Unicorns and Hand Grenades

Rachel Thomas, from Create Yourself Coaching, joins us as we dive into a conversation that we hope will challenge and support your thinking when it comes to transformation, overwhelm, navigating the unexpected and Futurescaping the life we desire. We also share some tips, tricks and thought provoking reflective questions we hope will help you steer your way into 2026 with a feeling of hope and possibilities.

We also weave our way through: 

• Transitions and the messy middle
• Doing life alone vs doing life with others
• Leaning in for support
• Getting out of our heads
• Overwhelm
• Depression
• New year: goals vs intentions, Futurescaping and visioning
• Dating & Romantacies 
• Alignment and being in connection with our body
• Feeling our feelings vs distracting from them
• Heart vs head 

And so much more.

You can find Rachel on IG at create_yourself_coaching or at

www.createyourslef.co.nz

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Join us in as we deep dive into the messy, real, humaness of forgiveness and letting go.  

If you've ever felt yourself waiting for someone to say sorry before you can let go and gain closure, being slow to forgive yourself, or struggling with inner peace in the face of external hand grenades... then this episode's for you!

Some of the paths we sashay our unicorn along are:

Forgiveness is not about the 'external act', but the internal wound the act activates

When forgiveness, judgement and ego get tangled

People only being able to meet us at the depth they've met themselves

Radical acceptance 

Energy leaking vs taking our power back

Closure from the story (self), vs Closure from them (other)

Puttting down the weight vs pardoning the behaviour

Self compassion

and some practical tips and tricks that we've experimented with.

You can find us on IG: Unicornsandhandgrenades.life or flick us a message from here, we would love to hear from you.

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Soulprints founder, Chaz Reid, joins us in this episode as we dive into all things numerology and life.  

Not only is Chaz one of our fave humans, she's a master numerologist who shows up in life from an open heart with a passion to help people connect to their souls blueprint. Supporting people to step more fully into a life of clarity, purpose and alignment.  

Numbers were never our thing at school, but when it comes to the school of life... now that's a difference story. Because the science of numerology can be a real game changer when it comes to working with the flow of life, vs swimming against the current.

Ever thing in life is an energy exchange.  And we are grateful to have exchanged energy with Chaz in this episode to bring you this epic chat. 

Inside this episode we explore:

• How to unlock your souls unique blueprint
• How numerology and frequencies impact every aspect of our life
• Where does your soul need to feel more alive
• Purpose (of the non intimidating variety)
• Everything in life is an energy exchange
• What does it mean to become more of who you are
• Oh yeah and we have another stellar dating business idea too ;), plus so much more.

You can learn more about Chaz and how to work with her here: 

www.soulprint.co.nz

Instagram @soulpring_nz

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After a 2 year break, and life "lifeing" us - we're back, mojo intact, ready to drop into some powerful, real and raw conversations with some incredible humans.

First things first though, we awkwardly saddle up the unicorn for her first ride around the mic by checking in with each other.  Sharing what had us hit pause and what we'd love to explore with you all on this new ride.

Some of the paths the Unicorn wanders in this chat:

• Life's too short not to dance in the red negligee (or whatever your version of that is)
• Peeling back the layers; how we become more of who we are
• Stuckness (yup we invented a new word) 
• Radical acceptance
• Playing with the Universe
• Suffering:  Equals the delta between our expectations of how life "should" be vs our reality
• Transformation (internal) vs Changing our Circumstances

Plus Kim calls *BS twice in this episode so you know it's going to be a goodun.

Let us know if there are any burning topics you'd like us to dive into.  You know where to find us:   IG: Unicornsandhandgrenades.life - drop us a DM

Thanks for joining us on the ride.  Keep at it Team Humans, you've got this!

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Heather joins us in this episode where we discuss all things related to mental and physical well-being, growth, meaning making and being the change we want to see!

She's a member of the For All the Brothers Team, Co-owner of Movement Wellness Space,  & Senior Occupational Therapist at Being Therapy and she's an all round epic human.

Heather generously shares her story, & how that led her to doing what she does today.   

We explore amongst many things:

• Anxiety/overthinking
• Being vulnerable, real &  building trust
• Why we're so passionate about supporting men 
• The power of Brotherhood
• Mental & physical health & wellbeing
• Communication, and why it's so important
• Calling BS on the ole "men don't cry"
• What it means to each of us to be the change we want to see
• The importance of PLAY in life
• Creating a movement through brave conversations

Plus a bunch more.  Oh, and as always we have some laughs along the way at our own expense.

This episode is dedicated to the memory of Dave Beaver (Jax's ex) who passed of prostate cancer this week.  And a reminder that 1 in 8 awesome Kiwi Blokes will be diagnosed with prostate cancer.  The same number that will experience a significant brush with depression.  So lads, ask each other if you're ok, start the convo & get ya prostate checked, it's a simple blood test and can save a life! 

As always, we value and appreciate your support.  And here's to being the change we want to see, on step at a time!

You can connect with Heather via:  IG @forallthebrothers or @mvmt_conz or you can email her at [email protected]

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In this yarn we're talking all things Mental Health and Headspace Hacks with Certified Mental Health Coach, Jem Walker-Carmody.  

We explore what it means to do the Mahi (work), when it comes to owning our own Mental Health and Wellbeing.  What does it look like to set ourselves up for success so we can do our best to live our one wild and freaking precious life from a place of thriving, vs surviving.

We all have mental health.   Some days we feel like Tigger on a sugar high, and others  like Eeyore after a big night on the town...  aka Dusty AF and not that bothered with life.   And other days anywhere in between.   

Jem left her career in the Health & Safety Space to follow her passion and build a career in the Mental Health & Wellbeing space. And she has recently completed an Advanced Certificate in Mental Health with Prekure.

Some of the gems (pardon the pun Jem), we explore inside this episode:

• Following your passion
• Feeling all the Feels
• Chasing the "Happy" high
• Headspace Hacks: the top things we do to set us up for success when it comes to our Mental Fitness/Health
• Trauma: transform or transmit
• Dismissing & judging our own traumas
• Addiction: of the socially acceptable type (exercise/sex/work/social media etc)
• It's OK not to be OK!  
• Deep listening and its power
• Overwhelm/Stress

and so much more.

And remember,  if you're not ok, that's ok, reach out to someone for support, to listen. Have the convo and embrace the Mahi . It's worth it.

Big love Jax & Kim

***If you need emotional support please head to www.findahelpline.com where you can find the helpline number for whatever country you live in.  IG: @findahelpline.   If in NZ text 1737 for help.




 

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If you want to know how to turn the dial down on stress & start kicking that MOFO to the curb then this episodes for you.   It's our first 'Espresso Ep' of the season.  

Espresso Eps are short & sharp hits, like your morning caffeine (under 30 minutes), where we focus on something that is topical, in a more practical, tips & tricks way.

Ever wondered why some people can experience pressure without becoming totally stressed out,  while others under the exact same situation become overwhelmed with stress...  us too.

Join in to find out more about, and what to do when you're under pressure to help ensure you don't free fall into stress.

Inside you'll find: 

• Pressure is NOT Stress
• The secret ingredient you do NOT want to add to pressure that turns it into stress
• Reflection vs Rumination
• Practical tips & tricks to drop you out of stress when you are experiencing pressure
• Waking up
• Perspective Shifting
• Controlling your Attention
• Letting go (year we hear ya, that MOFO's a tricky one)
• Acceptance
• Instagram shiny happy feeds (calling BS on those)
• Curating with Intention
• Vanity Metrics vs Soul Metrics

and more....

Slide on into our DM's on the ole Insta @unicornsandhandgrenades.life to let us know how you find Espresso Eps and if you would like more, we're here for you, not us, so would love your feedback.

Or you can contact us on www.unicornsandhandgrenades.life

As always thanks for listening in.  We appreciate you.

Big Love 
Jax & Kim xx

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We're joined around the mic this week by our first guest of the season Bridgette (Biddy) Jackson.   So saddle up your Unicorns, & get ready for a dose of triple trouble!  This convo's equal parts realness, wisdom & laughter alike.  

There is so much gold here for the taking & Bridgette, or Biddy as we like to call her,  is so generous in sharing her story,  wisdom and expertise.  Lucky us!  If you're single, in a relationship, needing to get out of one, or at the beginnings of one, this episodes for you! Our around the campfire convo covers;

·         The near death of her daughter while in the middle of a separation

·         Questions to ask before getting into a 'serious' or de-facto relationship 

·          How do you know when it's time to end a relationship (and some of the signs)

·         The importance of perspective & gratitude in the face of hand grenades

·         Good enough is freakin great, & perfection is our armour

·         How to know your worth and step into that

·         Finding purpose in what you do & chasing your passion

·         Diving into the dating pool; oh & we had a rather stellar business idea around this

·         What holds people in a relationship, past its expiration date

·         When is the 'right' time to separate if you have children

·         Defining Failure

·         Till death do us part... yeah/nah

·         How to have a healthy relationship (spoiler alert, do the work required for growth before you step into the next one!)

And so much more...

Bridgette is a CDC-certified Divorce/Separation Coach with a post graduate dispute resolution qualification.  She’s also a trained divorce mediator (AIMNZ) Relationship Coach (Institute for Life Coach Training) an enrolled barrister and solicitor of the High Court of New Zealand 

Having experienced her own prolonged divorce, she founded Equal Exes in 2018.   Born out of her desire to support and guide people navigate their own separation and/or divorce with dignity. While at the same time enabling the process to be less time-consuming and costly. 

In conjunction with Equal Exes, Bridgette co-established with Nick Scarlett, Equal Group Holdings and Equal Workplace Support, providing new corporate programmes to assist employees with confidential divorce & separation support through their workplace. 

To learn more about the great work she & her team do check them out: 

Instagram: @equalexes & @equalgroupholdings or visit their website at equalexes.com

Thanks for joining us on this ride.  As always, we love hearing from you with guest suggestions, questions or topics.  Best way to reach us... on the old Insta: 
@unicornsandhandgrenades.life

If you need emotional support please head to www.findahelpline.com where you can find the helpline number for whatever country you live in.  IG: @findahelpline.   If in NZ text 1737 for help.

Catch you in the next episode.

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We're joined around the mic this week by our first guest of the season Bridgette Jackson.   So saddle up your Unicorns for this episode peeps,  & get ready for a dose of triple trouble!  This convo's equal parts realness, wisdom & laughter alike.  

Biddy is founder of Equal Exes & Co-founder of Equal Workplace Support.  She is a Relationship Coach, Divorce Coach, Divorce Mediator & Lawyer/Barrister.     

There is so much gold in this episode and Biddy is so generous in sharing her story,  wisdom and expertise, for the benefit of others.  Lucky us!  If you're single, in a relationship, needing to get out of one, or at the beginnings of one, this one's for you! Our around the campfire convo covers;

• The near death of her daughter while in the middle of an acrimonious separation
• Pro-active communicating & questions to ask before getting into a 'serious' or de facto relationship 
•  How do you know when it's time to end a relationship (and some of the signs)
• The importance of perspective & gratitude in the face of hand grenades
• Good enough is freakin great, & perfection is our armour
• How to know your worth and step into that
• Finding purpose in what you do & chasing your passion
• Diving into the dating pool; oh & we had a rather stellar business idea round this one, if we don't say so our self
• What holds people in a relationship, past its expiration date
• When is the 'right' time to separate if you have children
• Defining Failure
• Till death do us part... yeah/nah
• How to have a healthy relationship (spoiler alert, do the work required for growth before you step into the next one!)

And so much more.

If you would like to connect with Biddy and find out more about the great work she does, or take advantage of some amazing free resources to help you navigate relationships and separation head over to;

IG Handle: @equalexes & @equalgroupholdings or visit the website at equalexes.com

Thanks for joining us on this ride.  As always, we love hearing from you with guest suggestions, questions or topics.  Best way to reach us... on the old Insta: 
@unicornsandhandgrenades.life

Catch you in the next episode.

Big love
Jax & Kim 

We're BACK! Forgive us listeners, for we have sinned, it's been a year since we last released an episode. 

This is one of our most vulnerable episodes.  It's real, it's raw, and there's a fair amount of laughter in there too.  Mainly at our expense.

We're excited to reconnect with y'all again and we kick off with an update around our Hand Grenade & Unicorn moments, from our time away, and why we've taken a breather.

We talk: 

• Affairs - Jax opens up, for the first time about the experience of this  ending her 30 year marriage
• Dating  -  after aforementioned 30 year marriage & 4 years single, ye gods it's a jungle out there!
• Hustle Culture
• Chasing Happy & pushing Sh*t down
• Distracting from feeling the feels, Netflix, alcohol, over work, dating apps & validation, you name it, everyone’s got their go to distraction! 
• Overwhelm
• Anxiety

And loads more.  It's time to saddle up your unicorn and join us on the ride again beautiful humans! 

You can contact us on the ole IG: Unicornsandhandgrenades.life and feel free to slide on into our DM's with feedback or any guest or topic requests.

Keep being freakin awesome.  We appreciate you!

Jax & Jim. xx

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