When we speak the words “I love you,” what are we really saying? Most of us do not have a definition; we think it’s about the things we do, having nothing to do with loving someone just because.

The things we do and say often have nothing to do with love or what it means. It is not blame or a product of our expectations; it is a feeling of deep care without conditions. Why do we place conditions on love? Fear. We don’t know if we really want to love or be loved by others because of the fear we might lose ourselves, end up in a lot of pain or become trapped. Some of us fear loss and abandonment. I touch on insecure attachment to highlight how many of us get wrapped up in our expectations as a means of avoiding real love. Learn how to move out of “expectation land” so you can open yourself up to what true, unconditional love really is.