Unbreak My Heart

Lacey's story is quite non-linear.

She started out as a wild college girl whose daily lifestyle included drinking, using drugs, and endless partying. Sex was like a sport, a game to win - the more men, the more power, and the more she knew she was wanted and desired.

After college, she found herself falling in love with a music DJ, Thomas. Thomas was a high school dropout also deep into drinking, drugs, and partying. Their love was immediate, within a week they knew they'd get married.

They gave up drinking and drugs for a brief time together - to cleanse and detox. They even promised to wait to have sex until they got hitched. Not much else changed - they still went to parties and still chilled with the same friends.

Marriage happened. They invited a woman into the relationship as a sexual partner. A month passed, and they agreed to end it with the paramour. However, Thomas didn't let her go. He started seeing her behind his wife's back.

We get to hear: how Lacey's bad trip on mushrooms was a come-to-Jesus moment, how she survived emotional abuse, an affair, and the inevitable breakup of her marriage. But their story doesn't end there! Thomas recovers from his dark ways and earns a second chance. You could say they have a gift of VICTORY! They are still married, have both done 180s, and have a heck of a story!

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Molly is a musician and performer who was wooed by a fan. They fell in love and as soon as they got married all of the dreaminess they experienced while dating quickly shifted to something much more distant.

He felt he had made a mistake. They did their best at "doing the right thing" and working on their marriage. In spite of their efforts, trouble brewed - whether it was from their past, their faith, Molly's health or her husband's infidelity.

Eventually, the infidelity surfaced, and they saw the marriage was over and it was time for a change. Molly dove into her career, healing, and a complete personal transformation!

To hear more of Molly's music - check out her site: www.mollyjenson.com

Ingrid Fetell Lee has devoted ten years to answering the question: "How do tangible things create intangible joy?" Drawing on research from the fields of neuroscience and psychology, her book, Joyful, and her website "The Aesthetics of Joy" explore the powerful connection between our surroundings and our emotions, and empower people to find more joy in daily life through design.

My good friend Kari and I dive into the heart of what happens after heartache. Her husband cheated on her which ended in divorce after 12 years of marriage.

Throughout years of processing grief, learning to forgive, and walking hundreds of miles she found peace and contentment. She's been single a while now, embracing the new challenges of trusting herself, love, and a potential new partner one day.

Kari Gale is an artist and writer from Portland, Oregon specializing in the documentation of the journey, food, and travel. Visit her at karigale.com to see her journal art, books, and much more.

You're going to meet Timbre. She looks like Wonder Woman who's been suffering from decades of imprisonment. A powerful yet squeamishly uncomfortable conversation ensues, as we hear about the breakup that has her trapped.

Almost three years later, she's still haunted in her dreams and her consciousness. Her raw honesty and sense of humor lighten the heaviness but don't keep her from shrinking from the sting of the villainous phantom of regret.

You may find yourself identifying with Timbre's pain - the pain that's found in self-loathing and shame. So how do you free yourself from the shackles of regret? How do you break away from self-punishment? These are questions we explore in this interview.

Find out how we discover the key that unlocks her from this dark and suffocating prison. There's hope ~ if she's willing to make the next move.

Bel is returning to talk through the grief and anxiety of making the decision to stay with her ex or move on and follow her dreams.

They love each other and have a great relationship. They also happened upon a non-negotiable. He wants to build roots in their hometown. She wants to explore the world and visit home but not live there. Can they compromise? Or do they have to find a way to face the fear of letting go and moving on?

This is a situation full of heartache and looming with the potential for unnecessary hurt and pain. Can they find a way to honor and respect each other without creating deeper wounds? Listen to find out how Bel and I unpack these big questions!

If you're interested to hear her first story, tune into last weeks episode. Names have been changed to maintain privacy.

She was in an unhappy marriage and saw a chance to explore an old romance. Her first love from high school appeared years later in her life and, when they crossed paths, they felt electric!

What price would you pay to explore an old romance? She gave up her family, her husband and so much more to see what might be in store for her and her ex. He, too, was married and a Father and let it all go.

Unfortunately, the grass wasn't greener. Katherine is working through so much heartache and learning new insights about herself. Listen as we hear her honest story about pursuing what she thought was love.

Ashley choose marriage at a young age to a man who was focused on work, not connection. After 11 years of living together, moving multiple times and a vacuum of loneliness - she builds up the courage to say "no more"!

She tried hard to make something work with a bipolar man and her efforts were never met with success. As she was figuring out what to do, she also realized her attraction to women was more prominent than she had acknowledged before.

Listen to find out how she navigates coming out and finding freedom from a lifeless marriage.

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In hindsight, we can learn so much about ourselves. Camille knew better than to date Badger. Their hearts deeply longed for love like dry land longs for fresh rain.

Yet when they started dating, the longing for love became a crutch. It only exaggerated the areas their souls were crippled... the hold over one another became dangerous. Maybe you've found yourself here before? Camille and I find our way through those old sticky spots to a place of relief!

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Daniel grew up conforming to the ideas of what it meant to be a man through the critical words and judgments of the women in his life.

He was not going to be like his Dad or his Uncles. He was going to be a good guy and a nice guy. Little did he know that he was only masking and hiding who he truly was.

It wasn't until his 3rd marriage and counseling, that he finally realized his behaviors and beliefs were all under his self-deception, justification, and rationalization. Instead of helping others, he saw he was really hurting those he cared for and ultimately himself.

His paradigm shift allowed him to start living from the inside out with inner-peace and calm. Before it was all about him and his need for love. This story is about his experience discovering unconditional love.

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