Undone Redone

On this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody talk with author and speaker Randy Hemphill as he shares his story of going through the trauma of betrayal as a man. Randy shares his experience with grieving through his betrayal and how important it is for men to allow themselves to properly grieve after experiencing infidelity in marriage. He also shares that there comes a time in every man's journey with God where tips and techniques on how to be better simply do not work. Instead of trying to change ourselves through willpower and effort, Randy reminds us that only God can bring about lasting heart-change.

You can learn more about Randy's ministry and purchase his new book, The Restored Man: Becoming a Man of God, by visiting https://therestoredman.com/.

On this week's episode of The Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody chat with author and speaker Sharon Hersh. Sharon shares the idea that addiction can be a gift and that oftentimes the areas that are shattered by trauma and betrayal are the areas that needed to be addressed in a marriage. Sharon explains it does not excuse the abuser for creating the trauma in the relationship, but that the brokenness that comes from addiction helps to create a new paradigm in the relationship that can be the catalyst to break free from addiction as a whole.

Ms. Hersh received an M.A. from Colorado Christian University, and is a Licensed Professional Counselor. She is the mother of two college-aged children and she is a frequent speaker at universities, seminaries, conferences, and retreats. Sharon has written numerous books such as Bravehearts: Unlocking the Courage to Love with Abandon, Mom, Sex Is No Big Deal, and The Last Addiction. Our listeners can learn more about Sharon by visiting http://www.sharonhersh.com/ and purchase her books on Amazon. This a phenomenal episode for anyone struggling in their marriage and we strongly recommend you check out Sharon's Book, The Last Addiction on Amazon.

On this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Tray chats with Wendell Moss, a therapist at The Allender Center, to share his story and to specifically discuss racial trauma. The conversation about racial injustice in America is currently dominating conversations and Wendell breaks down his own experiences with racial trauma and how he was able to work through and heal from those traumas. He also explains what we as a country can do to begin listening and engaging the conversation to help those struggling with racial injustice.

Our listeners can learn more about Wendell on The Allender Center's website: https://theallendercenter.org/about/team/wendell-moss/.

This episode is a great follow up to the conversation we had with the Castille family last week, so we highly encourage you to listen to that as well by going to https://youtu.be/1M69jfI_J2E.

On this week's episode of the Undone Redone podcast, Tray and Melody welcome a long-awaited guest to the show, Marnie Ferree. Marnie is the founder of Bethesda Workshops, a program that specializes in helping those struggling with sexual brokenness and was the first of its kind to help female sex addicts in what was thought to be a "male only issue." Marnie shares her struggles with infidelity and sexual brokenness, how she has created workshops and resources to help other women, and why it is so important to approach sex addiction as a human issue rather than a purely male or female one.

Her book, No Stones: Women Redeemed from Sexual Addiction, was one of the earliest books on female sex and love addicts and provides crucial information for women looking to escape the cycle of sex addiction.

Our listeners can learn more about all the resources Marnie has available by visiting bethesdaworkshops.org/ and can check out her book at https://amzn.to/37mET39.

The conversation about racial injustice in America is raging strong right now and I personally want to do a better job of listening. In so doing, I had the privilege of sitting down to talk racism with former Alabama All-American and NFL standout Jeremiah Castille and his sons Simeon and Caleb, who both also played at the University of Alabama. Simeon was an All-SEC defensive back who also played in the NFL and Caleb played defensive back and left the Capstone with 2 national championship rings and currently is an actor living in Los Angeles.

Jeremiah, Simeon, and Caleb graciously answered my questions as I sought to challenge my understanding of racial relations based on my own cultural upbringing. They helped me to understand that, no matter how hard I try, I will never fully understand what black people in America deal with…often on a daily basis. As Jeremiah eloquently points out in this conversation, at the end of the day, this is a heart issue and only Jesus can change the human heart. It is my prayer that my white evangelical friends will join me in becoming better listeners during this critical conversation.

Here are some of my key takeaways from this conversation on racism with Jeremiah, Simeon, and Caleb:

• We need to see need, not color.
• As a white individual, I will never fully understand the experiences of my black friends and colleagues.
• We must be more intentional in having conversations with people who grew up with a different cultural understanding of the world. Diversity brings richness to our lives.
• The Church must lead the way in bringing about racial reconciliation in our country.

On this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody chat with returning guest, Dr. Barbara Lowe, to discuss the COVID-19 pandemic from a mental health perspective. Dr. Lowe discusses ways to treat your physical, mental, and spiritual health during quarantine, and, even as life begins to return to normal, what we can do to address lingering issues in our personal lives. She also provides resources that help treat the issues that go deeper than the stress of the pandemic, like https://drbarbaralowe.com/findyourhappy/.

You can learn more about Dr. Lowe and the services she offers at her website: https://drbarbaralowe.com/

On this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody chat with Elyse Fitzpatrick & Eric Schumacher to discuss their book Worthy: Celebrating the Value of Women, a timely resource that dives into the value, place, and calling of women in the church. But, as they explain in this interview, this isn't a book just for women, but also offers valuable insight for men, especially leaders, who want to grow in their understanding of God's unique design of women. Could we have missed something amid the many abuse scandals that are right now rocking the church? Might the headlines about abuse we're reading today have their roots in a denigration of the value and worth of women? Elyse and Eric elaborate on all of this and more in this timely conversation.

You can grab a copy of Worthy Here and can get in touch with Elyse and Eric Here. Our listeners can also register for Melody's Grieving Beyond Betrayal Here.

Amazon Link: https://www.amazon.com/Worthy-Celebrating-Value-Elyse-Fitzpatrick/dp/0764234366

Book site: https://worthybook.org/

Melody's Webinar Registration Page: https://event.webinarjam.com/channel/grieving-betrayal

On this week's episode of The Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody sit down with Russ Morgan & Joey Mure of Wealth Without Wall Street to discuss financial security during COVID-19. Joey and Russ share their expertise to our listeners to help them navigate the financial minefield that is the COVID-19 pandemic. They explain the things every person needs to be doing to keep their head above water in these unprecedented times. They also point to helpful resources and are offering our listeners a chance to join their free community at https://www.wealthwithoutwallstreet.com/community. To learn more about Joey and Russ, visit their website at wealthwithoutwallstreet.com Quotes: "Right now there are so many practical things you can be doing to manage your finances, and there are so many great resources out there you can use, especially on our website, to help you navigate that." "Our mentor had a great saying which was,5% of the people think, 10% of the people think they think, and 85% of people would rather die than think. You have to ask yourself 'what group do I want to be a part of?' These are moments you dive into the Word and think about it, pray on it, because that can be the key to help you free yourself from this prison you feel like you're stuck in."

COVID-19 has shut down the US economy and many are feeling the effects as unemployment applications hit record levels. On this week's show, Tray and Melody talk with Financial Coach Ericka Young to discuss how to handle financial uncertainty during this unprecedented pandemic.

Ericka offers practical guidance to help navigate the current financial landscape as well as ideas on preparing for the future. She also encourages viewers to take the time to step back and ask the question "is my plan working?" and, if it isn't, offers help in creating a plan that will get them through to the other side of this crisis. You can learn more about Ericka and her financial resources on her website: tailormadebudgets.com/.

On this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody sit down with Therapist Bryce Landwehr to discuss how to parent a child that has been exposed to pornography. Bryce explains that especially since we all have more free time during the COVID-19 pandemic, its more important than ever to ensure that we have a proper way to talk to our children and parent them through that exposure. Bryce talks about why grace based parenting is key to helping our children navigate a place that often they know more about than we do. Our listeners can learn more about Bryce at http://www.wellspringchristian.com/Bryce_Landwehr.html and they can reach out to Bryce directly at [email protected] Quotes: "You are the first image of God your children see so you want to let them know that you love them no matter what. You also want to create a sense of normalcy to you kids that we are all created to be sexual beings, but there is a better way to learn about that then through pornography." "We need our children to know that sex is an appetite much like hunger and that if you keep feeding that appetite over and over and over, you will become very unhealthy and dependent on that certain type of 'food'."