Vital Evolution

Today I have the privilege of sharing an interview with Eddie Wilson, a serial entrepreneur. He has built, run, and sold over 100 businesses in his young 43 years. Eddie is sought out all over the globe for his wisdom and abilities in leadership and business. He currently owns 33 businesses, but that changes all the time. Eddie shares his story of transformation in the interview; he felt so dissatisfied with life and turned it all around. Everyone will take something away from this powerful story that they can use to help them change their lives. 

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Today I offer a scripted hypnosis technique for one of the most common pains we experience: HEADACHES. So if you have a headache, this is the episode for you. To receive the most benefits and to be safe, please do not listen to this episode while driving or operating heavy machinery. Further, for the greatest benefits, please listen to it multiple times to train yourself in self-hypnosis.

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Today I am offering a follow-up and deepening of a Brene Brown Episode from September 28th, where she interviews Drs. John Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman wrote who wrote The Love Prescription: 7 Days to More intimacy, connection, and joy. 

·        What is love? Action. Verb. Distinguish from a feeling. 

o   Ex. I unload the dishwasher to show my wife I love her. Versus doing something because I feel like loving her. 

·        Discuss bids for attention. Being aware of self. 

·        Julie stated that we often become critical as a result of our own inner critic. 

·        From her research at the Love Lab that 3 things stuck out:

o   Curious, share fondness and admiration for each other, turn toward each other

·        Definition of Love:  State of Being and love is a desire for unity and the choices that follow.

·        Only way to get there is to love from the inside out. Not outside in…Not loving because someone else does something, but doing it because that is who you want to be. 

·        We need to start by doing these for ourselves…

 How does understanding love help you LEAD Lucky? We don’t react with the emotional brain. 

 Closing: What is one thing you will take away from the episode today? What will you do? 

Remember: Living Lucky is not living alone…if this helped you, share it. Please rate the podcast. Second, connect with us and post questions. The links are in the notes… Follow us to know when the next episode is available. Live Lucky Therapy is available. My book and workbook are on amazon. Please rate those as well! I appreciate being with you today, and I look forward to discussing Living Lucky more next time.

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"This triggered me." 
"I was triggered by that." 
Today we discuss "triggers," their impact, and what to do with them. 

Have you ever been going along your merry way in life, and someone says or does something that just throws you into a rage? OR a situation happens, and your only instinct is to run? That is the topic of today…Those Darn Triggers…

·        What is a trigger? 

o   Ex. Rejection. Dictates our relational & communication strategies

·        What does a trigger do? We become a victim. A victim or victim mindset is where...

o   Fear controls us. Let others and situations control us. 

o   Fear is never a motivator it is only a controller.

·        Trigger vs catalyst

o   Hall of Mirrors episodes (6-10)

·        We BECOME victims, so we have to BECOME something else. Choose your I AM. 

 How does turning triggers into catalysts help you LEAD Lucky? Allows you to be who you want to be instead of being tossed and turned by the throws of your emotional brain. Therefore…

 Closing: What is one thing you will take away from the episode today? What will you do? 

 Remember: Living Lucky is not living alone…if this helped you, share it. Please rate the podcast. Second, connect with us and post questions. The links are in the notes… Follow us to know when the next episode is available. Live Lucky Therapy is available. I appreciate being with you today, and I look forward to discussing Living Lucky more next time.

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Today I am reading the entire first chapter of The Gift of Luck book written by yours truly! This is the companion book along with The Gift of Luck Workbook for Live Lucky Therapy.

I began writing The Gift of Luck as a result of life coaching in 2017. The question that drove me is: How can I use this one life to make the biggest impact for good? As a therapist, I love working with people one-on-one. The Gift of Luck, The Gift of Luck Workbook, and Live Lucky Therapy allow me to work with an unlimited number of individuals, couples, families, and leaders. As part of the framework, you are invited to help 10 people in their growth and healing journey. I realized if I helped only 10 people, those 10 helped 10 people, and so forth, then it would only take 10 levels of change to reach the entire population! That is an incredible truth that is attainable. However, it starts with you. If you don't grow and heal, then the momentum stops.  This can be overwhelming and empowering! You have the power to positively influence all generations to come as you heal yourself. That is the power of change!!

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Today we discuss an important topic that was presented on the Joe Rogan Podcast Episode #1869 with Dr. Gabor Mate. Dr. Mate brought up how trauma affects our development from a very young age and one shift that we can begin making in our relationships. Further, Dr. Mate discussed the genetic predisposition of addiction and the hope that those struggling with behavioral addictions can claim. I share my thoughts on these two important topics from my own experiences. 

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Today I am excited to share an interview with Ashley and her harrowing journey through Complex PTSD. She began talk therapy at 17yo, and this interview shares her 20+ year healing path. Everyone can take something away from her story! 

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Today we are completing our series on Relationships: Top 5 Relationship Savers. In the first episode, I intended to guide you into opportunities to step into improved relationships with everyone around you: your significant other, your children, your coworkers, your friends, and your family. I hope that has been fruitful. LAST Relationships Saver: Breathe life into your relationships…

·        2 ways of doing that: Literally. Emo brain into thinking brain. Helps you recognize your motivations and beliefs that drive your reactions and interactions. You have that opportunity to choose differently. 

·        Second way: Breathing is something we need to survive. Breathe life, breathe death, or hold your breath. 

o   Hold your breath – no voice. No connection. Roommates [we’ve all experienced this.] Another way…starvation. Looks like silent resentment. Or find another source of life. [Entitlement – role]

o   Breathe death – 5 course meal of spoiled milk, rotten meat, moldy bread, stale crackers, and vinegar. Criticism, unsafe anger, aggressiveness or pass-agg. 

o   Breathe life – love, acceptance, safety, time, support. Takes intention! 

·        Where to start: Always HOPE. Things can be different. If you need a guide, there are plenty of options there. 

 How does breathing life into your relationships help you LEAD Lucky? "Boy, boy, crazy boy. Get cool, boy  Got a rocket In your pocket Keep coolly cool, boy." A little West Side Story for you all. Keep focusing on calming your own emotional brain, and you will think more clearly and be more of the leader you want to be. That is a promise.

 Closing: What is one thing you will take away from the episode today? What will you do? 

 Remember: Living Lucky is not living alone…if this helped you, share it. Please rate the podcast. Second, connect with us and post questions. The links are in the notes… Follow us to know when the next episode is available. liveluckytherapy is available. I appreciate being with you today, and I look forward to discussing more Living Lucky next time.

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Part 4: Top 5 Relationship Savers. By now, your relationships have taken a right turn toward amazing, right? Relationships Saver: Choose to be endeared…choosing to love something about someone.

·        I need to start this with how much I love my wife. You know where I’m going with this…

·        Since the day we met, we have each had behaviors that have invited patience and grace because of our annoying behaviors. I’m sure I’m not alone in choosing to be annoyed with other people’s behaviors…

·        My digestive system and her drinking…

·        We have the choice to be endeared. These are the very things that if something took our lives today…we would remember these things. (Good will hunting – Robin Williams's wife’s farting in her sleep)

·        Son’s snoring…So far, I’ve talked about valid biological reasons as to why we have annoying behaviors. What if they are not valid? Perhaps there is an unmet need. 

·        I think about friends. They are just as annoying, right? But we don’t live with them. AND they are a reprieve from our own family’s endearing qualities. 

·        I want to keep empowering you to CHOOSE. You are not a victim. This is how you step into Living Lucky!

Living Lucky examples.

** Safety issues are not to be endeared.

 How does choosing to be endeared help you LEAD Lucky? In the family setting, it is obvious. It is also true for business because it allows you to be more patient with everyone around you. When you focus on finding the good in people by choosing to be endeared, you are less critical and create more of an environment people want to be in.

 Closing: What is one thing you will take away from the episode today? What will you do? 

 Remember: Living Lucky is not living alone…if this helped you, share it. Please rate the podcast. Second, connect with us and post questions. The links are in the notes… Follow us to know when the next episode is available. liveluckytherapy is available. I appreciate being with you today, and I look forward to discussing more Living Lucky next time.

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Pt 3: Top 5 Relationship Savers. I’m hoping that you are starting to think about these ideas I’m sharing with you. It takes a strong person to see themselves for who they are…Relationships Saver: Motivation Counts…not just behavior. Behavior is an outside-in approach that doesn’t work long-term, and it tends to lead to poor relationships.

 ·        Last time – children’s behaviors. 

·        In marriage counseling, sometimes I start by inviting the couple to act as a team: needs. It assumes love is there. It can build trust quickly if consistent. But if the motivation isn’t there, it doesn’t work as well. This is a behavioral approach that if the motivation to work on the relationship is there, it doesn’t work either. What happens, “one will say ‘they don’t mean it’” It puts me in a bind…want real answers and quick fix, but real answers include individual issues and often not just relationship strategies. CHANGING motivation takes a personal commitment to SELF for self. Not just to appease a spouse. So I’m saying that, like anything in life, you have to own it. You cannot expect something outside of you to motivate you to do it. That is your job. In the last episode, we talked about this. Do your part, express your needs, and step into creating the relationship you desire from your end. No blame. Do it out of the love for the TEAM and follow through. GREAT IDEA: LLT as a couple! 

·        Where are your behaviors and motivations misaligned? Heart and head? 

·        Where are you being led by fear, guilt, or shame? If it is all the time, today is the day to start LLT…be the gift to everyone else around you. 

·        Where to start today? HOPE. Yes, life can be different. 21 yrs of marriage. 

LLT is the path from outside to inside. Journey to the center of self. 

How does addressing your motivations and not just behaviors help you LEAD Lucky? As a leader of a team or business, your motivations are seen in your behaviors (not perfectly)…Your motivation can stir HOPE or shut HOPE down. Make your environment a place you desire to work

Closing: What is one thing you will take away from the episode today? What will you do? 

 Remember: Living Lucky is not living alone…if this helped you, share it. Please rate the podcast. Second, connect with us and post questions. The links are in the notes… Follow us to know when the next episode is available. liveluckytherapy is available. I appreciate being with you today, and I look forward to discussing more Living Lucky next time.

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The Gift of Luck book:
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