Are you miserable in your marriage but not enough to get a divorce?  Do you feel more like roommates than lovers?  Do you ever wonder if you made a mistake marrying your spouse?  Do you feel like your happiness is contingent upon everyone else in the house being happy? Do you put your needs on the back burner to ‘keep the peace?’

Those are some pretty heavy (but relatable) questions.

If you answered ‘yes’ to any of them then this is the episode for you.  I’m sitting down and digging into all of that with Certified Advanced Relationship and Marriage Coach, Crystal Hansen.

While it’s common to feel lost in the roles of spouse, parent, provider, or household manager and feel as though your life isn’t your own, it also doesn’t have to continue that way.

Crystal talks about the importance of vulnerability in creating connections, why it only takes one person to ‘fix’ a marriage and why a ‘polite’ marriage isn’t necessarily a good one.

If you’re wanting more connection, less stress and a way to shift your perspective on your marriage than listen to this episode.

How to Connect With Pamela:

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How to Connect with Crystal Hansen

-Website: http://crystalhansencoaching.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/crystalhansen_/

About the host:

Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I’m a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.

This was no easy task and I’m not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside of me.

I told you it wasn’t easy … but I wouldn’t change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

If you’ve ever struggled to lose weight, you may be missing a critical piece of the puzzle.

While it’s important to be aware of what you put in your mouth and how much you move your body, it's just as important to be aware of what’s going on between your two ears.

Managing your mind is the missing piece.

There are countless resources on the internet and books that will tell you what to eat, what not to eat, how much to eat, what exercises to do, what exercises to avoid and yet most of us struggle to lose the weight and keep it off.

You know what to do, but you struggle to do it.  Why?  Because you're human!

My guest this week, Kristine Rucker, is a Certified Life and Weight Coach who specializes in getting people off the dieting merry-go-round. She helps her clients lose weight by focusing on the thought patterns that keep them stuck and then developing simple strategies to move forward.

She shares some of those simple strategies in this podcast.  These are things you can start doing today to have a big impact on tomorrow.

If your weight loss journey seems less of a journey and more of a merry-go-round, this episode is for you.

Want to feel better faster?

Grab my free guide:  4 Ways to Feel Better FASTER.  Small, simple, strategies you can start today to feel better tomorrow!

https://www.pamelahughescoaching.com/4waystofeelbetter

How to Connect With Pamela:

-Website:  https://www.pamelahughescoaching.com/

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/PamelaHughesCoaching

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pamelahughescoaching/

-TikTok:  @pamelahughescoaching

How to Connect with Kristine Rucker

-Website: https://kristinerucker.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kristinerucker/

About the host:

Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I’m a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.

This was no easy task and I’m not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside of me.

I told you it wasn’t easy … but I wouldn’t change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

Saying ‘no’ to mediocre opportunities is easy.  Saying ‘no’ to good opportunities is hard.

In order to have a great life you’re going to have to say ‘no’ to a lot of good things, which isn’t easy.

That’s what I’m talking about this week with Elana McKernan, a Master Certified Coach who, until recently, was the Chief Operating Officer for one of the biggest names in life coaching.

Elana walked away from a position so many people wanted so she could pursue what she truly wanted.  Her story resonated with me because that’s exactly what I did in broadcasting.  I walked away from a career I spent 17 years building to go after what I wanted.

If you’ve ever wanted more but didn’t know how to get it and therefore settled for what you have … this episode is for you.

This is an open and honest conversation from two women who were afraid to make a big move but did it anyway.  We don’t sugar coat things or tell you it’s easy.  What you will get out of this is a framework to challenge your own thoughts, the importance of developing a strong relationship with yourself and an example of what’s possible.

Want to feel better faster?

Grab my free guide:  4 Ways to Feel Better FASTER.  Small, simple, strategies you can start today to feel better tomorrow!

https://www.pamelahughescoaching.com/4waystofeelbetter

How to Connect With Pamela:

-Website:  https://www.pamelahughescoaching.com/

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/PamelaHughesCoaching

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pamelahughescoaching/

-TikTok:  @pamelahughescoaching

How to Connect with Elana

-Website: https://www.coachingwithelana.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elanamckernan/

About the host:

Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I’m a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.

This was no easy task and I’m not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside of me.

I told you it wasn’t easy … but I wouldn’t change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

Most of us have been brought up with 'all-or-nothing' thinking and don't even realize how much it's costing us.  

Either you succeed or you fail. 

If I'm right, then you're wrong. 

You're either with me or you're against me.  

If I get everything done on my to-do list I'll feel productive, if I don't I won't. 

These are all examples of 'all-or-nothing' thinking and I'm sure you can think of a lot more. They're absolutes and they pretty much paint you in to a corner.  They leave no wiggle room for anything else and create a lot of judgment of yourself and of others. 

This podcast aims to explain why we think that way and shares three simple ways you can begin to shift that pattern of thinking.  

Sure, sometimes 'either/or' thinking will get you where you want to go.  But I'd argue,  'both/and' thinking opens you up to so many more possibilities.  

Want to feel better faster?

Grab my free guide:  4 Ways to Feel Better FASTER.  Small, simple, strategies you can start today to feel better tomorrow!

https://www.pamelahughescoaching.com/4waystofeelbetter

How to Connect With Pamela:

-Website:  https://www.pamelahughescoaching.com/

-Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/PamelaHughesCoaching

-Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/pamelahughescoaching/

-TikTok:  @pamelahughescoaching

About the host:

Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I’m a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.

This was no easy task and I’m not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside of me.

I told you it wasn’t easy … but I wouldn’t change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

Everyday you have two types of conversations.  The conversations you have with other people and the conversations you have with yourself.  If you just thought, what conversation with myself, THAT conversation!  

How you talk to yourself is just as, if not more, important than the way you talk to other people.  WHY? Because wherever you go, there you are.  There's no escaping you. You want to be around someone who builds and lifts you up not someone who judges and tears you down.  Yet that's how we treat ourselves most of the time... until today!  

In this podcast I'm going to show you how to change the conversations you have with yourself.  The first step is becoming aware of what it is you're telling yourself.  By being honest about what you think of yourself you can then do something about it.  Which is step number two ... deciding what you want to think about you.   YES, you get to DECIDE what to think! You're allowed to do that and I will help you with that right now.  

Want to feel better faster?

Grab my free guide:  4 Ways to Feel Better FASTER.  Small, simple, strategies you can start today to feel better tomorrow!

https://www.pamelahughescoaching.com/4waystofeelbetter

How to Connect With Pamela:

-Website:  https://www.pamelahughescoaching.com/

-Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/PamelaHughesCoaching

-Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/pamelahughescoaching/

-TikTok:  @thepamelahughes

About the host:

Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I’m a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.

This was no easy task and I’m not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside of me.

I told you it wasn’t easy … but I wouldn’t change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

I have a love/hate relationship with discomfort.  I hate it because it’s uncomfortable but I love it because it means I’m growing.  Maybe ‘love’ is too strong of a word but I do appreciate discomfort.

My mentor, Brooke Castillo says discomfort is the currency of your dreams. You have to pay the price of being uncomfortable in order to get what you want.  When you start to see discomfort as an acknowledgement you’re taking a bit of a risk, as an indication that you’re growing and realize it shows up when you’re stepping outside of your comfort zone, your relationship with it will change.  Your perspective of discomfort will shift from something that is ‘bad’ to something that is ‘good.’

Think about it … if you were ‘willing’ to be uncomfortable, what would change?  What could you accomplish if being uncomfortable didn’t mean something was wrong, it meant you were actually doing it right?

That's what I'm talking about in this episode, The Upside of Being Uncomfortable.  After listening to it you'll never look at discomfort the same way again. 😉

Want to feel better faster?

Grab my free guide:  4 Ways to Feel Better FASTER.  Small, simple, strategies you can start today to feel better tomorrow!

https://www.pamelahughescoaching.com/4waystofeelbetter

How to Connect With Pamela:

-Website:  https://www.pamelahughescoaching.com/

-Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/PamelaHughesCoaching

-Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/pamelahughescoaching/

-TikTok:  @thepamelahughes

About the host:

Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I’m a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.

This was no easy task and I’m not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside of me.

I told you it wasn’t easy … but I wouldn’t change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

Bad things happen to good people and problems are a part of life.  It stinks but it’s true.  In this podcast I’m going to help you put your problems into perspective.  I’m not going to minimize what you’re going through or compare your struggle to someone else’s.  There’s enough of that going on and it’s not helpful AT ALL!

What I’m going to do is help you take a few steps back from the problem so you can start to get some clarity on it.  When you get clarity on the problem you start to see a solution.  That’s when you realize you can figure this out.

In this episode, I walk you through an exercise that will allow you to see how much you’ve overcome in your past and how much you still have to experience in your future.  By stepping back and zooming out on your life, you’ll start to see the reality of it versus the emotionally charged story of it… and that’s when you’re able to put your problems into perspective.

Want to feel better faster?

Grab my free guide:  4 Ways to Feel Better FASTER.  Small, simple, strategies you can start today to feel better tomorrow!

https://www.pamelahughescoaching.com/4waystofeelbetter

How to Connect With Pamela:

-Website:  https://www.pamelahughescoaching.com/

-Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/PamelaHughesCoaching

-Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/pamelahughescoaching/

-TikTok:  @thepamelahughes

About the host:

Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I’m a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.

This was no easy task and I’m not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside of me.

I told you it wasn’t easy … but I wouldn’t change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

You are not your thoughts, you are what you do. And there’s a BIG difference between those two things.

Sure, your thoughts are important because they create your feelings but you’ve got to get out of your head and into your life if you want anything to change.

The most successful people in life experience stress, fear, and confusion and they still take action.  They have fear and they do it anyway.   They don’t let the emotion stop them.  They don’t allow what’s happening in their head to prevent them from creating what they want in their life. They feel the fear and do it anyway.

If you want to change your life you have to start doing stuff … and stop just thinking about doing stuff.

In this podcast I’ll share some of my own personal stories of realizing, 'I am not my thoughts.'  I’ll also discuss the importance of deciding what you want, feeling all the feelings that come along with it and taking the next step to achieve it.

Want to feel better faster?

Grab my free guide:  4 Ways to Feel Better FASTER.  Small, simple, strategies you can start today to feel better tomorrow!

https://www.pamelahughescoaching.com/4waystofeelbetter

How to Connect With Pamela:

-Website:  https://www.pamelahughescoaching.com/

-Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/PamelaHughesCoaching

-Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/pamelahughescoaching/

-TikTok:  @thepamelahughes

About the host:

Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I’m a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.

This was no easy task and I’m not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside of me.

I told you it wasn’t easy … but I wouldn’t change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

ᴜɴᴄᴇʀᴛᴀɪɴᴛʏ ɪꜱ ᴜɴᴄᴏᴍꜰᴏʀᴛᴀʙʟᴇ.  Not knowing what’s going to happen or how something is going to play out can be both frustrating and scary.

The truth is you never really know exactly what is going to happen in any situation because certainty doesn’t exist.

In this episode I’ll talk about how we’re addicted to predictability and the stress that creates.

How certainty leads to complacency and exploring the idea that everything you want is on the other side of uncertainty. .

𝕋𝕙𝕖 𝕠𝕟𝕝𝕪 𝕥𝕙𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕔𝕖𝕣𝕥𝕒𝕚𝕟 𝕚𝕟 𝕝𝕚𝕗𝕖 𝕚𝕤 𝕥𝕙𝕒𝕥 𝕝𝕚𝕗𝕖 𝕚𝕤 𝕦𝕟𝕔𝕖𝕣𝕥𝕒𝕚𝕟.

Want to feel better faster? 

Grab my free guide:  4 Ways to Feel Better FASTER.  Small, simple, strategies you can start today to feel better tomorrow!

https://www.pamelahughescoaching.com/4waystofeelbetter

How to Connect With Pamela:

-Website:  https://www.pamelahughescoaching.com/

-Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/PamelaHughesCoaching

-Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/pamelahughescoaching/

-TikTok:  @thepamelahughes

About the host:

Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I’m a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.

This was no easy task and I’m not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside of me.

I told you it wasn’t easy … but I wouldn’t change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

You're winning at the life you currently have.  ALWAYS!  

Not crazy about how life is going right now, that's okay, you're still winning at it.   In this episode I'm expanding on an idea from author, Gary John Bishop, that we are 'wired to win.'  

So what are you winning at?  What are you winning at proving is true over and over and over again … even if it doesn’t feel good?  What is it that you are gathering a ton of evidence for, and winning at being 'right' about, even though it might feel better to be wrong?

These are the stories we tell ourselves and they shape how we experience life.   While these stories may feel true they are also optional.  

In this podcast you'll learn how to uncover the beliefs and stories you're winning at and how to change them (if you want to.) 

MENTIONED ON THIS EPISODE:

Unf*ck Yourself: Get out of your head and into your life. By Gary John Bishop

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Free Guide - 4 Ways to Feel Better.  Small, simple, strategies you can start today to feel better tomorrow!

https://www.pamelahughescoaching.com/4waystofeelbetter

How to Connect With Pamela:

-Website:  https://www.pamelahughescoaching.com/

-Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/PamelaHughesCoaching

-Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/pamelahughescoaching/

-TikTok:  @thepamelahughes

About the host:

Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I’m a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.

This was no easy task and I’m not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside of me.

I told you it wasn’t easy … but I wouldn’t change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

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