In this episode I want to share one of my core beliefs that has got me through many challenges - the belief that I can make it work when faced with a lack of funds, shortage of time or something new and unknown. I believe wholeheartedly that I'll find a way. 

What You Will Learn In This Episode:

- How having the belief that you can make it work makes you more creative

- What a “could do” list is, and how it helps you come up with new options

- The connection between confidence and trust

- How trusting yourself to do the hard things helps build “I can make it work” attitude

I encourage you to reflect on your successes every single day. Take a few minutes before you go to sleep to reflect positively on your day. Remind yourself of the moments when you showed up for yourself and for others, of every win big and small, and of every time that you did make it work.

Resources:

- Everything Is Figureoutable, a book by Marie Forleo

- Episode 06 Letting Go of Perfectionism

- Free “I am enough” masterclass series https://mailchi.mp/clarewalshcoaching.com/freemasterclassseries

- Join the conversation over in my Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility

- Contact me at [email protected]

I can't believe we've reached 10 episodes already!

I wanted to mark reaching double digits with something a little different this week. Rather than having a big topic, I'm sharing some hints and tips along with some of my favourite books that have helped me and my clients with confidence over the last few years.

In this episode I share some of my top tips for building confidence:

- If there's a job or task that can be done in under a minute, then just do it

- If you're going into another room of your house, have a quick scan around to see if anything needs to be moved from there into another room and do it right away

- If you're feeling anxious, take a moment to ask yourself: what is happening right now, in this moment, in this room, here with me

- Make some time for yourself today

Top Books for Building Confidence:

- Playing Big: A Practical Guide for Brilliant Women Like You by Tara Mohr https://www.amazon.com/Playing-Big-Practical-Wisdom-Create/dp/1592409601/

- Thrive: The Third Metric to Redefining Success and Creating a Happier Life by Arianna Huffington https://www.amazon.com/Thrive-Redefining-Success-Creating-Well-Being/dp/0804140863/

- How to Fail: Everything I’ve Ever Learned from Things Going Wrong by Elizabeth Day https://www.amazon.com/How-Fail-Everything-Learned-Things/dp/0008327351/

Mindset: Changing the Way You think To Fulfil Your Potential (Updated edition) Carol Dweck https://www.amazon.com/Mindset-Updated-Changing-Fulfil-Potential/dp/147213995X/

Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers https://www.amazon.com/Feel-Fear-Do-Anyway/dp/0345487427/

Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert https://www.amazon.com/Big-Magic-Creative-Living-Beyond/dp/1594634726/

Resources:

- Let me know what you'd like to hear more about in future episodes at [email protected]

- Sign up for my Confidence Jump-Start coaching call and 7-day email support https://bit.ly/2NaxIoD 


What lights you up? What makes your heart sing? What makes you lose all track of time you enjoy it so much? Do you have a hobby that you love, but perhaps you haven’t been indulging in it as much as you would like to?

This episode is all about knowing ourselves better and bringing more fulfillment into our lives.

What You Will Learn In This Episode: 



- Why having a hobby is important

- Why our relationships and our careers should not fulfill all our needs

- The 80/20 rule in relationships

- The psychological and emotional benefits of of having a hobby

- What you can do re-introduce your hobby right now

Playing, having fun, being creative, pursuing a hobby just because you enjoy it is essential to a rich, fulfilling life.

My question to you is what are you going to commit to doing? How are you going to ensure that you're doing the things that light you up every day?

Resources:

- Sign up for my Confidence Jump-Start coaching call and 7-day email support https://bit.ly/2NaxIoD 


- Happiful - The 80/20 Relationship Rule - https://happiful.com/the-80-20-relationship-rule

How often do you catch yourself saying that you're really bad at saying no? This week, I've chosen a topic that got the women taking part in my free Grow Your Confidence Challenge very animated - how to say no with confidence and let go of that guilt. 

What You Will Learn In This Episode:

• How to change your story about saying no
• Why it's important to get clear about your boundaries and stick to them
• How to practise saying no with confidence
• Don't apologize and take time to think before saying yes or no
• Remember that every time you say yes to something, you're saying no to something else
• Why people respect someone who communicates their boundaries clearly and what to do if you get a push back

Know that saying no can be hard at first, but remember that action does build confidence. The more you do it, the easier it will get, and your comfort zone for saying no will get bigger and bigger.

Resources:

• Free download – Saying no with confidence and without the guilt https://mailchi.mp/clarewalshcoaching.com/saying-no-with-confidence-and-without-guilt

• Come and join the conversation over in my free private facebook group, Pathways to Possibilities https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility

 

Today we're talking about procrastination. Many of us ask ourselves why we put off the things we know we need to do, and even the things we want to do! We all procrastinate at times, including me, but why do we do it, and what can we do to stop it?

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• Is procrastination laziness?
• What are the common causes of procrastination
• How setting short-term goals can help us procrastinate less on big projects
• How to overcome the fear of rejection
• How perfectionism fuels procrastination

Procrastination can be far more exhausting than actually taking the action. So do yourself a favour and find a way to address the underlying cause of the procrastination, and then move into action. Your future self will thank you for it.

Resources:

 

• The Confidence Code: The Science and Art of Self-Assurance - What Women Should Know by Katty Kay and  Claire Shipman https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/B00DB368AY/

• Free download – Five Easy Ways to Grow Your Confidence https://mailchi.mp/clarewalshcoaching/five-easy-ways-to-grow-your-confidence

• Join my free private Facebook group Pathways to Possibilities https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility

 

 

This week we talk about letting go of perfectionism, and freeing ourselves from the burden of being perfect. If we feel confident only when we're perfect, it's holding us back, it is a confidence killer. We can't raise our confidence unless we're willing to stop trying to be perfect, and here is how.

The Five Steps to Let Go of Perfectionism:

• Admit that perfection does not exist
• Focus on the progress
• Believe that you are enough
• Accept that all you can ever do is your best in your particular circumstances
• Acknowledge and celebrate all of your successes

I'm aware that I may very well be asking you to change the habits of decades of perfectionism. It's not going to happen overnight, but if you commit to doing these five things you will get there. And remember that you're not meant to be perfect. Happy, confident people are those who aim to be the best they can be.

Resources:

• The Confidence Code: The Science and Art of Self-Assurance - What Women Should Know by Katty Kay and  Claire Shipman https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/B00DB368AY/

• Sign up for my group coaching programme Your Pathway to Confidence, Clarity and Courage https://clarewalshcoaching.com/pathway-to-confidence-clarity-and-courage

Now it's more important than ever to be kind to ourselves. But so many of us women are kind to everyone else except ourselves. What would happen if we replaced that mean negative voice with a loving supportive one? Let's tame that inner critic!

What You Will Learn in This Episode:

• The impossible standards we are measuring up to and why perfect doesn't actually exist
• How to start gaining insight into your inner negative commentary
• Noticing the patterns of when your inner critic shows up
• Understanding that the role of your inner critic is to keep you safe
• How to be playful with your inner critic and give it a personality
• The steps you can take to gain more confidence and change the way you speak to yourself

I encourage you to start a conversation with your inner critic, and start replacing the negative statements about yourselves with positive ones. 

If you want to dive deeper into the confidence journey, you can find details of my five week group coaching programme Your Pathway to Confidence, Clarity and Courage here: https://clarewalshcoaching.com/pathway-to-confidence-clarity-and-courage

I'm a great believer in celebrating, not just the big things like birthdays, Christmas and New Year but everything. A fun part of my job as a coach is hearing about my clients’ successes. If a woman is a step closer to the life she wants to lead, then that is worth celebrating.

What You Will Learn in This Episode:

• Why we ‘forget’ to celebrate our small wins
• How self-recognition works to bring us joy and fun
• Just because something is expected of you doesn’t mean it’s easy to do
• Why our brain is biased to negativity and how to practice focusing on positive things

We shouldn't wait until we hit our end goal before we take time to stop and celebrate. Let’s get into the habit of celebrating little wins too. It doesn't have to be costly or time consuming, just do something for you that reinforces the message that you're doing a great job.

Join my FREE Five Day Grow Your Confidence Facebook Challenge https://mailchi.mp/clarewalshcoaching.com/growyourconfidencechallenge

Join my private Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility

Today I want to illustrate what difference being able to trust ourselves can make by sharing some of my own story.

What You Will Learn in This Episode:

• Having clarity vs. having courage
• Learning to trust our own inner wisdom
• The process of discernment - what is going on, what needs to be done, taking appropriate action
• Feeling driven vs. feeling drawn to something

My own story is the reason why I'm so passionate about helping other women to unlock their confidence, clarity and courage so that they can change their lives, to live a life on our terms and thrive while we do it.

Book a free 30 minute clarity call with me https://clarewalshcoaching.com/schedule-appointment

Resources:

• Free download – Five Easy Ways to Grow Your Confidence https://bit.ly/3lVvSEY
• Join my private Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility

It's a rare client who doesn't tell me that she would like to be more confident. So today I talk about what confidence really is and how it’s connected with trust and intention.

What You Will Learn in This Episode:

• The definition of confidence
• How to build up trust in ourselves
• The importance of committing to ourselves before committing to others
• How to start being more intentional about what we want to achieve
• The power of the ‘word of the year’
• Setting daily and weekly intentions and writing them down
• How to set priorities and boundaries according to our intentions

To help you start taking those steps towards your dreams, download your free copy of Five Easy Ways to Grow Your Confidence here https://bit.ly/3lVvSEY

Join my private Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility