Unbreak My Heart

Has anyone ever caught you off-guard and wooed you? Anna met Sean while contra dancing, at first she didn't want to date him, but eventually, she changed her mind.

It was the end of college and her dream was to explore more of the world. Sean wanted to plant some roots and with Anna by his side. With an open heart and mind, also, against her better judgement - she accepted his invitation to move with him across the country!

Eventually, their incompatibility became undeniably clear. Anna's health was suffering due to the stress of their relationship. Something had to give and they found themselves going their separate ways.

What is something that makes breakups so tough? This episode, I will share some tips and ideas on steps you can work on during the relationship.

Communication is sometimes one of the toughest elements in a relationship and when that fails, working through the loss of your partner increases exponentially. Listen to discover some fresh ideas or find assurance in things you may already be working on.

We have a Patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit www.patreon.com/unbreakmyheart for more information.

What is something that makes breakups so tough? This episode, I will share some tips and ideas on steps you can work on during the relationship.

Communication is sometimes one of the toughest elements in a relationship and when that fails, working through the loss of your partner increases exponentially. Listen to discover some fresh ideas or find assurance in things you may already be working on.

We have a Patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit www.patreon.com/unbreakmyheart for more information.

High school romance is exciting, confusing and can have a lifelong impact on how we view love and future relationships.

In this episode, we hear Jason, joined by his buddy Tanner, share about how he and his first love connected and ultimately fell apart. His break-up haunted him with depression, insomnia, and his motivation to just show up every day.

After some time, support from family, friends, and professionals - he's turning a corner towards a brighter outlook on life and love.

My conversation with Jason is rich with common relationship problems that tend to stick to our shoes like unwanted toilet paper from a dirty bathroom. I know, it's kind of a gross image. On the flip side, his break-up story ends in the same way you shake off the bottom of your tacky shoe – by abandoning unpleasant grime and walking away with a sense of relief.

When you're young, do relationships really count as something real? If you like someone & they give you butterflies, does that mean you're dating and it's exclusive? What rules and boundaries make sense when you're in middle school and high school? What happens when your parents find out you're sexually active? What happens when someone cheats? What even constitutes cheating??? What happens when that new person becomes your best friend and then something special turns toxic and leaves you spun upside down and inside out?

Jason, his buddy Tanner, and I explore the ins and outs of these questions. You'll find yourself picking sides, putting yourself in different shoes, and reflecting on similar memories.

At a junior high dance which they describe as "sinful and wildly inappropriate", Jason gets kissed by a girl who has a rape-y vibe. The kiss happened against his will and he felt violated. Not only were his personal boundaries disrespected, he knew this was going to create trouble and drama with his first true girlfriend.

Short soap box – If you're attracted to someone – it's important to get clear consent before taking something from someone that they aren't willing or ready to give you. It can be uncomfortable to find ways to get consent, sometimes it seems like we're overcome by our desire and we lose control. That is unacceptable and inexcusable. There is a better way! Should this be something you relate to – it's never too late to apologize and ask for forgiveness. Lasting impressions and scars can linger for a lifetime. Be someone who elevates others, not scares them into hiding.

As Jason's relationship progresses throughout high school he finds himself, for the first time, starting to care deeply for someone that is not family or a close friend. The sacred place of trust he has behind his invincible shield gets poisoned when his girlfriend calls him distraught after drinking and playing spin the bottle.

We have options when someone tells us something important like this. She cheated. She told him right away. What happens when someone you care about hurts you? Do you throw the relationship away? Become super protective or controlling? Hide and act like it wasn't a big deal?

Marcus and his lady were engaged and in love. He pictured his future with her until she said "it's over" - blindsiding him at the end of their vacation.

Marcus was crushed. He found comfort in writing songs and playing his music. This outlet also gave him confidence to let go and find his way back to the light.

We enjoyed discussing our mutual joy in advocating for love and exploring tough questions like - can you pursue your passion, obsessively, and grow a relationship? Thank you for listening!

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Joby gave Carrie his trust. Overtime, something started to change and her affection for him became distant and cold. In his best efforts to fight for her and for them - he landed with putting the ball in her court. Do we work things out or are you going to end it?

This stepping stone experience really shaped Joby's perspective on life and relationships. He's gleaned a lot of wisdom and eagerly shares with us so we, too, can trust in ourselves and also benefit from his lessons.

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Marlana fell in love! He pursued her and made her feel special. He found his way into her heart, her family, and her future hopes. It was almost too good to be true... except something was off. He acted in a way that made her feel like she was a secret. Why wouldn't he want to share about their relationship? Something wasn't adding up.

Come to find out, there was truth to her doubts about his commitment to her. He was living a double life. Whatever proof she found was just enough for him to talk his way out of being in trouble. Sadly, Marlana found herself betrayed and heartbroken. 

The story doesn't end there. Through this terrible heartache, she found a gift! A way to be introspective and right some of the wrongs she had about love and intimacy. This gift has led her to release well-being and kindness to someone she previously learned to hate.

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April is the author of the book: Best Breakup Ever! Bouncing back from your breakup with humor and dignity. In this episode, we learn about April's expertise, ideas, and tools that explore different ways to guide your heart to a place of healing with a twist of fun!

One of my favorite moments is when she shares a quote from Mary Oliver's poem, "The Journey" and fondly remembers how her heart prefers conversation in poetry. Poetry inspired April to bring pen to paper, resulting in her own healing journey and the book she's recently authored.

For more information about April and where to find her book, follow these links:

Website: April Hirschman

Book: Best Breakup Ever! Bouncing back from your breakup with humor and dignity

IG: @April Hirschman

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Chrissy is a survivor of childhood traumas and when she married "J", it was because he was a stable guy and he had a great family.

After awhile, she noticed her body had many ill symptoms physically, mentally, and emotionally. She had some good and bad habits to cope with her situation.

...She spent too much money, she slept too much, she didn't work for awhile, her meds weren't helping, and she was criticized, instead of supported, by her husband. She thought about escaping life in a variety of ways and her body was letting her know she was dying. Something needed to give in order for her to come out of the grip of death and despair.

Eventually, she found a silver lining to help her health turn a corner! Unfortunately, she could not find a way to pursue her health and save her marriage. She asked for a divorce and since has been navigating temptations, trials and victories quite differently than ever before.

Listen as we hear Chrissy's journey of insight, healing and transformation.

They fell in love in college; however, they weren't prepared for some of the challenges that came their way. Her Mom wanted the best for her daughter and that wasn't Nathan. Nathan didn't see hope for them to overcome her family's disapproval.

Though that may have been what broke them up, that was only the catalyst. They both had a tough time communicating and were stuck in a lot of people-pleasing patterns.

Listen as Nathan and I unpack some of those patterns and discuss ideas and solutions to be more self-aware and how to stand up for himself.

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