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In today’s episode, I sit down with my dear friend and longtime client, Natalie Lee, who is now a Vice President at Louis Vuitton and one of the calmest, most intentional leaders I know.

When we first started working together almost three years ago, Natalie was leading Asia Pacific during the pandemic, pregnant, living in Hong Kong without family support, and running on empty. On paper, she was a high-performing executive. Inside, she was overwhelmed, emotionally drained, and in her first real season of burnout.

In this intimate conversation, Natalie shares how she went from constantly “on,” checking emails late into the night, feeling guilty for taking even one yoga class… to becoming a calm, confident, and deeply empathetic leader who protects her energy, works out at 7 a.m., and leads her team with presence and clarity.

We also talk about the deeper inner work behind her transformation—how childhood experiences with her aunts were still driving her reactions at work decades later, and how understanding her patterns helped her break the cycle of burnout from the inside out.

If you’re a high-achieving woman who feels like you “should be able to handle it” but are secretly exhausted, this episode is for you.

• Coco Duan helps high-achieving women executives who secretly doubt themselves to build calm confidence and create success that feels truly fulfilling.
• I'd love to invite you to take the next step toward building your calm confidence. Book your FREE one-hour consultation call here: https://calendly.com/cocoduancoaching/1-hr-consultation
• Or email me at [email protected] with the subject line: “Consultation.”
• Let’s discover what’s possible for you. 💫

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In this episode, I’m inviting you into one of the most important conversations we can have as high-achieving women: how to stop living from the chin up—stuck in our thoughts, analysis, and overthinking—and finally reconnect with the incredible wisdom of our bodies.

For years, I lived purely in my mind. I pushed through exhaustion. I made decisions that looked good on paper but felt wrong in my gut. I ignored every signal my body was trying to send me—until burnout, poor decisions, and emotional reactivity woke me up.

What I didn’t know then is what I teach now:
 Mindset isn’t enough.
Not if your nervous system is dysregulated.
Not if your body is exhausted.
Not if your intuition has been silenced for years.

In today’s episode, I walk you through why so many high-achieving women are disconnected from their bodies—and how that disconnection fuels overthinking, indecision, burnout, people-pleasing, and constant self-doubt.

You’ll learn:

• Why your nervous system—not your thoughts—drives your confidence, clarity, and emotional resilience
• How early conditioning and hustle culture train you to override your body signals
• The hidden costs of living in your head (emotionally, physically, professionally, and financially)
• Why “just think positive” doesn’t work—and never will
• The biological science behind intuition, clarity, and embodied leadership
• A simple 3-step process to reconnect with your body today (even if you’ve been disconnected for decades)

I also share personal stories—from ignoring my intuition in corporate hiring to burning out so badly I quit my job to becoming a yoga teacher—so you can see exactly how body disconnection shows up in real life… and what becomes possible when you finally come home to yourself.

If you’re tired of overthinking, pushing through fatigue, second-guessing yourself, and feeling disconnected from what you truly want—this episode is going to feel like a reset button.

By the end, you’ll walk away with more calm, more clarity, and a renewed sense of trust in yourself—mind, heart, and body.

• Coco Duan helps high-achieving women executives who secretly doubt themselves to build calm confidence and create success that feels truly fulfilling.
• I'd love to invite you to take the next step toward building your calm confidence. Book your FREE one-hour consultation call here: https://calendly.com/cocoduancoaching/1-hr-consultation
• Or email me at [email protected] with the subject line: “Consultation.”
• Let’s discover what’s possible for you. 💫

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Have you ever received feedback that shook you to your core?
 In this deeply personal episode, I share one of the biggest emotional breakthroughs I’ve had in years — how I turned a painful moment of shame into powerful growth through somatic parts work.

It started with a piece of honest feedback that hit harder than I expected. What followed was a cascade of emotions — shame, disappointment, and sadness — that revealed old survival patterns I didn’t even realize were still running the show. Through compassionate self-inquiry, somatic awareness, and support from my coach, I was able to meet the parts of me that were striving, perfecting, and overperforming… and finally give them what they’d been craving all along: love, rest, and acceptance.

In this episode, I’ll take you behind the scenes of that process — how I faced my inner critic, reparented my younger self, and reconnected with the playful, creative part of me that had been buried under years of achievement and pressure.

You’ll learn:

• How to recognize the parts of you driving overachievement and perfectionism
• Why intellectual awareness isn’t enough — and how to embody healing through somatic practice
• A simple visualization that helps you meet your younger self with compassion
• What it means to create from desire instead of pressure

If you’ve ever felt like you’re “not enough” no matter how much you do, this episode will remind you that healing is possible — and that growth often begins with the courage to feel.

• Coco Duan helps high-achieving women executives who secretly doubt themselves to build calm confidence and create success that feels truly fulfilling.
• I'd love to invite you to take the next step toward building your calm confidence. Book your FREE one-hour consultation call here: https://calendly.com/cocoduancoaching/1-hr-consultation
• Or email me at [email protected] with the subject line: “Consultation.”
• Let’s discover what’s possible for you. 💫

• Website: www.CocoDuanCoaching.com
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After returning from a month in Asia, I spent time reflecting—not just on the trip, but on how reflection itself has shaped my growth.

For most of my life, I didn’t reflect—I ruminated. I replayed moments in my head, judged myself harshly, and wondered what was wrong with me. Reflection felt like a waste of time. It wasn’t until I started therapy and coach training that I learned what true reflection is: intentional, productive thinking that integrates our experiences and transforms them into wisdom.

In this episode, I’ll share:
 ✨ The key difference between reflection and rumination—and why one fuels growth while the other drains you.
 🧠 The neuroscience behind why reflection helps you regulate your emotions and rewire your brain.
 💫 A simple 4-step framework to build a daily reflection habit that turns every experience—good or bad—into meaningful insight.

Reflection is how we close emotional loops, learn from our past, and step into our future with clarity and calm confidence.

So join me for this episode and learn how to pause, reflect, and truly grow.

• Coco Duan helps high-achieving women executives who secretly doubt themselves to build calm confidence and create success that feels truly fulfilling.
• I'd love to invite you to take the next step toward building your calm confidence. Book your FREE one-hour consultation call here: https://calendly.com/cocoduancoaching/1-hr-consultation
• Or email me at [email protected] with the subject line: “Consultation.”
• Let’s discover what’s possible for you. 💫

• Website: www.CocoDuanCoaching.com
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I recorded this episode from Lombok, Indonesia — a small island next to Bali — where I’ve been surfing twice a day for two weeks. Between the salt water, the wipeouts, and the stillness of the ocean, I realized something simple but profound:

We can’t stop the waves.
But we can learn to surf them.

In this episode, I share three “real-life waves” I’ve surfed lately — from unexpected home repairs to an injury on my first day at surf camp — and how nervous system regulation and parts work helped me stay grounded instead of spiraling into panic or frustration.

You’ll hear how I applied simple somatic practices to move through chaos with calm, how I befriended the inner voices that used to drive me, and how I now lead from my wise adult instead of my worried parts.

If you’ve ever felt like life keeps throwing you one wave after another — this episode is for you.

🌊 Listen in to learn how to find calm in the storm, not after it — and to remember that confidence isn’t the absence of waves, but the ability to ride them with grace.

• Coco Duan helps high-achieving women executives who secretly doubt themselves to build calm confidence and create success that feels truly fulfilling.
• I'd love to invite you to take the next step toward building your calm confidence. Book your FREE one-hour consultation call here: https://calendly.com/cocoduancoaching/1-hr-consultation
• Or email me at [email protected] with the subject line: “Consultation.”
• Let’s discover what’s possible for you. 💫

• Website: www.CocoDuanCoaching.com
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For years, I carried an invisible weight — one that whispered, “What’s wrong with me?”

When I froze in meetings, when I couldn’t leave a painful marriage, when I burned out and couldn’t make myself care anymore… I thought I was broken.

What I didn’t realize was that what I was experiencing wasn’t weakness — it was shame. And shame is one of the biggest barriers to healing and growth.

In this episode, I share how unhealthy shame quietly drives perfectionism, people-pleasing, and burnout — and how you can begin releasing it through awareness, nervous system regulation, and safe connection.

You’ll learn:

• The key difference between healthy and unhealthy shame
• Why shame lives in the body, not the mind
• A four-step process to release shame and reconnect with your worth
• How to move from self-attack to self-compassion

If you’ve ever asked, “What’s wrong with me?” — this episode will remind you: nothing is wrong with you. You are not broken. You are enough.

💬 If this resonates, share it with a friend who’s been carrying shame silently — and let’s start healing together.

• Coco Duan helps high-achieving women executives who secretly doubt themselves to build calm confidence and create success that feels truly fulfilling.
• I'd love to invite you to take the next step toward building your calm confidence. Book your FREE one-hour consultation call here: https://calendly.com/cocoduancoaching/1-hr-consultation
• Or email me at [email protected] with the subject line: “Consultation.”
• Let’s discover what’s possible for you. 💫

• Website: www.CocoDuanCoaching.com
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If you’ve ever woken up after a full night’s sleep and still felt tired…

If you’ve ever found yourself saying, “I just can’t do this anymore,” even when everything looks fine from the outside…

This episode is for you.

In this deeply personal conversation, I share my own journey through burnout — from corporate success to complete exhaustion — and what I’ve learned about what’s really happening beneath the surface. Burnout isn’t a lack of willpower, discipline, or strength. It’s your nervous system trying to protect you the only way it knows how.

I’ll walk you through my 4R Reset Process — a nervous-system-based framework to help you rebuild your energy and joy from the inside out:

✨ Recognize the early signs of burnout before it hits full force
✨ Regulate your body with gentle movement that restores safety
✨ Replenish what burnout makes you neglect — sleep, nourishment, connection
✨ Rewire the inner “Doer” part that equates rest with laziness

You’ll learn how to shift from chronic survival mode into a calm, grounded state where you can finally feel present, creative, and alive again.

I’ll also share why traditional fixes — vacations, mindset pep talks, or productivity hacks — don’t work, and how true recovery begins when you stop pushing against your biology and start working with your nervous system.

By the end of this episode, you’ll know exactly how to start feeling more energized, clear, and hopeful — not someday, but today.

• Coco Duan helps high-achieving women executives who secretly doubt themselves to build calm confidence and create success that feels truly fulfilling.
• I'd love to invite you to take the next step toward building your calm confidence. Book your FREE one-hour consultation call here: https://calendly.com/cocoduancoaching/1-hr-consultation
• Or email me at [email protected] with the subject line: “Consultation.”
• Let’s discover what’s possible for you. 💫

• Website: www.CocoDuanCoaching.com
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In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain to share what it’s really like to work with me inside my coaching process. For years, I’ve been talking about Calm Confidence, but I realized I’ve never actually walked you through the exact framework I use to help women go from stressed, self-doubting, and overwhelmed to calm, confident, and aligned.

Over three months, through my personalized 1:1 coaching program, I guide clients with my signature 4R Framework—Regulate, Rewire, Reclaim, and Realign. In this conversation, I take you inside each step: why nervous system regulation comes first, how we update old survival patterns, what it looks like to reclaim your true identity and values, and how to realign with the life and leadership you’re meant to live.

I also share parts of my own journey—from therapy, coaching, and meditation retreats to nervous system and parts work—and why I believe this embodied, bottom-up approach is so powerful and effective. You’ll hear real client transformations too: from taming their inner critic, to finding patience with their kids, to showing up in leadership with calm presence and courage.

If you’ve ever wondered what would it be like to have Coco as my coach?—this is the episode to listen to. You’ll walk away with insights, hope, and a clearer sense of what’s possible for you when you stop overthinking and start living from a grounded place of calm confidence.

• Coco Duan helps high-achieving women executives who secretly doubt themselves to build calm confidence and create success that feels truly fulfilling.
• I'd love to invite you to take the next step toward building your calm confidence. Book your FREE one-hour consultation call here: https://calendly.com/cocoduancoaching/1-hr-consultation
• Or email me at [email protected] with the subject line: “Consultation.”
• Let’s discover what’s possible for you. 💫

• Website: www.CocoDuanCoaching.com
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For years, I didn’t even realize I was settling.
 On the outside, my life looked picture-perfect: senior leader in a Fortune 500 company, making more money than I ever imagined, married, traveling the world, and living by the beach.

But inside, I felt disconnected, unfulfilled, and constantly telling myself, “This isn’t that bad. It will get better.”
That’s the sneaky thing about settling—it doesn’t always look obvious. It often hides behind success, comfort, or the fear of the unknown.

In this episode, I share:

• The subtle signs you may be settling without realizing it
• How our nervous system, protector parts, and limiting beliefs keep us stuck
• The exact tools I used to stop betraying my truth and start living in alignment—like the Alignment Scan, the Fear Check, and three powerful decision questions

You’ll hear my personal stories of settling in my career, marriage, and friendships—and the steps I took to finally reclaim my truth.

If you’ve ever caught yourself thinking “I should be grateful… it’s not that bad… things will get better later”—this episode is for you.

Because settling isn’t weakness. It’s actually proof of your strength and adaptability. But that very strength can keep you stuck in places that no longer serve you.

You deserve more than “good enough.” You deserve alignment, fulfillment, and a life that feels alive.

✨ Listen in, reflect with me, and take your first micro step toward a life that’s true to you.

• Coco Duan helps high-achieving women executives who secretly doubt themselves to build calm confidence and create success that feels truly fulfilling.
• I'd love to invite you to take the next step toward building your calm confidence. Book your FREE one-hour consultation call here: https://calendly.com/cocoduancoaching/1-hr-consultation
• Or email me at [email protected] with the subject line: “Consultation.”
• Let’s discover what’s possible for you. 💫

• Website: www.CocoDuanCoaching.com
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When I look back, I realize that for so many years, my loudest voice was my inner critic. No matter how much I achieved, it was never enough. I would replay meetings for hours, beat myself up over small mistakes, and carry shame for days after setbacks. Maybe you can relate.

In this episode, I open my heart and share not only my own journey of shifting from self-criticism to self-compassion, but also the exact process I now teach to my clients. Together, we’ll explore how to stop fighting yourself and instead become your strongest ally.

I’ll walk you through my 3R Reset Method—how to regulate your nervous system when that inner critic flares up, how to relate to it with understanding rather than resistance, and how to rewire your self-talk so that your inner voice becomes encouraging, kind, and deeply supportive.

If you’ve ever felt “not enough”—not smart enough, not doing enough, not liked enough—I want you to know you are not alone. And you don’t have to stay stuck in that boxing match with yourself. You can create more calm, more clarity, and more confidence by building a new relationship with your inner voice.

By the end of our time together, you’ll feel lighter, supported, and reminded that you are worthy of peace and self-trust.

So take a deep breath, grab your favorite cup of tea, and join me. Let’s begin the journey of quieting that inner critic—together. 💛

• Coco Duan helps high-achieving women executives who secretly doubt themselves to build calm confidence and create success that feels truly fulfilling.
• I'd love to invite you to take the next step toward building your calm confidence. Book your FREE one-hour consultation call here: https://calendly.com/cocoduancoaching/1-hr-consultation
• Or email me at [email protected] with the subject line: “Consultation.”
• Let’s discover what’s possible for you. 💫

• Website: www.CocoDuanCoaching.com
• Instagam: https://www.instagram.com/cocoduan/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cocoduan/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/coco.duan