Joey wants to talk about racing and competition as she's been spending time with children who shout, "I'm first and you're not!" Is competitiveness and hierarchical ranking just part of typical development or does it reflect a system of values that we are modeling for children?  Mike and Tom share ideas for de-escalating when emotions run high at competitive moments. Tom is reminded of shoppers' behavior on Black Friday. Perhaps we should take a closer look at our environments and be sure we are not creating competition due to scarcity.