Two Open Doors

In several prior episodes, such as in Episode 2-18 titled “The Mystery of Compatibility”, we’ve delved into the multitude of factors that play into whether two individuals are a good “fit” for one another, in a given kind of relationship.  We’ve noted that personality, personal history, and the circumstances in which people meet are all factors that affect degree of compatibility.

In this episode, we’ll give further consideration to what one can do, in assessing the likelihood of a mutually-satisfying deep connection with a new relationship prospect.   Obviously, that sort of assessment is at least as much art as science--- but there are things we can do to increase our chances of success in creating a fulfilling new connection.

Dr. Claude Cruz is a relationship and intimacy coach based in the Portland, OR area. He holds a PhD in Human Sexuality from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality (IASHS), as well as a Professional Sex Coach certification from Sex Coach U. Dr. Claude is passionate about promoting and supporting deep human connection. He develops and delivers workshops and other events regarding that topic, as well as being available for individual and couples intimacy coaching. He can be contacted at [email protected].

This weekly podcast is distributed through multiple podcast directories, including:
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We can distinguish different levels of connection between people.  We all interact with acquaintances in our daily life; these are basically people with whom we have no substantial or ongoing connection.  We also are fortunate to have friends, or people with whom we share companionship, discussion and camaraderie, and life-adventures.

In this episode, we’ll consider a third category of people:  partners.  We’ll consider what distinguishes partners from acquaintances and friends.  We’ll also explore how different people choose the partners with whom they wish to share their lives in a deep way.

Dr. Claude Cruz is a relationship and intimacy coach based in the Portland, OR area. He holds a PhD in Human Sexuality from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality (IASHS), as well as a Professional Sex Coach certification from Sex Coach U. Dr. Claude is passionate about promoting and supporting deep human connection. He develops and delivers workshops and other events regarding that topic, as well as being available for individual and couples intimacy coaching. He can be contacted at [email protected].

This weekly podcast is distributed through multiple podcast directories, including:
* Apple podcasts: 1588173033 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/two-open-doors/id1588173033
* Google podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/search/two%20open%20doors
* Stitcher: https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/two-open-doors
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* iHeart Radio: · https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-two-open-doors-86831925/

As we’ve noted in prior episodes, polyamory includes a multitude of specific forms of relationship.  This stands in contrast with monogamy (at least as usually practiced in western cultures), which generally comes with one associated set of social norms and expectations regarding partner behavior.

In this episode, we’ll examine a particular style of polyamory called “solo” polyamory, and we’ll put that in the context of polyamory in general.

Dr. Claude Cruz is a relationship and intimacy coach based in the Portland, OR area. He holds a PhD in Human Sexuality from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality (IASHS), as well as a Professional Sex Coach certification from Sex Coach U. Dr. Claude is passionate about promoting and supporting deep human connection. He develops and delivers workshops and other events regarding that topic, as well as being available for individual and couples intimacy coaching. He can be contacted at [email protected].

This weekly podcast is distributed through multiple podcast directories, including:
* Apple podcasts: 1588173033 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/two-open-doors/id1588173033
* Google podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/search/two%20open%20doors
* Stitcher: https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/two-open-doors
* Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6ib3hb9vsNoNvWM3HWpEXL
* iHeart Radio: · https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-two-open-doors-86831925/

As we’ve noted in many earlier episodes, safety and respect are the bedrock for healthy relationships.  If a relationship lacks those qualities, one or both participants will almost certainly experience fear, which in turn will drive them to take a closed and defensive stance.

In this episode, we’ll consider how partners can negotiate rules and agreements regarding their conduct, so as to maintain feelings of safety and respect in their relationship.

Dr. Claude Cruz is a relationship and intimacy coach based in the Portland, OR area. He holds a PhD in Human Sexuality from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality (IASHS), as well as a Professional Sex Coach certification from Sex Coach U. Dr. Claude is passionate about promoting and supporting deep human connection. He develops and delivers workshops and other events regarding that topic, as well as being available for individual and couples intimacy coaching. He can be contacted at [email protected].

This weekly podcast is distributed through multiple podcast directories, including:
* Apple podcasts: 1588173033 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/two-open-doors/id1588173033
* Google podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/search/two%20open%20doors
* Stitcher: https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/two-open-doors
* Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6ib3hb9vsNoNvWM3HWpEXL
* iHeart Radio: · https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-two-open-doors-86831925/

In our society, sҽx is often thought of as a physical activity--- a particular set of actions through which people can connect with one another.  From a broader perspective, though, sҽx is a multi-faceted thing that can create connections at the mental, emotional and spiritual levels, as well as at the physical level.

In this episode, we’ll consider these various facets of sҽxual connection, and we’ll also consider what we can do to help us develop our ability to experience sҽx in its fullest expression.

Dr. Claude Cruz is a relationship and intimacy coach based in the Portland, OR area. He holds a PhD in Human Sexuality from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality (IASHS), as well as a Professional Sex Coach certification from Sex Coach U. Dr. Claude is passionate about promoting and supporting deep human connection. He develops and delivers workshops and other events regarding that topic, as well as being available for individual and couples intimacy coaching. He can be contacted at [email protected].

This weekly podcast is distributed through multiple podcast directories, including:
* Apple podcasts: 1588173033 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/two-open-doors/id1588173033
* Google podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/search/two%20open%20doors
* Stitcher: https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/two-open-doors
* Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6ib3hb9vsNoNvWM3HWpEXL
* iHeart Radio: · https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-two-open-doors-86831925/

As the Barbara Streisand song “People Who Need People” suggests, those of us who “need people” in our lives are the “luckiest people in the world”.  We humans are built for community.  We thrive in the presence of others, and can wither if we’re isolated.

In this episode, we’ll explore four broad areas in which we benefit from the company of others:  they provide companionship; they help validate us; they contribute to our growth; and they let us engage in rich social interactions, by providing us with feedback.

Dr. Claude Cruz is a relationship and intimacy coach based in the Portland, OR area. He holds a PhD in Human Sexuality from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality (IASHS), as well as a Professional Sex Coach certification from Sex Coach U. Dr. Claude is passionate about promoting and supporting deep human connection. He develops and delivers workshops and other events regarding that topic, as well as being available for individual and couples intimacy coaching. He can be contacted at [email protected].

This weekly podcast is distributed through multiple podcast directories, including:
* Apple podcasts: 1588173033 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/two-open-doors/id1588173033
* Google podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/search/two%20open%20doors
* Stitcher: https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/two-open-doors
* Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6ib3hb9vsNoNvWM3HWpEXL
* iHeart Radio: · https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-two-open-doors-86831925/

“Love” is a deceptively anodyne and ambiguous term that can mean different things to different people.  Most people value being loved; love makes the world go ‘round. Why is love so highly-prized?  We’ll consider that, in this episode.

Dr. Claude Cruz is a relationship and intimacy coach based in the Portland, OR area. He holds a PhD in Human Sexuality from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality (IASHS), as well as a Professional Sex Coach certification from Sex Coach U. Dr. Claude is passionate about promoting and supporting deep human connection. He develops and delivers workshops and other events regarding that topic, as well as being available for individual and couples intimacy coaching. He can be contacted at [email protected].

This weekly podcast is distributed through multiple podcast directories, including:
* Apple podcasts: 1588173033 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/two-open-doors/id1588173033
* Google podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/search/two%20open%20doors
* Stitcher: https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/two-open-doors
* Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6ib3hb9vsNoNvWM3HWpEXL
* iHeart Radio: · https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-two-open-doors-86831925/

As the saying goes, “time wounds all heels”.  Getting older is one of those inevitable realities in life; it comes with a welter of challenges and issues--- as well as with benefits.  In this episode, we’ll consider what those include, and how advancing age affects the intimate connections in our lives.  As we’ll see, the picture isn’t nearly as bleak as how some people see aging.

Dr. Claude Cruz is a relationship and intimacy coach based in the Portland, OR area. He holds a PhD in Human Sexuality from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality (IASHS), as well as a Professional Sex Coach certification from Sex Coach U. Dr. Claude is passionate about promoting and supporting deep human connection. He develops and delivers workshops and other events regarding that topic, as well as being available for individual and couples intimacy coaching. He can be contacted at [email protected].

This weekly podcast is distributed through multiple podcast directories, including:
* Apple podcasts: 1588173033 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/two-open-doors/id1588173033
* Google podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/search/two%20open%20doors
* Stitcher: https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/two-open-doors
* Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6ib3hb9vsNoNvWM3HWpEXL
* iHeart Radio: · https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-two-open-doors-86831925/

In our previous episode on Traits to Nurture Relationship, we explored some of the personal traits that can promote or hinder the maintenance of healthy deeply-connected relationships.  We considered how those traits can affect attitudes toward and beliefs about their partner, and how those attitudes and beliefs can play out in how a person treats their partner.
 
 In that episode, we delved deeper into relationship-relevant personal traits.  In this episode, we’ll go deeper into some personal attitudes and beliefs that affect one’s relationships, and we’ll also consider how one’s treatment of a partner can play into relationship success.

Dr. Claude Cruz is a relationship and intimacy coach based in the Portland, OR area. He holds a PhD in Human Sexuality from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality (IASHS), as well as a Professional Sex Coach certification from Sex Coach U. Dr. Claude is passionate about promoting and supporting deep human connection. He develops and delivers workshops and other events regarding that topic, as well as being available for individual and couples intimacy coaching. He can be contacted at [email protected].

This weekly podcast is distributed through multiple podcast directories, including:
* Apple podcasts: 1588173033 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/two-open-doors/id1588173033
* Google podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/search/two%20open%20doors
* Stitcher: https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/two-open-doors
* Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6ib3hb9vsNoNvWM3HWpEXL
* iHeart Radio: · https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-two-open-doors-86831925/

Human relationships play out through the interactions between two people.  Unsurprisingly, many factors enter into those interactions.  Those factors include traits or attributes of the partners who are interacting.  Other factors consist of how the partners treat each other.

In this episode, we’ll consider a range of factors that can either strengthen and nurture relationships, or undermine and weaken them.  Here, we’ll describe three categories of relationship traits that can deeply affect relationships, and we’ll see how those categories are related to one another.  In the following episodes, we’ll delve into each of those three categories, in more detail.

Dr. Claude Cruz is a relationship and intimacy coach based in the Portland, OR area. He holds a PhD in Human Sexuality from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality (IASHS), as well as a Professional Sex Coach certification from Sex Coach U. Dr. Claude is passionate about promoting and supporting deep human connection. He develops and delivers workshops and other events regarding that topic, as well as being available for individual and couples intimacy coaching. He can be contacted at [email protected].

This weekly podcast is distributed through multiple podcast directories, including:
* Apple podcasts: 1588173033 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/two-open-doors/id1588173033
* Google podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/search/two%20open%20doors
* Stitcher: https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/two-open-doors
* Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6ib3hb9vsNoNvWM3HWpEXL
* iHeart Radio: · https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-two-open-doors-86831925/