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This week’s episode is a very special one… you might have noticed that there is no interview this week. This week’s episode is short and sweet. I am breaking the pattern. But just temporarily because there are some really exciting changes coming. For starters, this will be the last episode of Getting Sexual… BUT the podcast is not going anywhere!! Things are only ramping up from here. Starting next week, the show will have a brand new name with a clearer mission. You will have to stay tuned for next week’s episode to see what is changing and to hear me explain WHY I made this decision. 

BUT I put together this special episode with the help of so many incredible women who continue to make this mission possible. I reached out and asked them if they could send me a short audio recording explaining what the word “Sexy” means to them. Here’s what they had to say.

In this episode, I tell you why you’re not always going to feel sexy and share why I haven’t lately. It’s short and sweet, but oh-so relatable!

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In this episode, Madie and I discuss body image, unhealthy eating habits/disorders, her experience competing in a Bikini Competition, and the importance of how you choose to talk to yourself. 

Some key points are:

[3:50] How her journey with self-love began.

[7:45] Learning she had to fix her relationship with food so she could start loving herself and her body.

[9:22] My experience having an eating disorder and being uneducated at 13.

[10:45] How competing in a Bikini Competition took a toll on her, both mentally and physically. 

[19:00] SEXY

[21:33] How you talk to yourself matters!

[29:05] What sexy means to her now. 

I talk about [1:56] What is The Golden Circle? [3:20] How The Golden Circle mirrors the brain’s functionality and impacts our decision making, [5:56] How this relates to Find Your Sexy, [6:30] Visualizing yourself as a Golden Circle, [7:45] Is your WHY something you wanted or something someone else wanted for you? and [8:40] Become crystal clear on your WHY(s) in life. 

Dr. Zen talks with me about [5:50] The most common reasons she sees patients with sexual health concerns, [9:06] What is low libido, and how do you know if you’re struggling with it, and why? [10:00] It’s important to find a doctor you feel comfortable talking to about sexual health, [13:13] The 411 on birth control, what it does in your body, and how it can be related to low libido, [16:33] Common medications that affect women’s sexual health, [17:30] Why having sex is important for your health, [18:49] Why it’s important to understand the many different causes of low libido, [22:33] Why it’s important to get to know your body, [25:00] How to do an at-home breast exam correctly and what to look for, [26:50] What you can do at home to improve your sexual health, and [34:40] How to find a naturopathic doctor near you. 

I discuss, [3:35] all human beings have emotions and strive to be understood- no matter their sex, gender identity, or race, [4:45] the difference between conscious and subconscious emotions, [5:25] #1- Figure out what emotion you are feeling and verbalize it, [8:55] #2- Listen to your partner in return, [10:08] being vulnerable will help you and your partner both feel sexier in the relationship and as individuals, [10:47] #3- Have fun and share the positive emotions, [11:52] you deserve to feel every positive emotion even more than the negative ones, and [13:00] emotions are sexy!

Abby talks about [4:32] the first time she felt sexy, [5:43] how its hard to separate sexy from sex when you’re young, [6:59] realizing she hadn’t been living her truth until she was on her own after her divorce, [11:22] quitting her day job to pursue a career that fulfills her, [18:33] SEXY, [22:45] caring more about external opinions after starting her own business, [27:28] how setting boundaries has helped her maintain balance in her life, [40:17] you have all the tools of healing within you already, [41:41] what “sexy” means to her now, [42:37] one physical and character trait about herself she thinks is sexy, and [52:50] how taking care of yourself helps you show up better for others.

I talk about [1:10] Meeting Dr. Morgan Francis, LPC [2:10] You have overcome uncertainty before. [3:16] How to know if you are being brave, [5:15] Why its more challenging to be vulnerable with ourselves than others, [5:55] Why we need to practice self- empathy, [6:42] How bravery, vulnerability, and empathy impact our SEXY, and [9:50] How you can encourage the women in your life to explore their SEXY with you!

Jazz and I discuss [3:05] the first time she remembers feeling sexy, [3:42] how growing up in a Middle Eastern household impacted her view of female sexuality, [7:10] realizing that she is worthy of love, [9:00] how therapy helped her take charge of her life, [10:55] she’s an INFP and needs space to figure things out on her own, [13:43] how practicing radical self-acceptance changed her life, [15:05] struggling to reconcile the different parts of her life and how they fit into who she is, [16:23] you don’t have to be passionate about just one thing, [19:35] maybe following our passions is the purpose of life? [24:45] SEXY, [26:10] perspective is everything, [29:40] prioritizing integrity over looks and status, [38:18] there’s a difference between surrendering because you feel powerless and surrendering because you have faith, [40:05] what “sexy” means to her now, [42:50] one physical trait she finds sexy about herself, and [48:25] one character trait she finds sexy about herself. 

I talk about [2:30] what I’ve been doing at home, [6:20] experiencing feelings like a roller coaster, [7:50] how I feel about social distancing, [11:40] acknowledging people with anxiety and people who aren’t getting paid, [13:30] THANK YOU to all the people in professions who are working to help while we are at home! [16:30] why we are so fortunate! [19:00] the importance of practicing self-care (physical, mental, and emotional) and [22:30] how you can work on your SEXY at home.