We are told that failure builds character, that it teaches resilience and it points the way forward. But in real life, failure is usually less inspiring than that. It is embarrassing, exposing and harder to learn from than the slogans would have us believe.

In this episode, Antonia and Jacqui take apart the psychology of failure: why it hurts so much, why shame so often gets there first and why our instinct is usually not to learn from failure but to defend ourselves against it. They explore the difference between failing at something and feeling like a failure, the role of identity, family scripts, gender, and social pressure.

This is a conversation about how to meet failure with curiosity and let it become information rather than identity.

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