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My guest this week is a former Miss Arizona title holder, graphic design boss babe, and all around beautiful human being! I met Alexa Rogers nearly a decade ago and we reconnected on this week's episode to talk all about confidence, her pageant experience, and growing a side hustle.

Alexa Rogers graduated with a degree in business management, a Spanish minor, and an international business certificate from Arizona State University. She later went on to be Miss Arizona 2014 where she championed her platform of fighting homelessness for at-risk youth. With over 10 years of marketing & graphic design experience, she is the owner and designer behind Social Light Design where she creates custom GIFs, Snapchat Geofilters, printables and other designs for brands or your next event. Alexa is also a Global Executive Projects Manager for a boutique business consulting firm.


In this episode we talk about:
[4:40] The first time she remembers feeling sexy.
[7:54] How she got into pageants and running for Miss Arizona 2014.
[15:00] Her experience competing in Miss America.
[22:20] What she learned about herself during her time as Miss Arizona.
[24:40] How starting her side hustle empowered her.
[34:00] SEXY
[41:37] What sexy means to her now.
[44:50] Where to follow Alexa and shop her services.


CONNECT WITH ALEXA ROGERS
http://sociallightdesign.etsy.com/
Instagram: @alexa___rogers
                  @sociallightdesign

CONNECT WITH KELCY AND FIND YOUR SEXY:
www.findyoursexy.co
Instagram: @kelcyvalletta

Have you ever been in a situation where you felt like you weren't good enough or you were pretending to be someone you're not? Did you fear that you would somehow be exposed as a fraud? Don't leave me hanging... I felt this way BIG TIME when starting this podcast! This feeling is a pesky little friend called Imposter Syndrome and it shows up for all of us during uncomfortable times.

In this episode, I share 5 ways to overcome Imposter Syndrome and explain how getting familiar with your SEXY can really help you kick Imposter Syndrome to the curb!


CONNECT WITH KELCY AND FIND YOUR SEXY:
www.findyoursexy.co
Instagram: @kelcyvalletta
[email protected]

Have you heard of masculine and feminine energy, but have no idea what it means? Maybe you know what they are but feel stuck in one, unable to channel another. This can absolutely prevent you from feeling you're sexiest! Well, this week I interview Sam Harper of Sharper Advising, and she answers all of our questions (and MORE!)

Sam Harper is an executive leadership coach who helps high-performance leaders increase their efficiency and impact through her creative approach to deep coaching. She holds a Master’s Degree in Professional Counseling with over twenty thousand hours of experience in a clinical setting. Her areas of expertise include expressive art therapy and trauma. Her experience working with some of the most challenging populations allowed her to develop transformative solutions even for those with immense barriers to success.

In this episode we talk about:
[2:20] The first time she remembers feeling sexy
[5:45] How being a therapist for sex offenders shaped her view of sexuality
[10:25] How leaving her career and starting over has transformed her confidence
[11:55] Masculine vs. Feminine energy explained
[14:20] How to channel your feminine energy
[16:53] How to channel your masculine energy
[22:30] How balancing your masculine and feminine energy can help you feel sexier
[23:25] SEXY
[28:58] What sexy means to her now
[33:00] Her advice for not letting what people say about you affect you


CONNECT WITH SAM HARPER:
www.samanthaharper.com (coming soon!)
Instagram: @sam_e_pants

CONNECT WITH KELCY AND FIND YOUR SEXY:
www.findyoursexy.co
Instagram: @kelcyvalletta

I believe compliments are one of our superpowers (yes, we are Superheroes!) but we often don't use this power. We know how good it feels when we receive a compliment, yet when we like something about someone else, we often don’t go out of our way to tell them. Especially if it's a stranger!

In this episode, I explain why it's so important to GIVE THE DAMN COMPLIMENT and how it can actually impact someone's day. I also describe the difference between a plain ol' compliment and a real GENUINE compliment, because there is such a big difference! 


I also get a little personal with you at the beginning of the episode with some unsolicited updates on my life. 😂 


CONNECT WITH KELCY AND FIND YOUR SEXY:
www.findyoursexy.co
Instagram: @kelcyvalletta

Have you ever felt like sexy is a "dirty" word for professional women? Have you avoided being viewed in that light because you fear it would discredit you? My guest this week is here to talk with me about all those feelings and more!

Lauren Ruiz is an entrepreneur, attorney, and podcast host. After leaving corporate law where she negotiated multi-million dollar commercial contracts for a global corporation, she started her very own law firm, Guide My Business, and became a mentor to support local Arizona entrepreneurs. She recently launched the Legally Aligned Shop and The Legally Aligned Podcast that offers legal support and guidance to creators looking to serve their communities. 

Now, she has dedicated her career to helping entrepreneurs coast-to-coast to find confidence in their legal foundation and alignment in their purpose.


In this episode we talk about:
[6:40] Why sexy has been perceived as a "dirty" word for professional women.
[10:03] The first time she ever remembers really feeling sexy.
[12:30] What she learned working in a male dominated industry.
[16:55] How leaving her corporate law job and opening her own firm impacted her confidence. 
[21:15] What she learned about herself (and she's proud of) by becoming an entrepreneur.
[25:32] Her biggest tip for believing in yourself.
[26:42] SEXY
[34:50] What sexy means to her now.
[42:30] Pushing yourself outside of your comfort zone.
[45:19] Where to connect with Lauren.

CONNECT WITH LAUREN RUIZ:
www.guidemybusiness.co
www.legallyaligned.com
Instagram: @thelaurenruiz
                  @legallyaligned

CONNECT WITH KELCY AND FIND YOUR SEXY:
www.findyoursexy.co
Instagram: @kelcyvalletta

Since I’ve launched this podcast I have had so many people ask me if I will be interviewing men. And my answer has always been no. BUT that does not mean that this podcast is for female ears only. And it does not mean that I will never interview men in the future. In this episode, I’m going to explain why the Find Your Sexy podcast is actually a show for men as well as women.

CONNECT WITH KELCY AND FIND YOUR SEXY:
www.findyoursexy.co
Instagram: @kelcyvalletta

For so many women, body image is often a hurdle they must jump on the path to finding their sexy. What influences our body image and how can we improve it? How do we ensure that we raise our kids to have a positive body image? Well my guest this week is a Body Image Expert and Therapist, here to answer all my questions!

Dr. Morgan Francis is a Doctor of Clinical Psychology and a Licensed Mental Health Therapist. She is the owner of Scottsdale Premier Counseling, in Scottsdale, Arizona. At her private practice she treats young adults, individuals, couples, and families. Her mission is to break through the mental health shame game. With over 20 years of experience specializing in the treatment of Body Image and Eating Disorders, Dr. Francis empowers you to make peace with your body and food. Her online body image course, “Bye Bye Body Blame: You Deserve to Love Your Body Without Having To Lose Weight” teaches you how to stop dieting once and for all. In February of 2020, Dr. Francis launched a free mental health service called Mindful “text” Messages that go straight to your phone. She wants to help you make your mental health your number one priority. 

Dr. Francis is also a public speaker for various organizations, schools, and nationwide events. Dr. Francis captivated the audience on her message “Owning Your Worth and Appreciating Your Body” at the 2018 Powerhouse Women’s Event alongside Lindsay Schwartz and Lori Harder. She again served on the 2019 Powerhouse Women’s Panel. Additionally, in 2019 she was selected as a guest speaker at the Know Tribe Summit, which features the top women in the field of their industry. “So Scottsdale” magazine featured Dr. Francis where she discussed ending the stigma of mental health. Lulu Lemon recognized Dr. Francis as a “Female Leader” making a difference in the community for inspiring work on Body Image. Additionally, Dr. Francis is a frequent guest on Fox 10 News as an expert in the mental health field. 

Dr. Francis is a mother to three children ages 7, 6, and 4 years old and resides in Scottsdale, Arizona with her husband of ten years.


In this episode we talk about:
[2:14] How Dr. Francis got into the field of psychology.
[6:52] The most common factors that influence our body image.
[10:59] How to raise our children to have a positive body image.
[13:24] Why diet culture is trauma.
[17:59] The importance of seeing a variety of bodies in the media.
[28:53] Dr. Francis' advice/exercise for feeling sexier in your own skin!
[32:59] Steps to healing sexual trauma.
[35:15] Free resources and online courses.


CONNECT WITH DR MORGAN FRANCIS:
www.scottsdalepremiercounseling.com
Instagram: @drmorganfrancis
Mindful Messages: 1-202-759-6205
www.psychologytoday.com

CONNECT WITH KELCY AND FIND YOUR SEXY:
www.findyoursexy.co
Instagram: @kelcyvalletta

This episode is dedicated to our egos! You know the saying, "Your ego is not your amigo?" Well, I disagree! I think your ego CAN be your amigo! 

In this episode, I explain the difference between a healthy ego and an unhealthy ego, and how building a healthy ego can help you feel sexy and more fulfilled. I also give you 3 reasons why having a big ego is actually a good thing. Yes, you read that right!

In this episode, Sakura talks with me about how life as a lifestyle blogger, becoming a mom, and finding the right partner all contribute to her feeling sexy in her own skin.

I’ve dubbed Sakura the queen of keeping’ it real! And she had some FIRE advice and words of wisdom to share in this episode. MY favorite, “Just do you!”

Here are some of the key points in our conversation:

[2:55] The first time she ever felt sexy.

[4:40] How growing up in Japan gave her a different perspective on sexuality.

[6:40] How she got into blogging full time.

[10:35] How becoming a mom helped her to be happier, more confident, and feel sexier in her own skin.

[13:35] How being with the right partner brings natural confidence and better sex!

[15:50] SEXY

[17:40] Tips for feeling more confident on and off camera.

[24:10] What’s next for Sakura.

[26:03] What sexy means to her now.

[28:20] Sakura’s message to all the single ladies!

[31:40] Where you can follow Sakura.

Follow Sakura on Instagram @sakuraconsidine and her blog www.somethingsakura.com

For more information on Find Your Sexy, visit www.findyoursexy.co or follow me on Instagram @kelcyvalletta 

In this episode, I share some of the best advice I have ever received: be unreasonable!

“Unreasonable?!” you say. “Why would she want me to be unreasonable? Nobody likes people who are unreasonable!” Stay with me…

I explain what it means to be unreasonable and how choosing to do so can help you increase self-love, feel sexier in your own skin, and show up as the very best version of yourself every single day.

I promise you will be ready to be unreasonable after listening to this episode!

For more information, visit www.findyoursexy.co or follow me on Instagram @kelcyvalletta