Two Bi Guys

Welcome back to this special series on bisexual men who are married to women! This week I interviewed Charles, another subject in my new oral history book, Bisexual Married Men: Stories of Relationships, Acceptance, and Authenticity – out now! Charles' story is unique and layered, but it also features common threads that many Bi+ men have experienced – though we often feel like we’re alone.

There are 13 minutes of bonus content with Charles only on my Patreon -- enjoy! (Note: there is no video of Charles for this episode.)

Stay tuned for more interviews with Bi+ married men weekly in December! Thanks for listening and supporting my work.

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My book, "Bisexual Married Men: Stories of Relationships, Acceptance, & Authenticity" is available now! I hosted two book launch parties last week to celebrate, share stories, and build community, and I'm so excited for everyone to read the book. In this episode, I give a brief recap of the launch events, and then you'll hear the last 50 minutes from the Zoom launch party, which includes a panel discussion with subjects from the book (Keith & Candice aka Evan & Linsday, Austin aka Quentin, and Howard & Elizabeth aka Stanley & Christine) plus an audience Q&A and some personal sharing.

I'll be back soon with more interviews in the Bi+ married men series!

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Find more information about the book: https://www.robertbrookscohen.com/bisexualmarriedmen

Welcome back to this special series on bisexual men who are married to women! This week I interviewed a couple, Keith and Candice Parnell, both subjects in my new oral history book, Bisexual Married Men: Stories of Relationships, Acceptance, and Authenticity – out November 30 and currently available to pre-order. Keith & Candice's story is unique and layered (and different from most in the book, since it includes both partners!), but it also features common threads that many Bi+ men and mixed-orientation couples have experienced – though we often feel like we’re alone.

There are over 35 minutes of bonus content with Keith & Candice exclusively on Patreon, as well as FULL LENGTH VIDEO of this entire interview, so you can see us as well as hear us! Subscribe below – and thanks for your support! www.Patreon.com/RobertBrooksCohen

Stay tuned for more interviews with Bi+ married men (coming back after Thanksgiving) weekly in December! Thanks for listening and supporting my work.

Preorder “Bisexual Married Men”: https://www.routledge.com/Bisexual-Married-Men-Stories-of-Relationships-Acceptance-and-Authenticity/Cohen/p/book/9781032473260

Visit Keith & Candice's support website for mixed-orientation relationships: https://www.morandmore.org/

Welcome back to this special series on bisexual men who are married to women! This week I interviewed Timothy Babulski, one of the subjects in my new oral history book, Bisexual Married Men: Stories of Relationships, Acceptance, and Authenticity – out November 30 and currently available to pre-order. Timothy's story is unique and layered, but it also features common threads that many Bi+ men have experienced – though we often feel like we’re alone.

There are 18 minutes of bonus content with Timothy exclusively on Patreon, as well as FULL LENGTH VIDEO of this entire interview, so you can see us as well as hear us! Subscribe below – and thanks for your support! www.Patreon.com/RobertBrooksCohen

Stay tuned for more interviews with Bi+ married men, weekly throughout November and December! Thanks for listening and supporting my work.

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Preorder “Bisexual Married Men”: https://www.routledge.com/Bisexual-Married-Men-Stories-of-Relationships-Acceptance-and-Authenticity/Cohen/p/book/9781032473260

Welcome to this special series on bisexual men who are married to women! This week I interviewed André T. Short, one of the subjects in my new oral history book, “Bisexual Married Men: Stories of Relationships, Acceptance, and Authenticity” – out November 30 and currently available to pre-order. André’s story is unique and layered, but it also features common threads that many Bi+ men have experienced – though we often feel like we’re alone.

There are 15 minutes of bonus content with André exclusively on Patreon, as well as FULL LENGTH VIDEO of this entire interview, so you can see us as well as hear us! Subscribe below – and thanks for your support! www.Patreon.com/RobertBrooksCohen

Stay tuned for more interviews with Bi+ married men, weekly throughout November and December! Thanks for listening and supporting my work.

Preorder “Bisexual Married Men”: https://www.routledge.com/Bisexual-Married-Men-Stories-of-Relationships-Acceptance-and-Authenticity/Cohen/p/book/9781032473260

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Surprise episode! My first book, "Bisexual Married Men: Stories of Relationships, Acceptance, & Authenticity" comes out in exactly one month on November 30, 2023! In anticipation and to add context to the oral histories in the book, I'm doing a miniseries on Bi+ married men, interviewing subjects from the book (beginning next week). In this episode, I give an overview of the book, explain why I focused this project on Bi+ men who are married to women, and talked about six key take-aways that I observed. There's no bonus content for this episode, but there is a new experiment on my Patreon: VIDEO! Thanks for listening and supporting my work.

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I'm so excited for this episode, and I think you will love it, too! I finally got to interview Eliot Schrefer, author of "Queer Ducks (And Other Animals): The Natural World of Animal Sexuality", after picking up his book almost a year ago. The book focuses on scientific research into queerness in animals, which is much more common than most people think. Because sexuality has been viewed as so binary for many decades, scientists often observed same-sex sexual activity between animals and then labeled them as "gay", leading to arguments of animal homosexuality as an evolutionary byproduct, a mutation, a mistake, or a mystery. But the more these animals are studied, the more scientists are realizing that there are very few "gay" animals -- most of them are actually bisexual.

In this interview, we discussed how that plays out, why bisexuality can actually be evolutionarily advantageous (the "bisexual advantage"), how different species have sex for different reasons and with different results, the complex social structures among different animals groups and how sex affects them, how certain animal behaviors can be instructive for humans, the concept of animals having queer sex without having or needing a queer "identity", why it's challenging to do and publish research about animal queerness, and how all of this information has affected Eliot's queer journey -- and what he hopes this knowledge can do for the next generation.

Check out my Patreon for 20 extra minutes of bonus content in which we chatted about animals that defy the gender binary (not necessarily "trans" animals, because we can't ask them about their identity, but intersex animals and specific species that have to ability to change from male-to-female or female-to-male) as well as animals that have sexual or familial bonds that reflect our concept of polyamory as opposed to monogamy. In a human culture where queerness, gender fluidity, and polyamory are often stigmatized as "unnatural", these animals prove otherwise.

Thanks for listening!

Visit Eliot's website: https://www.eliotschrefer.com/

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Episode art photo credit: Matt Wilson

For this episode I was so excited to welcome back season 4 guest Benjamin Perry, a Minister at Middle Church in NYC, to discuss his new book, "Cry, Baby: Why Our Tears Matter"! I loved Ben's book, and we had a fascinating chat about crying and how it relates to queerness and queer liberation.

We discussed Ben's realization that he hadn't cried in years and had to teach himself how again (and how this was related to coming out as bisexual), the science of tears and the latest research on crying, how crying affects our social development and connections with other people, how we change when we cry, why our culture values NOT crying and what happens when we suppress tears, why men cry less than women and how expressing authentic emotions often conflicts with traditional masculinity (and how to overcome that), why tears are and have historically been important for the queer community,  and why crying is necessary to build a better society.

There are 15 minutes of bonus material available on Patreon in which we dove deeper into the intersection of crying and queerness (as well as other intersections), discussed how "crocodile tears" can be weaponized to cause harm, and learned why we should believe people when they cry -- even if their reasoning is unsound. Subscribe here: https://www.patreon.com/robertbrookscohen

You can buy Ben's book here: https://www.broadleafbooks.com/store/product/9781506485119/Cry-Baby

And follow Ben on X here: https://twitter.com/FaithfullyBP

Thanks for listening!

Bi+ people tend to look at gender differently than most, and many of us are working toward more gender equality, especially in romantic partnerships. That's why this week I'm excited to share my interview with Dr. Kate Mangino, a gender expert whose debut book, "Equal Partners: Improving Gender Equality at Home", looks at gender imbalances in our personal lives and what we can do about it.

We chatted about the current landscape of domestic equality, how couples often split physical and emotional/cognitive labor, why women more often than not bear the brunt of the workload, how same-gender couples sometimes divide responsibilities differently (often because they are forced to write new scripts for themselves), how inequality can hurt men even (or especially) if they're doing "less work", what causes certain people to reflect on gender roles while others never think twice, what true equal partnerships look like (hint: equal responsibilities are not necessarily identical responsibilities), how to get there with your partner through communication, routines, and community support, how to raise kids who will grow up wanting to be equal partners themselves, and what to do when you WANT to fall into gendered roles sometimes.

In bonus material on Patreon, we continued talking about balancing gender parity with individual strengths and weaknesses, the importance of community in supporting equal partnerships, and how to actually find a partner who wants equality in relationships. Head to Patreon.com/RobertBrooksCohen to listen! (You'll also get EARLY ACCESS to AD-FREE episodes!)

Follow Kate on Twitter: https://twitter.com/ManginoKate

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Vaneet is back, and since his last visit to Two Bi Guys, he wrote his first book, "Bisexual Men Exist: A Handbook for Bisexual, Pansexual and M-Spec Men" -- available now wherever books are sold! We chatted about the process of researching, writing, and promoting his book before diving into its contents: Bi+ representation in media, coming out, dating and relationships, M-Spec intersectionality, what "M-Spec" means and why Vaneet wanted to use an "agnostic" term like that in his book's title, how queerness crosses over between sexuality and gender, how to find pride in a Bi+ or M-Spec identity, and much, much more.

If you've listened to this podcast before, you probably already believe that Bi+ men exist, but in Vaneet's book, this is the BEGINNING of the conversation, not the ultimate message. We exist, AND once we get beyond convincing people of this basic truth, there's so much more to discuss and learn about our community. Listen for an in-depth, free-flowing, true Bi+ 2.0 conversation, featuring two bi guys!

There are over 25 minutes of bonus content with Vaneet on my new Patreon -- we chatted more about dating and the huge variety of relationship styles among the Bi+ community, why certain relationships can be considered a success even if they eventually end, Bi+ invisibility in mental and sexual health research, intersectionality with a focus on the asexual and aromantic spectrums, and more about the challenges of writing Bi+ books in general and what we’d like to see more of in the Bi+ activist space. Subscribe here: www.Patreon.com/RobertBrooksCohen

Thanks for listening!

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