If you're constantly spinning between blaming your husband for looking at porn and then turning around and blaming yourself for not being enough, you're trapped in a vicious cycle that's keeping you stuck. You know that exhausting mental ping-pong where you go from "He's ruining our marriage!" to "Maybe if I was prettier/better/different..." – and neither thought brings you any peace?

In this episode, I'm exposing the sneaky blame-shame trap that's secretly sabotaging your healing (hint: it has nothing to do with whose fault it actually is). I'll show you exactly how to break free from this destructive pattern and share the radical mindset shift that changed everything in my own marriage. Plus, I'm getting vulnerable about my own struggle with this just last night – because yes, even coaches get caught in this trap sometimes!

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The pain and hurt you're feeling from your husband's porn use isn't actually from his porn use – it's from what you're making his behaviors mean about you. In today's episode, I'm diving deep into the lies you believe about yourself. These aren't lies that other people are telling you – these are lies you've been telling yourself, and they started way before your husband's porn problem.

Most of the negative beliefs we carry about ourselves were developed before we were 8 years old. Your brain has been gathering evidence for these beliefs for years, and now your husband's porn use is just shining a spotlight on wounds that were already there. But here's the good news: just like your brain learned to believe these lies through repetition, you can rewire it to believe the truth about who you are.

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When your husband struggles with prn use, everyone tells you to "just forgive him" – but what if forgiveness isn't that simple? What if you're trying to forgive but you just can't get there? In this episode, I'm breaking down the 4 stages of forgiveness that every betrayed wife goes through. I'll help you identify exactly which stage you're in right now and why you might be feeling stuck there.

The truth is, forgiveness isn't a one-time decision – it's a journey with distinct phases. Understanding these stages will help you stop beating yourself up for not being "further along" and give you a clear roadmap for moving forward. Whether you're in the anger stage, the numbness stage, or somewhere in between, this episode will show you exactly what you need to do to move through each phase at your own pace.

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If your husband is struggling with porn use and you’re snooping on his phone and feeling anxious, or you’re in shut down mode and just don’t care anymore, you won’t want to miss this episode. I’m going to tell you why these things aren’t happening because of your husband’s porn problem – but because of your nervous system. I’m doing a deep dive into how your nervous system is affecting your betrayal and how to take the first steps in healing it. 

Click here to get my new journal Becoming Whole After Betrayal: A Guided Journal with 90 prompts to process your emotions, rebuild your confidence, and rediscover your self-worth.

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This week I discovered a household item that I didn’t even know existed – a vegetable chopper. This tool has made my life significantly easier and I wish I had found it sooner! This is the same with betrayal healing. If you’re feeling stuck, frustrated, or hopeless in your betrayal healing, you won’t want to miss this episode. I am sharing 2 tools that you probably didn’t even know existed. I usually only share these tools with my clients in my membership, so you’ll want to tune into today’s episode! This episode is a little bit different because it is very application based and I hope you will come away feeling more empowered with the new tools you have in your pocket!

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In this episode I answer questions that are on your mind! I talk about how to rebuild trust, how to deal with a relapse, and how to rebuild your self worth! 

Click below to get my new journal Becoming Whole After Betrayal: A Guided Journal with 90 prompts to process your emotions, rebuild your confidence, and rediscover your self-worth.

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Watch my free video explaining ⁠the real reason your husband watches porn here⁠!

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When you’re dealing with betrayal you are probably not showing up as the person you want to be. You’re constantly checking his phone, you’re exploding in anger, you’re being judgemental, or you’re not taking care of yourself. If you want to stop doing these things but you just can’t stop, this episode is for you. I’m going to talk about self sabotage – why we do it and how to stop. Once you understand your self sabotaging patterns then you can rewire your brain and start living the life you want.

Click below to get my new journal Becoming Whole After Betrayal: A Guided Journal with 90 prompts to process your emotions, rebuild your confidence, and rediscover your self-worth.

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Watch my free video explaining ⁠the real reason your husband watches porn here⁠!

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If your husband is struggling with prn or other sexual behaviors, he might be doing all the things – going to therapy, attending groups, using an accountability partner… but it’s probably more likely that he’s not. Waiting for your husband to get his act together is frustrating, disempowering, and can sometimes feel hopeless. So what should you do if your husband doesn’t want to change? In today’s episode, I’m going to talk about 3 things you can start giving your energy to today that will help you if your husband isn’t ready to change yet. 

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In the last episode, Matt shares about his early experiences with pornography use and what happened once I found out. In today’s episode, Matt talks about his journey of recovery. It hasn’t been an easy road, and he still struggles – but he’s found hope and healing and believes that every man who struggles can find that too. 

Watch my free video explaining ⁠the real reason your husband watches porn here⁠!

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You’ve heard my story dozens of times, but you’re probably curious about Matt’s side of the story. Matt has struggled with pornography since he was young and on today’s episode, Matt shares his early experiences with pornography and how it affected him in our early marriage. Matt shares about what it was like hiding his porn use and how hard it was for him once I found out. This is a two part episode, so tune in next week to hear the rest! 

Watch my free video explaining ⁠the real reason your husband watches porn here⁠!

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Send in questions or topic requests to ⁠[email protected]⁠