In today's episode, Coach Thomas responds to an email from a survivor whose partner deeply loves him but feels unable to continue providing the level of support his healing journey now requires. Coach T explores the complexities of disclosure, the emotional impact this can have on both partners, and why healing often requires a broader support system than one person can provide. He also shares practical guidance for navigating this difficult situation with honesty, compassion, and hope.

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Carry Less.  Live Free!

Break My Abuse Code™ 

Happy New Year! In this first episode of 2022, Coach T explores a question that leaves many survivors feeling confused and ashamed: "Why do I still love my abuser?" Drawing from a recent coaching session, he explains the cognitive dissonance that can occur when feelings of attachment and empathy coexist with the reality of sexual abuse. Coach T shares three important perspectives to help survivors better understand these complex emotions and move toward healing without self-condemnation.

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Carry Less.  Live Free!

Break My Abuse Code™ 

In his final podcast of 2021, Coach Thomas discusses a common experience many survivors face after a major breakthrough in healing. Drawing from recent hypnotherapy sessions during his month-long road trip, he explains why it is possible to feel worse after feeling better. Much like the body recovering from a physical illness, the mind and nervous system often need time to adjust after profound emotional healing. Coach T offers reassurance that this "healing crisis" can be a normal part of the recovery journey and shares encouragement for navigating it with patience and hope.

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Carry Less.  Live Free!

Break My Abuse Code™ 

In this Insider episode, Coach Thomas wakes up early to share a few heartfelt thoughts for survivors navigating the holiday season. He offers practical encouragement, gentle reminders, and strategies for making it through a time of year that can bring heightened emotions, difficult memories, and family challenges. If the holidays are especially hard for you, this episode is a reminder that you are not alone.

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Carry Less.  Live Free!

Break My Abuse Code™ 

Today on the Insider's Platform Thomas and Mike chop it up with a cathartic session covering a ton of survivor issues like: life insurance denial for survivors, stuck in childhood developmental stages as an adult, family components and using members as weapons, co-dependency or groomed to be co-dependent, lifelines, masculinity defined redefined, creating psychologically safe environments... Whew!  Yes, we hit a lot. Join us at

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Coach T shares the next stages and Patreon-like platform where the  program is moving.  He shares how Insiders will be for those survivors that are now ready to get their feet wet.  He will not totally disappear from this podcast platform, and occasionally drop in from time to time. 

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Carry Less.  Live Free!

Break My Abuse Code™ 

Fresh back from a conference in Dallas, Texas, Coach T is fired up and admits he may need a chill pill! In this energetic episode, he reflects on meeting survivors, the powerful conversations that unfolded, and the impromptu mini-workshop that came together on the spot. Coach T shares practical insights to help jumpstart your healing and reminds listeners that sometimes one meaningful conversation can become the catalyst for lasting change.

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Carry Less.  Live Free!

Break My Abuse Code™ 

In today's episode, Coach T begins with a hectic morning—a Hollywood survivor guest doesn't show up, a family member is on a ventilator with COVID, and a survivor reaches out in distress because he can't remember all the details of his childhood sexual abuse. Coach T takes the opportunity to revisit the topic of fragmented traumatic memory, explaining why incomplete memories are common after trauma and why healing does not depend on remembering every detail.

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Carry Less.  Live Free!

Break My Abuse Code™ 

In today's episode, Coach T shares a powerful letter from the partner of one of his clients, describing the devastating impact that childhood sexual abuse and compulsive pornography use had on their relationship. He explains why these struggles often become "the gift that keeps stealing and taking" and discusses the strategies that helped this client make meaningful progress when previous approaches had fallen short. Coach T also announces that the next cohort of his healing program begins next week.

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Carry Less.  Live Free!

Break My Abuse Code™ 

In today's episode, Coach T shares updates from his latest adventures, and the challenges of dealing with smoke from the surrounding wildfires. He also explains how his online coaching program is helping accelerate the healing process for survivors. Then he takes a deeper dive into understanding the inner critic—where it comes from, how childhood sexual abuse can shape its voice, and practical ways to begin challenging its influence.

With you in this,

Carry Less.  Live Free!

Break My Abuse Code™