Coach Thomas discusses the impact of C-PTSD on the lives of male survivors and shares highlights and talks about the healing workshop being held in Fiji on September 21–24, 2023. Learn how understanding trauma can become the first step toward lasting recovery and personal freedom.

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Coach T shares raw, unfiltered moments from his recent trip back home—the place where his own childhood sexual abuse occurred. He opens up about encountering a family perpetrator, the painful burden of protecting another family member, and the emotions that resurfaced along the way. It's honest, vulnerable, and deeply personal. Plus, updates on the digital magazine  plans for an upcoming healing workshop in Canada.

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Today's podcast explores arrested emotional development following childhood sexual abuse. Many survivors look like adults on the outside—with careers, families, responsibilities, and success—but inside, parts of them remain five, ten, twelve, or sixteen years old, frozen at the age when trauma disrupted their emotional development. Coach T explains why this happens, how it affects adult life and relationships, and what it takes to begin moving forward again.

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This morning Coach T shares working with a client and turning chronic stress into optimal stress. He discusses a bit of neuroscience of riding the wave of adaptive stress to rest and recovery.  He introduces Raj, the new digital magazine coming, and building more resources for male survivors.

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In this heartfelt episode, Coach T pays tribute to two military survivors from the Safe Place workshop and coaching community who have recently passed. As we remember their lives, we also honor their courage to share parts of their stories, confront the impact of childhood sexual abuse, and pursue healing. Though their journey has ended, their willingness to face the pain brought greater freedom, dignity, and a sense of justice that continues to inspire others. Rest in power, brothers.

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In Part 2 of What It Takes, Coach T explores practical ways to measure your progress as you heal from childhood sexual abuse. He shares meaningful signs of growth, discusses the Toddler's Credo and the valuable lessons it offers for recovery, and encourages survivors to recognize that healing is measured by progress—not perfection. Coach T also introduces the possibility of live podcasts for Insider members, where listeners can call in, ask questions, and participate in real-time conversations.

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How long have you been putting off the work of healing from childhood sexual abuse? In Part 1 of What It Takes to Start Healing, Coach T explores why so many survivors remain stuck and what it takes to begin moving forward. Trauma can leave us feeling numb, disconnected, anxious, and unable to trust ourselves or others. Coach T introduces five foundational steps that can help you break through procrastination, begin rebuilding safety, and take meaningful steps toward lasting healing

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In today's episode, Coach T responds to a question from an Insider about recurring random sexual encounters and what may be happening beneath the surface. He explores the possible connection between childhood sexual abuse, the brain, and compulsive sexual behaviors. For a deeper discussion on the relationship between sexual addiction and sexual abuse, Coach T invites listeners to continue the conversation on the Insider's Podcast.

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In today's episode, Coach T discusses the lasting impact of betrayal trauma and how the deepest wounds often come from those we trusted most. He also shares his experience being interviewed by an actor preparing to portray a survivor, offering insight into the emotional and psychological aftermath of childhood sexual abuse that can remain long after the abuse has ended. As always, Coach T brings hope by showing that understanding betrayal is an important step toward healing.

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It's Tuesday, and this is a special one-off episode. Coach Thomas responds to the strong reactions and backlash generated by the previous podcast, addressing some of the challenging conversations it sparked. He also previews this Friday's Insider episode, where he'll explore a difficult but important topic: how some survivors can unknowingly adopt abusive behaviors during the healing process—and what it takes to recognize and change those patterns.

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