True North with Abby & Ryan

5:43 - Ryan's peeing-in-the-car story

10:35 - Ryan talks about his Spirit-guided trip down memory lane

24:34 - More about Rayron. Ryan repeats a story he already told in the last episode 🤦‍♂️, and I just realized I can use emojis in these! 😬😳😆🤯🤩🥰🥳

31:49 - Living in the past, present, and/or future

40:20 - Abby tells Ryan why his Guide actually took him down memory lane.

46:04 - Ryan formally resigns from job-hunting.

Also, 🐼🥔🍟🚽🐨☎️🐢🖼🍩🚘🐃🧜‍♀️🐉🥧

That's a pie.

It's late and I'm delirious. Shhh.

8:03 - What's new with Abby? Riding a high from a healthy dose of purpose-filled experiences and interactions. Yay Abby!

• 12:38 - The actual quote is, "If you want to bring happiness to the world, help someone else. If you want to bring happiness to yourself, help someone else." And it wasn't the Dalai Lama.
• 13:16 - Simplicity in a Complex World: Charley Johnson @ TEDxSMU: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rugSZIFY7mc
• 14:40 - Why don't people make lifestyle changes they believe would improve their lives?

18:52 - What's new with Ryan? Unemployment: get a job, spread your wings, clean the house.

• 24:56 - How do you snap out of the downward spiral of negative self talk?
• 31:46 - Yoga as a teacher
• 42:06 - Abby says some gooooood shit.
• 46:30 - Connecting with yourself as a prerequisite to connecting with others

Core Takeaway: when you lose yourself in negative self talk and get spun up in stories about your circumstances, come back to the present and have compassion on yourself.

1:38 - Abby talks about why she's angry at herself, and what self-compassion might look like.

9:26 - Figment (Abby's challenging inner self) is male. Ryan inquires as to why.

17:10 - Pathways to Compassion

• Abby: Hysterectomy
• Ryan: Disconnection

38:33 - We judge people when they reflect parts of us we despise.

45:47 - We don't react to people as they are; we react to the parts of us we see in them.

50:18 - Ryan's 2020 Truths to Live By:

1. Own Your Choices.
2. You Always Have a Choice.

Core Takeaways:

• Be aware of your interiors - recognize why you react the way you do, and be curious about where that reaction really came from. (hint: it's within you)
• Compassion for those it's hardest to love begins with compassion for the parts of you that are easiest to hate.

0:00 - Abby & Ryan revise their cover art using a rubber stamp.

5:16 - Ryan's revelation about his sciatic pain: crying, exercise, energy healing.

33:49 - Abby & Ryan continue debriefing the Pilot.

40:42 - Abby's reflections on how she shows up in relationships, and why.

Core takeaways:

• Give your emotions expression
• Get curious about them - why they're coming up now, and where they come from
• Ask yourself if you really need to be in control of the things you're trying to control
• Move your body!

Skip the Recap: 1:37

3:36 - Exercise as a means to process emotions.

• 3:52 - Backstory on Ryan's Spirit Guide
• 9:58 - Ryan's Guide wants him to exercise.
• 11:23 - Abby tells Ryan why. #SpiritGuideInterpreter
• 16:19 - Ryan is barricading himself against his emotions Hodor-style.
• 17:06 - RYAN BLOWS ABBY'S MIND
• 21:18 - Focus on making progress, not the amount of progress you've made.

23:32 - Abby & Ryan pick apart Ryan's bullshit.

• 24:24 - Living as your Essential Self.
• 25:29 - The issues with following your True North while still functioning in society

30:23 - Ryan loses his SHIT.

• 30:54 - Backstory on the Wayfinder Collective
• 32:36 - (it was actually Freedom to Doubt, a Forum to tell their Stories, and a Framework for Moving Forward)

37:34 - On Being a Self

• 39:29 - On Souls and Bodies
• 43:15 - Abby mentions the Body Compass but doesn't actually talk about it. Again.
• 44:46 - On Taking Out the Trash
• 47:35 - On Minds and Bodies

Footnotes:
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3:04 - Introductions! Abby & Ryan discover neither of them knows what they do, and talk about what this show is. Sort of.

7:38 - The actual beginning of the episode

15:09 - Abby & Ryan discuss Ryan's issues around wanting to use recordings of his dead dad's voice to create new content.

• 20:35 - It was actually episode 382 of 99% Invisible, not RadioLab.
• 26:00 - The "shout whisper"
• 28:22 - ABBY BLOWS RYAN'S FREAKING MIND
• 28:31 - Ryan talks about the Lion King. His son's name is Brix.

32:31 - Abby encourages Ryan to fake courage until he makes courage.

• 32:52 - "Be James Bond."
• 33:54 - "You are already all the things you're trying to become."

34:50 - Rayron, the Protector of Ego

• 38:37 - "Familiarity = Safety." -Lizard Brain

39:59 - Abby says thoughts don't exist.

• Abby is reading No Self, No Problem: How Neuropsychology is Catching Up to Buddhism by Chris Niebauer
• 41:00 - Insert 🤯 while Ryan tries to wrap his mind around the concept of thoughts not being a thing.
• 44:04 - Suffering as a prerequisite to Joy
• 46:20 - Abby's animal sound!
• 46:46 - No Mind = All Feels. Is that a good place to be?
• 48:50 - Event, Emotion, Thought, Behavior
• 50:22 - Ryan does Cognitive Behavioral Therapy on himself.

53:05 - Ryan's mind is blown for the third time.

• 54:27 - Healing others by healing the self