Unabashed You

“Time leaves no fruit on the tree.”  This is a lyric from a John Mayer song and a phrase that Johanna Lobo lives by.  It reminds her to seize the day and not put off important or enjoyable things so she takes the advice to heart daily.  Another practice is paying attention to self-talk.  Are you harder on yourself than you would be to anyone else?  If so, stop.  Be as good to yourself as you would be to someone you loved, which should include you.

If you believe you are capable then by all means step out, and take a risk.  It will take courage Johanna explains as the two are woven together in ways hard to describe.  If you are courageous, you will be more confident.  If you are confident, you will be more courageous.  These two characteristics, truly are something we can all have.  You just plain have to feel it inside, and allow yourself the time to get better at it.  Then watch out!

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"You wouldn't worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do." - Eleanor Roosevelt.  This is the quote Amy DeFehr and I could not quite recall.  It’s so true and one we should remember because the fear of what others think is the number one reason we don’t try things.

Amy defined confidence as, “a feeling of knowing you can do anything, taking it out of the heart and into the head. I don’t need anyone to tell me, because I know.”

Here are Amy’s 3 suggestions to increase confidence:

You have to do things that scare you; get past the feeling, once you do one it leads you to the next

Do something that is a release, accomplish something that is hard (like a workout) or get in nature

Surround yourself with really good people; they see you, know you, and are cheering you on

Amy has been on the podcast before in Walking Off a Cliff episode 26.

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The Unabashed You website has a page for each guest of photos, quotes and a blog with embedded audio at unabashedyou.com. You can find the show on other podcast platforms.  Want to lend your support and encouragement? We invite you to follow, rate, review and share.

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What do you think of this definition of confidence?  A place of belief in oneself that is unshakable.  This week’s guest, Donna Cravotta, had a lot to say about women over 50 owning who they are and not caring what others think.  And that spells confidence.  She shares that these women are a bridge, a bridge between how life was and how life's going to be.  It’s a special moment in time.

It began after her frustration with the lack of representation for women of a certain age in mainstream media along with her determination to create a platform for them.  Donna created, "The Real 50 Over 50 Visibility Project: The Wisdom Revolution,” which aims to uncover and amplify the stories of women over 50 who are changing the world.  She is hard at work providing ways for them to connect and collaborate. These untold stories are important for us all.

You can find Donna here Donna Cravotta Media Group.

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The Unabashed You website has a page for each guest of photos, quotes and a blog with embedded audio at unabashedyou.com. You can find the show on other podcast platforms.  Want to lend your support and encouragement? We invite you to follow, rate, review and share.

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It all changed when she read Untamed by Glennon Doyle.  Elyse Muscha recognized herself in the story and what followed was an evolution of who she knew she was.  The confidence came through feeling comfortable in her own skin.  That involved some risk taking because one of the biggest lessons for her was the realization that complacency is the enemy of confidence.   

Elyse shared these practical suggestions to minimize the negativity and maximize the confidence.

You need to surround yourself with positive people (those that build you up)

Take the risk (do it scared - step on the gas, yellow lights can be complacency)

Mirror time (talk to yourself like you would to others, the more you hear it, the more you will be rewired to believe it)

Take the time to fill your cup (self-care is a must)

To follow Elyse’s blog you can find it at The Prismatic Pencil Box.

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Wise.  Powerful.  Friend.  That is how I would describe this week’s guest, Arlana Scola as she shared many inspiring thoughts about confidence.  Like her definition: it  is knowing in the deepest part of yourself you’ve got it.  Even in the hard times.  This is especially true as Arlana’s foundation comes from her relationship with Christ, within that she doesn’t have to worry about anything.

Arlana’s three suggestions to strengthen your confidence muscle?

Decide what you want to build confidence in: whatever it is (like public speaking)

Make a plan of how you’re going to do it (practice in front of mirror, record)

Go out and do it!

It’s ok if you fall on our face because doing so is a great teacher.  You can assess and grow the muscle.  If you thwart or stop you won’t make any progress so get out there and try something.

You can find Arlana at Arlana's website and by email Arlana's email.

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His grandfather left an indelible imprint on his life.  He showed him, “Love is what love does” and “If love doesn’t do anything then love ain’t nothing” and more, all through example.  I picture a humble, hard-working, confident man.  I think I’m right.  This week’s guest, Mike Pittman, shared this tender story of working with his grandfather as a teenager, and how it helped form him into who he became.

My three words for Mike?  Creative. Curious. Confident.

Mike defined confidence as “that thing that convinces you, you can do something.”  (Simple and profound.)  And the three suggestions to become more confident?

Suspend the belief that what you want is not possible to have

Surround yourself with people better than you, at least one person you can learn from

Be willing to be taught; don’t limit yourself or miss out on knowledge

You can find Mike on Instagram at Tall Bald Mike Photography.

Thank you for being a part of the UY conversation.

The Unabashed You website has a page for each guest of photos, quotes and a blog with embedded audio at unabashedyou.com. You can find the show on other podcast platforms.  Want to lend your support and encouragement? We invite you to follow, rate, review and share.

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Strike a pose.  (You likely remember that line from the Madonna song, Vogue.)  This week Jessica Stoeckeler challenged us all to strike a confident pose for at least a minute and see how we feel after.  You know, stand up tall, shoulders back, chest out and head held high.  Yes!  There definitely is a physical component to showing up and feeling confident.

And the three things Jessica suggests we do to become more confident:

1) Keep track of your accomplishments (even daily)

2) Do some sort of challenging exercise (I can do anything!)

3) Put on some bright red lipstick (I feel GREAT!)

You can accomplish anything if you try, even hard things.  Just ask Jessica.

Jessica has been on the podcast before in I Need Tough Love episode 151.

You can find Jessica on Instagram at Jessica Stoeckeler.

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Who do you count on when you are in a pinch?  I am happy to say I reached out to this young man all the way to Nigeria (from California) and he stepped into today’s recording.  Enitan Balogun.  He’s been on the show before and he never ceases to surprise me with his ability to inspire this third-act woman.

His distinction between feeling confident and being confident?  A feeling is temporal, it’s just for the moment, whereas if you are being confident it is a part of who are.  It’s a matter of trusting yourself and your instinct.

And the three things needed to reach that point of believing in yourself?  Enitan said, believe in yourself or no none else will; find a mentor who is aligned with you; and be collaborative because you are better together and you have each other’s backs when things don’t go the way you planned.

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Right after the recorded part of this conversation, we continued to talk about confidence and why we think it is invaluable for each person to have.  Our guest Lindsay Gumm, said there is a deficit of confidence out there, and I couldn’t agree more.  Her definition for confidence is being in a state of flow, which I thought was a cool way to describe it.

And why are we so much harder on ourselves than we are on anyone else?  Lindsay walked us through how she challenges the negative self-talk that is all too easy for us to listen to.  If we do it only erodes our belief in ourself.  She takes quiet time, becomes aware of the voice, and then examines what it is saying.  In this way she can compare it to what is actually true, to what is.  A worthwhile practice and one we can all do.  It can only help us with our own confidence.

Thank you for being a part of the UY conversation.

The Unabashed You website has a page for each guest of photos, quotes and a blog with embedded audio at unabashedyou.com. You can find the show on other podcast platforms.  Want to lend your support and encouragement? We invite you to follow, rate, review and share.

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Who is someone we would all know that is the picture of confidence?  Our guest this week, Shaun Conde, answered Brad Pitt.  His reasons?  For being effortlessly confident but not braggadocios, for being down to earth, comfortable with himself, and for being someone who doesn’t need to prove anything, to anyone.  Of course we don’t actually know Mr. Pitt yet he does exude these qualities.

And is there a difference between being confident and feeling confident?  There are opposing thoughts that say one comes first, and the other follows.  For our purposes Shaun felt if you summoned up courage, you could rise to the occasion and do a a hard thing scared.  Why not?  You don’t know how it will go.  No one does.  Most people want you to succeed.  The ones that don’t don’t matter in the big picture of your life anyway.

Thank you for being a part of the UY conversation.

The Unabashed You website has a page for each guest of photos, quotes and a blog with embedded audio at unabashedyou.com. You can find the show on other podcast platforms.  Want to lend your support and encouragement? We invite you to follow, rate, review and share.

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So be encouraged and continue to listen, read and be inspired. 🍐