Some of the things we learn and habits we form throughout our lives can hold us back rather than helping us grow. In that case, it isn’t what you learn but what you unlearn that makes the difference. My guest today is an amazing person that went through lots of unlearning throughout his life. Michael Gagnon, Senior Enterprise Manager, Remote Support Sales at GoTo, joins us today to share his story and how we can improve our lives by unlearning some of the habits & practices that have been in our lives for a very long time. 

Michael’s Story – Michael grew up in a family of military personnel. He shares his thoughts on how that background shaped his life and the lessons learned from it.

Process of Unlearning – Michael shares with us what it was like to unlearn some of the things he had been familiar with for a long time.

Overworking – Many of us are so much used to overworking and we tend to think that working as hard as we can is the way to move forward. Michael talks about this mindset and the negative effects this mindset will have on our lives and relationships.

Productivity – How unlearning helps us improve our productivity and spend more time with people that matter the most to us.

Implementation – How to implement the measures that will bring you happiness in your life.

Looking into the Future – We sometime make sacrifices from the present moment in pursuit of better things in the future. Michael talks about how this can lead to a situation where we’ll be sacrificing too much from the present moment and how to keep a good balance between the two.

Resources:

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LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/gagnonmichael

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We all make mistakes in life.  Elite performers bounce back faster because they've learned a critical distinction.  Tune into this episode to learn about this distinction and how to put it to work for you.

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Don’t run from it.  We are better equipped to deal with life’s adversities than we give ourselves credit for.  This is just one of the topics that we dive into this week with my guest, Paul Epstein,  who has spent nearly 15 years as a pro sports executive for multiple NFL and NBA teams, a global sports agency, and the NFL league office. He founded the San Francisco 49ers Talent Academy—where he became known as the “Why Coach”.  He is a global keynote speaker, #1 bestselling author of “The Power of Playing Offense."  You don't want to miss his insights!



Paul's Story – Mentioning the pivotal moments in his life and the lessons he's learned, Paul shares his exciting journey so far.

Embrace the Fire – While most people want to avoid the fire, Paul is a firm believer in embracing it. He delves into the topic of embracing power in great detail.

You Know it Already – Paul makes an important point about dealing with adversity through the use of events we have already encountered.

Mindset Matters – Paul emphasizes the critical role of our attitude, mind, and energy in overcoming obstacles and evolving into our best future selves.

Personal Mastery - Seeing it as the cornerstone of identity, Paul provides his perspective on personal mastery.

Values – Paul shows how to tap into someone's purpose by mentioning values for the head, heart, and hands.

Call a Timeout – Paul demonstrates how observant we can be when constantly operating at top speed.

The Purpose – Paul points out the importance of having a clear sense of purpose and the obstacles that stand in that way.

Problems Vs. Opportunities - In reference to the remark from his book that "underneath our biggest problems lie our biggest opportunities," Paul discusses how the worst challenges result in the most incredible opportunities.

Paul's Work - Paul talks about how he helps people stand out with his work while mentioning WHY Institute and his podcast.

Resources:

Connect with Paul:

Website: whyinstitute.com/purpose/

LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/paulepsteinspeaks/

Playmakers: On purpose: playmakerspod.com

Mentioned in the episode:

The Power of Playing Offense: A Leader's Playbook for Personal and Team Transformation: goodreads.com/book/show/56362212-the-power-of-playing-offense?from_search=true&from_srp=true&qid=LDRFewtb3Y&rank=7

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We will all have those moments where life gets dark or overwhelming.  My dad taught me a valuable lesson about how to build your tribe -- long before he needed them.  Tune in to here the rest of the story! 

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Jeffrey Grant's path has had some twists and turns:  After an addiction to prescription opioids and serving almost fourteen months in a Federal prison for a white-collar crime he committed in 2001 when he was lawyer, he started his own path back and found his calling.  Tune in to hear the insights he has learned on his journey from prison to calling.

Jeff's First Life – Jeff tells his journey of various twists and turns, none of which he could have predicted would result in such a great life.

Being a Sober – Jeff discusses what he believes helped him stay sober when everything seemed to be collapsing around him.

Isolation and Community - Jeff provides a comprehensive explanation about his saying, "Isolation damages us, and the answer is community."

Comeback Story – Whatever the worst-case scenario occurs in our lives, we must have a story of redemption. Jeff explains how he assists someone is preparing to write their comeback story.

Jeff's advice – Jeff delivers some suggestions for individuals who self-sabotage on how to move ahead.

Resources:

Connect with Jeff: 

LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/revjeffgrant

Website: grantlaw.com

Business Insider: A lawyer who went to prison for 9/11-related fraud just got his law license back, and became an ordained minister along the way, by Peter Coutu, July 2021: https://www.businessinsider.com/jeff-grant-lawyer-prison-minister-disbarred-911-law-license-reinstated-2021-7

Reuters: Jeff Grant 'Let Go of the Outcome': How this Felon Beat Addiction and Won Back his Law License, by Jenna Greene, May 2021: https://www.reuters.com/business/legal/i-let-go-outcome-how-this-felon-beat-addiction-won-back-his-law-license-2021-05-21/

American Bar Association Criminal Justice Magazine, "A Rising Tide Lifts All Boats: Progressive Diversion & Reentry," by Jeff Grant and Chloe Coppola, Spring 2021: https://www.grantlaw.com/american-bar-association-criminal-justice-magazine-springp21-issues-a-rising-tide-lifts-all-boats-progressive-diversion-recovery-by-jeff-grant-chloe-coppola-2/

Forbes: As Law Enforcement Pursues SBA/PPP Loan Fraud, A Story Of Redemption, by Kelly Phillips Erb, July 2020: https://www.forbes.com/sites/kellyphillipserb/2020/07/14/as-law-enforcement-pursues-sba-loan-fraud-jeff-grant-talks-redemption/#7a4f70cc4483 

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Most of us have expectations of ourselves as well as of others. When such expectation is not satisfied, we are disappointed, making life more difficult. Also, the damaging effect of the word should is considerably more significant than it appears. On the other hand, that is why it is said that disappointment is an outcome of unrealistic expectations. Being constrained by the word should is almost certainly followed by annoyance, embarrassment, agitation, anxiety, and a sense of failure. 

Should – "Should" robs our total capacity for discernment because we are too preoccupied with judging. "Should" steals our power for adjustment because we are too distracted with shame. "Should" deprives us of delight because we were too preoccupied with comparing ourselves to some fictitious benchmark.

Start Noticing - Consider how often you use the word "should" on yourself throughout the day. Then, change your focus to how this term makes you feel. Use those emotions as data to effect change. You can teach yourself to pause when you experience such emotions.

Exercise – Take three deep breaths. Three deep breaths are sufficient to silence the internal judgment critic that we all carry and return us to a more relaxed state in which we can perceive the issue more clearly and thus choose a more appropriate reaction.

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Today’s guest, Joshua B. Lee, is affectionately known as the Dopamine Dealer of LinkedIn.  He founded Standout Authority in 2014, so he could help entrepreneurs, business owners and professionals humanize their professional or company brand on LinkedIn. 

Resources:

Connect with Joshua:

LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/joshuablee/

Mentioned in the episode:

Balance Is Bullsh*t: How to Successfully INTEGRATE Work & Life:
 goodreads.com/book/show/34576870-balance-is-bullsh-t? 

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Believe it or not, how and what we ask ourselves will largely determine if we remain optimistic and encouraged or if we shut down and feel discouraged.  In this episode I share some of my favorite questions that I’ve used for myself and with clients and a list of questions that we should NEVER ask of ourselves! 

Mentioned in the episode:

Choosing Optimism Will Change Your Life: bobbikahler.com/podcast/episode093/

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 My guest today, Marc Jeffreys, is a very successful entrepreneur and author.  He has written 2 books: The Secrets of Retailing: How to Beat Wal-Mart, which caught the attention of Ariana Huffington and led to him writing nearly 100 articles for the Huffington Post, and his second, most recent book is "I don’t want to turn three," written from the standpoint of a toddler.  His passion is inspiring grandparents to get more involved in the lives of their grandchildren.  

Resources:

Connect with Gramps Jeffrey:

Website: grampsjeffrey.com/

Email: [email protected] 

LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/gramps-jeffrey-3b022b214/

I Don't Want to Turn 3: idontwanttoturn3.com/

I Don't Want to Turn 3: turning3.net/

Mentioned in the episode:

I Don't Want to Turn 3: goodreads.com/book/show/58327437-i-don-t-want-to-turn-3?from_search=true&from_srp=true&qid=4n0lPGIX66&rank=1

How Will You Measure Your Life? : goodreads.com/book/show/13425570-how-will-you-measure-your-life?from_search=true&from_srp=true&qid=DHLHzjiYUy&rank=1

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We make change harder than it needs to be.  In this episode, I share 2 simple and proven strategies that makes change easier for ourselves and those around us.  

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