don’t address what arises in your biology when you’re in a rupture,
wishing that they “fix their issues” so you can have a happy relationship…

that’s why the focus of my work is 100% on what YOU CAN DO ON YOUR SIDE OF THE STREET
that helps you become a MASTER of repair….

First with yourself…
then with the other. 

Take a moment and imagine the confidence that emerges when you know you have mastered that. 
If you stand for a healed family system,
to move into compassion from all the resentment and bitterness,
so that you can finally break the cycle that didn’t start with you,
and you can either magnetize a relationship with someone willing to work WITH you,
or deepen your magnetism so that your partner will rise to meet you there, 
because they respect and cherish who you have become to the point they don’t want to lose you.

A rising tide lifts all boats. 

And you know that. 

Master your capacity to repair from a rupture, 
and every single relationship in your life changes for the better.

Your wingman on the adventure, 
standing for healed families. 

Nima
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships
https://drnima.com/lp/should-i-stay-or-go/?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.
https://go.drnima.com/oevw?sl=transistor-podcast

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)
https://drnima.com/discovery/application/?sl=transistor-podcast

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproof

Are you on Telegram? Click link below to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.
https://t.me/joinchat/TPQjyH2MCBKHonIR

Even though you might be successful in your work, 

there’s a reason why your relationships can’t seem to get past 

the point where you’re now having sex— and then things start to go awry. 

The reason is because of a covert addiction many don’t want to acknowledge. 

It’s the reason why it’s so easy to get entrapped in love-bombing.

And it’s not a substance. 

It’s something far more insidious and addictive than that.

Getting to the root of this addiction was how I managed to create a love that is secure and polarized. 

Not getting this right will have you constantly longing for something that simply will never be satisfactory, constantly in push/pull dynamics that resemble a Trauma Bond.

On this transmission I give you 3 specific signs to watch out for to know if you’re being love-bombed.

Remeber, if this video triggers you, be kind to yourself. 

Give yourself a pause.

Take a breath.

Notice the sensations inside of you. 

You’re about to find out what it’s going to take to heal the root cause.

Make sure to be compassionate with yourself.
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)
https://drnima.com/discovery/application/?sl=transistor-podcast

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproof

Are you on Telegram? Click link below to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.
https://t.me/joinchat/TPQjyH2MCBKHonIR

 there’s a fear that is likely stopping you from living to your potential.

Nope, it’s not the fear of death, either.

It’s the fear of being judged critically by others.

In my experience working in the world of helping people in their relationship dynamics,

going from “should I stay or go” relationships,

not resolving this underlying fear is keeping people from executing 

on creating the life they want. 

In love, in sex, and in money.

Since sex and money are the most common arguments between couples,

I thought it would be wise to unpack the root cause of why we get stuck here.

Let’s break it down.

If you have a high value for building wealth because of a poor upbringing,

you’re likely going to be partnering with someone with a different money story than you,

and you’re likely going to be surrounded by them as well.

Our behavior is governed by our values— our priorities— what we deem most important.

And guess where these values come from?

You might be thinking “upbringing” but it goes even deeper.

We get our values from what we perceived to be missing the most.

In other words, our values come from our VOIDS in life.

We seek and value what we are missing the most.

And if something doesn’t align with what a human being values, 

we will have a negative judgment on it.

This is why it’s impossible to please everyone.

and when we live in fear that our lifestyle or what we value will be judged by someone,

just know that’s EXACTLY what’s going to happen.

As Byron Katie says "It’s their JOB to judge you”. 

The real question is— what happens internally when they do?

This is where most of us get stuck in the fantasy that others should approve of our choices.

You might overtly KNOW that’s not true, 

but every time you have a desire— to grow financially, to express yourself sexually, 

to speak your opinion…. 

and you feel like you’re going to be critically judged, 

that fear will stop you, not because of the external judgement.

IT’S BECAUSE OF THE JUDGEMENT YOU’RE MAKING ABOUT YOURSELF.

This is one of hundreds of insights and trainings we discuss with our cyclebreakers 

who are all working to liberate themselves from their past,

Become Trigger-Proof,

and create lives with love, sex, and money that they didn’t have before.

They are all dumbfounded when they realize how much they’ve been living in fear

of the opinions and judgements of others, 

and relieved to get that it’s not the judgements of others that have killed their relationships and life situation,

But the covert fantasies of having everyone agree with them that’s the problem.

Dissolve the fantasy that everyone SHOULD agree with you,

and you’re free. 

I talk about it in this clip of an amazing podcast interview I did with a financial advisor, Hannah Chapman. 

You won’t ever stop human beings from judging.

But you CAN shift your expectation that they SHOULDN’T judge. 

It’s not your fault if you haven’t gotten this yet.

You haven’t likely yet learned the skills to becoming Trigger-Proof.

And when you do, 

you’re free to live the life you want: 

in love, sex, and money.

Your wingman on the adventure,

Nima
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships
https://drnima.com/lp/should-i-stay-or-go/?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.
https://go.drnima.com/oevw?sl=transistor-podcast

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)
https://drnima.com/discovery/application/?sl=transistor-podcast

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproof

Are you on Telegram? Click link below to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.
https://t.me/joinchat/TPQjyH2MCBKHonIR

If you’ve ever wanted to change your relationship,
and your partner wasn’t on board… 

pay close attention.

Constant arguments,
feeling gaslit,
having your emotions invalidated.

When you give feedback— they jump and become defensive and tell you why you’re wrong.

You want to feel seen and heard and understood.

You’ve read all the books and done the podcasts, 
and I am sure you’ve talked to a therapist or counsellor at least once,

But your partner is still like a brick wall.

If you’re going through all of these,
just know it’s not your fault.

There are unconscious forces at play that have brought the two of you together.
Unresolved childhood dynamics intertwining your story,

and you were NEVER given the tools to deal with it.

You didn’t have the awareness to become Trigger-Proof and create conscious polarity.

How could you have?

Look at the relationship of your parents. 
Can you see any pattern here?

Can you see yourself reliving it with your family and children?

Luckily, with a short term plan of learning how to regulate your nervous system, 
and a long term vision of mastering the conflict/repair cycle, 

you won’t have to get anxious about the push-pull dynamic anymore.
You won’t have to settle for breadcrumbs.

You won’t have to go through constantly wondering “should I stay or go?”

Because you’ve learned how to turn conflicts into deeper intimacy.

You’ve learned to love yourself and KNOW your sense of self worth.

When you do— you’re able to leave a shitty situation that isn’t meeting you at the level you know you deserve.

Because we don’t have relationships based on what we desire.
We have relationships based on what we FEEL  WE deserve.

You can’t change a stalemate in a relationship by trying to get the OTHER person to change.

It’s gotta begin internally— and you know it.
When you do, the other person treats you differently as a reflection of how you’re treating yourself differently.

Or, if they don’t, (as I shared in this video warning I made to men who refuse to do the work)
you will have the courage to leave.

Healing work is like weight loss…
Ideally you can get healthier as a couple.

But in reality, you don’t need the other person to do it with you.
It’s your own inner journey where ultimately the reward is feeling safer in your own skin,
no matter what’s happening on the outside.

That’s when the stalemate begins to move forward and you have access to what you truly want.
A secure relationship that has magnetism.

You deserve it.

Your wingman on the adventure,
Nima.
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships
https://drnima.com/lp/should-i-stay-or-go/?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.
https://go.drnima.com/oevw?sl=transistor-podcast

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)
https://drnima.com/discovery/application/?sl=transistor-podcast

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproof

Are you on Telegram? Click link below to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.
https://t.me/joinchat/TPQjyH2MCBKHonIR

“I think I married my mother/father”.
If only I had a nickel for every time I heard this in my DM’s
from people stuck in a “should I stay or go?” situation in their relationships.

I talk to so many people who swear they don’t want to become like their parents,
or they want to find the OPPOSITE of what they experienced,
but mortified to find themselves repeating a similar dynamic.

Freud called this the “repetition compulsion”.

It’s not even conscious.

In the weird cosmic dance of life,
we are pulled to what’s familiar.

There are parts deep inside us that calls for resolution.
For attention.

For completion.

If we don’t, we then get stuck in Trauma Bonds—
which are powerful and addictive entanglements with partners
who feel toxic, exhausting, even abusive…

Not because there’s something wrong with us or them.

But because it’s FAMILIAR.
Familiar = “Like Family”.

In my private Chiropractic practice I would see correlations
between these relationship dynamics and poor health outcomes.

Even though we want healthy relationships,
we don’t have a clue what that would even look like,
because it would be so unfamiliar.
And the worst part is that when we don’t get to the cause of these
dynamics and heal the attachment wound at it’s root,
we then spill that into our children
who end up in the same insecure relationships that we were in.

The good news is that you CAN break the cycle by dismantling
the root of the Trauma Bond:

Learning how to become Trigger-Proof.
Resolving the primary wound and ensuring you know exactly how to
RESPOND (instead of react) every time it gets activated.

The wound is a rupture from the SELF.

Learn to resolve THAT, and the trauma bond heals,
you learn to speak your truth,
share your boundaries in a healthy way,
you tolerate nothing less than being cherished and respected,
the types of people you attract upgrade,
the types of people you’re ATTRACTED TO start to change,

And you learn to connect to your own inner voice, trust, and KNOWING.

One day you realize you’re in a loving, mutual relationship—
not with a child anymore.
And no longer with your parent.

It’s all on the other side of learning the skills of becoming Trigger-Proof.

Your wingman on the adventure,

Nima
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships
https://drnima.com/lp/should-i-stay-or-go/?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.
https://go.drnima.com/oevw?sl=transistor-podcast

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)
https://drnima.com/discovery/application/?sl=transistor-podcast

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproof

Are you on Telegram? Click link below to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.
https://t.me/joinchat/TPQjyH2MCBKHonIR

On this transmission I share the one reason why familes crumble during the holiday season, and by doing this one thing you can transform Insecure (anxious) patterns and turn them into secure ones.

Hint: They’re part of the same issue.

Share in the comments what arises for you.
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships
https://drnima.com/lp/should-i-stay-or-go/?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.
https://go.drnima.com/oevw?sl=transistor-podcast

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)
https://drnima.com/discovery/application/?sl=transistor-podcast

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproof

Are you on Telegram? Click link below to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.
https://t.me/joinchat/TPQjyH2MCBKHonIR

On this training I share why divorces and breakups happen so commonly.

Learning this one skill in conflicts I cover on this video is the foundation of being a secure.

When you get this right, your status rises with your maturity level.

It’s not what you think.
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships
https://drnima.com/lp/should-i-stay-or-go/?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.
https://go.drnima.com/oevw?sl=transistor-podcast

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)
https://drnima.com/discovery/application/?sl=transistor-podcast

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproof

Are you on Telegram? Click link below to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.
https://t.me/joinchat/TPQjyH2MCBKHonIR

Why do you think that 80% of divorce is initiated by women?

If you’ve ever been in a “should I stay or go” situation, 

check this story out.

Frank’s wife Janet said “I’m done. I need you to leave.”

After an infidelity was caught 7 years prior, 

their relationship slowly eroded despite weekly couples therapy sessions.

Finally she felt hopeless and had had enough. 

The difference here was that 

Frank was one of those rare men.

He was willing to do whatever it took. 

He was willing to face his shadows. 

The traditional therapy route had them showing up every single week

arguing over which story was right.

7 years into therapy, the arguments were no longer about the infidelity anymore.

She had lost respect for him,

because he had lost respect for himself.

When a man’s self worth has been wiped away,

he’s reactive, 

gets triggered easily,

and is unable to help his woman through her emotions.

He’s looking to be validated instead of leading her.

And because of this, she’s exhausted.

Exhausted from not feeling seen, 

Exhausted from having to be the one leading the relationship.

The worst part is that even though she has to step up and take the lead,

she just doesn’t want to.

She’s tired of having to be the mother.

In that space obviously it seems that divorce was the only option.

That’s when Frank found a link among dozens he was researching,

and ended up showing up to The Overview Experience.

After the 6 hour deep dive was over I remember him making a comment in the chat box 

saying “For the first time in years, I have a glimmer of hope”.

He realized that all the years of talk therapy didn’t teach him 

thefundamental skills REQUIRED to ensure a secure relationship can thrive.

And that wasn’t his fault. 

He realized that he didn’t need therapy. 

He needed training.

Becoming Trigger-Proof was what he committed to.

Within a few months— his wife saw a change in him that she never saw before.

He wasn’t reacting the way he used to.

He was able to regulate himself when he was irritated.

The fact that he became irritated with her was a MAJOR cause of dysregulation for her,

because it reminded her of when she was younger and her father would get irritated.

Because of his shift— next thing I know— I see Janet at one of my Overview Experience Zoom Retreats.

She had to figure out what he was learning.

Fast forward to today— Both Frank and Janet STILL get triggered with one another (like all couples do).

They STILL have conflict.

But they know how to repair. 

They both know how to take responsibility.

And as a result they are teaching their children how to navigate their emotions and conflict as well,

thereby breaking the cycle of toxic trauma bonds from passing to the innocent next generation. 

Frank was able to prevent himself from being another statistic of the 80% that would have his wife initiate divorce.

Becoming Trigger-Proof is not for the faint of heart.

Most would rather remain victims.

Most say they are “too busy” to learn.

Most wouldn’t open up the space and time to learn these skills.

And they would then sit back and witness their relationships keep eroding— 

and instead of their marriages being a “fortress for well-being”,

it feels more like a sandcastle in a hurricane.

on December 16th our Cyclebreakers community is doing a special Overview Experience event,

and I’m taking 10 couples in distress who are committed to breaking the toxic cycle they learned from their family system…

10 couples who want to be an example for their children.

10 couples who are tired of having their home feel like a battlefield 

and I’m going to be teaching them how to turn that home into a sanctuary.

10 couples who know they DESERVE to thrive in a safe and connected home,

mastering the art of conflict and repair,

so they can grow in intimacy instead of withering away into complacency, resentment, blame, and disconnection—

and prevent a divorce which can be traumatic and costly to everyone involved.

If you’re ready to open up the space and time to heal,

join us and master the art of repairing ruptures and creating intimacy.

Your wingman on the adventure,

Nima
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships
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