You find what you're looking for in life. 

If you're looking for all the things that are going wrong, holding you back and what you can't do, YOU'RE GOING TO FIND IT!

On the flip side, if you start challenging yourself to start looking for all the things that are going well, the progress you've made and the small steps you've taken forward, YOU'LL FIND THEM TOO! 

Life is full of both fulfilling and stressful moments.  As humans we experience both joy and pain.  We have both positive moments and negative ones. It's the duality of life.  But which experiences are you choosing to focus on more?  Not sure? Answer this, if ten people give you a complement and one person gives you a criticism, what do you pay more attention to most the many complements or the one criticism? 

In this episode, I'll explain the biological wiring that guarantees you find what you're looking for and ways to rewire your brain so you find more of what you say you want. 

I'll do this with the help of one of my favorite self help books, The Gap and the Gain by Dan Sullivan. 

If after listening to this podcast, or this series, you're ready to get out of your own way and create the life you know you're capable of having ...  but you need someone to guide you along the way, teach you tools and concepts that will get you there and support you on this journey, click here  to schedule a free 1:1 zoom call with me to dive into where you are, where you want to go and how I can help get you there. 

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Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I’m a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.

This was no easy task and I’m not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself.

I told you it wasn’t easy … but I wouldn’t change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

Everyday you have two types of conversations.  The conversations you have with other people and the conversations you have with yourself.  Take a guess which one is more important. 

Here's a hint ... where ever you go, there you are.  

While you can ignore or avoid other people, you can never escape yourself. That's why you need to pay attention to the conversations you're quietly having in your head.

The truth is that voice in your head can either build you up or tear you down.  If the banter or chatter you regularly have with yourself is negative, critical or judgemental then chances are you're feeling stuck and frustrated.  

That's why we're tackling negative self talk in the 7th episode of the 'Unstuck Yourself Series'   In this podcast I'll share my own battle with the bully in my brain and how to retrain your brain to work for you instead of against you.  This is the stuff I wish I would have learned in my teens but I'm so thankful to be sharing it with you now!

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Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I’m a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.

This was no easy task and I’m not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself.

I told you it wasn’t easy … but I wouldn’t change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

What is self discipline and how do you get more of it?  Those are the questions we're tackling this week in 5th episode in the 'Unstuck Yourself' series.  

It really comes down to whether your playing the short game or the long game.  

Are you going to make decisions that feel good right now or feel really good later?  Are you willing to sacrifice what you want today for what you really want in the future?  If you sacrifice in the short term, you can have long term reward.   If want the reward now, you could be sacrificing that long term reward.  

I'll break it all down for you and what to do about it in this episode. 

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Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I’m a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.

This was no easy task and I’m not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself.

I told you it wasn’t easy … but I wouldn’t change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

This is the 5th podcast in the ‘Unstuck Yourself' series and in it I’m sharing the ‘2 Keys to Achieving Any Goal.’

While these keys are simple, I warn you they are not easy.

Having a life you love is going to require a certain level of discomfort and dedication on your part.   Don’t let that scare you.  I’m just being honest.

If going after what you want and making it happen were easy then everyone would be doing it.

You’re here because you believe achieving your goals is possible and in this podcast I’m going to share with you what it takes.

LET’S GO!

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Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I’m a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.

This was no easy task and I’m not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself.

I told you it wasn’t easy … but I wouldn’t change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

This is the 4th episode in the 'Unstuck Yourself' series.  Last week you set a goal for yourself.  Something that was specific, measurable and had a deadline.   This week, you're going to create the road map for accomplishing that goal because setting a goal is only half the job.  The other half is taking action. 

You know what you want but how do you get it?  

In this episode you'll learn the '4 steps To Taking Action.'  These steps will clearly lay out your own personal plan for achieving your goal.   

Everyones plan is going to be different because we are all different, with different goals, different skill sets, and different priorities.  

The framework you'll learn in this podcast will give you the tools you need to create your own individual path forward towards your specific goal.  This is not a one size fits all framework.  You will use this framework to discover what you need to do to accomplish your goal and then how to schedule it so it actually gets done.  

Let's do this!!!!!   

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Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I’m a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.

This was no easy task and I’m not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself.

I told you it wasn’t easy … but I wouldn’t change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

The number one reason people get stuck is because they stop growing.  They stop learning.  They stop working towards something new.  

In this podcast I'm inviting you to stop living in the 'miserable maybe' and make a powerful decision.  Decide where you want to go by deciding what goal you want to set for yourself.   

In the third episode of the UNSTUCK YOURSELF SERIES I'll share with you the importance of setting a goal and the elements of an effective goal.  

It's really hard to get where you're going if you don't know where that is.  Goals give you direction and focus.  

Maxwell Maltz once said, 'We find no real satisfaction or happiness in life without obstacles to conquer and goals to achieve.' 

If you want to wiggle loose, experience satisfaction and find some happiness again, start by listening to this podcast and setting a goal.   

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Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I’m a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.

This was no easy task and I’m not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself.

I told you it wasn’t easy … but I wouldn’t change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

One of the biggest reasons you get stuck is because of your thinking.  That’s not an attack, it’s good news.

It’s good news because that means you can get unstuck all by yourself.  It doesn’t require anyone in your life to change, you don’t have to massively alter your life to get relief and simply becoming aware of what’s going on between your two ears can be all it takes to wiggle loose.

This is the second podcast in the 'Unstuck Yourself Series' and in it I will show you how your mind is creating your experience in life.  Once you learn this, you can’t ignore it.  It allows you to take ownership of your feelings and empowers you to decide what story you’re going to tell yourself about everything.

There are no worksheets this week.  All I want you to do is create awareness around your thinking.  You can do this by simply writing down what you're feeling and getting curious as to why?  What are the facts?  What are the thoughts swimming around your head about those facts?  

Once you can see the story you're telling yourself, you then get to decide what you want to do with that story.  Do you want to keep it, alter it or completely change it? 

If you need help or have any questions, use the links below to find me on my social accounts and drop me a message or a DM.  

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Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I’m a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.

This was no easy task and I’m not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself.

I told you it wasn’t easy … but I wouldn’t change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

 If you feel stuck, want to wiggle loose but you don’t know where to start … GOOD NEWS!!!!!

This is the first episode in my UNSTUCK YOURSELF series! Over the next several weeks I will be laying out the blueprint to UNSTUCK YOURSELF.

First, I want you to know you’re not alone and nothing is ‘wrong’ with you.  Feeling stuck is a universal experience most people have at some point in their life.

Being stuck is one thing. Staying stuck in another. Oftentimes you don’t have control over what happened in your life that wedged you between a rock and a hard place. What happened, happened. It’s now up to you to decide what happens next.

I’m kicking off this series by inviting you to clearly define what you want. I know that’s a broad question but give yourself permission to just explore what comes up for you when you ask it.

Allow yourself to want something just because you want it. You don’t have to explain why you want it, how it would benefit you or your family or the reasons behind wanting it.

To some of you that sounds amazing and exciting, to others it sounds irresponsible and to some it sounds selfish. Just notice what that little voice in your head said when I invited you to allow yourself to want something just because you want it.

One of the biggest reasons people get stuck is because they stop growing. They do the same thing over and over, day after day and call that a life.

Try something different. Get curious about the little voice and its reaction to wanting what you want.  I’m going to help you do that in this podcast because you have to be clear on the results you want to create in your life if you’re going to get unstuck and create them.

You’re going to get a few simple questions to ask yourself to help uncover what you want. If you already know what you want, GREAT, I’ve got a few questions for you as well.

AND … if you want to get to know yourself better so you can Unstuck Yourself faster, email the word ‘WANTS’ to

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And I will send you my ‘Deep Dive’ bonus worksheets so you can take this work and go deeper!!!!

Okay, enough already!  Go listen to this podcast and don’t forget click the + and ‘Follow’ this show so you don’t miss the next episodes in this UNSTUCK YOURSELF series.

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Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I’m a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.

This was no easy task and I’m not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself.

I told you it wasn’t easy … but I wouldn’t change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

There's a time to grind it out and push forward and there's a time to slow down and take a break.  It can be tough to figure out which one you should do.  My recommendation is to try one method, see if it works and go from there.  

For most of my life I've adopted the 'grind it out, push forward' method and it has served me well ... until it didn't.  

Recently I've taken a break from this very podcast because grinding it out and pushing forward when what I really needed was rest and reflection wasn't working for me.  So I took a break.  I pushed paused on a few things so I could reprioritize where my time, attention and effort was going and I gave myself the space I needed to rest and reflect.   This podcast is about what I learned during that time. 

We are conditioned to just put our heads down and make stuff happen and there is definitely a time and place for that mindset.  But have you ever slowed down enough to reevaluate why you're doing that and whether or not it's truly serving you right now?  

Don't know how to do that?  I'm going to help you in this episode because sometimes you need to slow down now to go faster later.  

Want to shut up the inner critic and have more peace?  Get my free guide by clicking on the link below.  

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Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I’m a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.

This was no easy task and I’m not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself.

I told you it wasn’t easy … but I wouldn’t change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

You’ve heard the saying, you are responsible for your own happiness.  Hell, I’ve said it on this very podcast because it’s true. 

You are responsible for your own happiness.  But today we’re kicking it up a notch … You’re not just responsible for your own happiness.  You my friend are responsible for everything in your life.

And the moment you realize this, embrace it and run with it is the moment your life changes.

If you want to get unstuck, radical responsibility isn’t just going to wiggle you loose, it’s going to slingshot your life forward in ways you can’t imagine.

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Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I’m a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.

This was no easy task and I’m not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself.

I told you it wasn’t easy … but I wouldn’t change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.