Why does Coach Thomas talk so much about neuroscience when coaching male survivors? In today's episode, he answers that question by explaining how understanding what is happening in the brain can change the way survivors approach recovery. Coach T breaks down four crucial neuroscience concepts that can help survivors better understand their reactions, challenge old patterns, and become more intentional about creating lasting change.

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In this New Year episode, Coach Thomas skips the traditional resolutions and focuses instead on practical coaching strategies for making real progress in 2021. He explores trauma reenactment—how survivors can unknowingly repeat patterns connected to childhood sexual abuse—and shares strategies for recognizing and changing those patterns. Coach T also celebrates an important milestone: 2021 marks his 20th year working with male survivors and supporting them on their healing journeys.

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In his final episode of 2020, Coach Thomas gives a big thank you to everyone who participated in the 30 Days Our Story Project and reflects on what the experience meant. He shares details about the upcoming New Year workshop, explores how male gender socialization can complicate the impact of childhood sexual abuse, and closes with a heartfelt challenge to survivors: make this the year you decide to make a change.

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In today's episode, Coach Thomas tackles the No. 2 issue that often keeps male survivors from thriving: the critical inner voice. He shares a little Psych 101 to explain how that voice develops, why survivors can become stuck listening to it, and how it continues to influence thoughts, choices, and self-worth long after the abuse. Coach T also offers practical strategies for challenging the inner critic and beginning to loosen its grip.

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In today's episode, Coach Thomas drops some knowledge on rebuilding trust after childhood sexual abuse and why learning to trust again is an important part of moving from surviving to thriving. If your internal trust system is stuck at DEFCON High, Coach T offers practical insights for understanding those protective walls, recognizing when they may no longer be serving you, and beginning to navigate trust in healthier ways.

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In today's episode, Coach Thomas responds to a question about working with male survivors whose childhood sexual trauma and recovery are intertwined with religious or spiritual narratives. He explores how beliefs about faith, God, shame, forgiveness, and spirituality can influence the way survivors understand their abuse and approach healing. Plus, a special shout-out to the growing community of podcast listeners in the Philippines!

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In today's episode, Coach Thomas celebrates another survivor becoming a thriver! He shares pieces of the recovery course that this new thriver found especially helpful, including "The Message of Emotions." Coach T explores how learning to understand what our emotions are trying to communicate can help survivors stop fighting their feelings and begin using them as valuable information along the healing journey.

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"Shouldn't you be over that by now?" It's a question spouses, partners, friends, and family members of male survivors may ask when they don't fully understand the lasting impact of childhood sexual trauma. In today's episode, Coach Thomas addresses several common misconceptions about trauma and offers insight to help those who love male survivors better understand what they're experiencing, why certain struggles persist, and how to support the healing journey.

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Continuing the Help Me Understand series, Coach Thomas addresses two challenging topics: pornography addiction and the experiences of male survivors who were sexually abused by female perpetrators. Drawing from his own experience, Thomas explores the unique stigma, confusion, and misconceptions men may carry when their abuser was a woman, while helping partners and loved ones better understand some of the struggles these survivors face.

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In this three-part Help Me Understand series, Coach Thomas responds to a listener's question by speaking candidly to the spouses, partners, family members, and significant others who love a male survivor of childhood sexual abuse. He offers insight into some of the behaviors, emotions, and struggles that can be difficult to understand from the outside, helping loved ones better understand what the survivor may be experiencing and how trauma can continue to affect everyday life and relationships.

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