I am loving Noah’s experience of co-building and co-creating the Ark with the Lord! 

Something I didn’t realize with Noah and the Ark, is that the Lord accounted for tons of peeps to fit in there with so many rooms and floors! But only 8 total peeps got on the ark (that is sad), plus animals. Why?

Pres. Nelson has said “As you parents create experiences where your children can learn to feel the Spirit of the Lord — that is gathering Israel. “As you help to strengthen the testimonies of others; as you repent and help others to repent; as you reach out in your communities and participate in worthy efforts to alleviate suffering — that is gathering Israel.”

Noah gathered Israel in the way the Lord inspired him to, in a way that the Lord knew Noah could. And we can gather Israel in the way that only we can with the Lord's help. Heed those promptings.

C.R.U.S.H. Framework

H = Hasten to Heed. Hasten to heed the Lord's promptings, just do it because we will be blessed for it and our healing can reach new levels as we are partnering with Christ to do those things that are hard and that we have felt we need to do. If you feel something is missing, Heeding could be the answer.

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Do you own the game Spot It?

Negative self-talk is any inner dialogue that seems like it’s coming from yourself but is really coming from satan because he can whisper anything to us and feed it to us in our own voice. He says things that may be limiting your thoughts to believe in yourself and your own abilities, and to reach your potential. It’s bad because once you internalize it and say it to yourself, that diminishes your ability to make positive changes in your life or your confidence in yourself to do so. So negative self-talk can not only be stressful, but it can really stunt your progress.

Research has shown that positive self-talk is a great predictor of success. Which means if we can push past our loud and obnoxious bully satan, we could SPOT the whisperings of the Holy Ghost more clearly and be able to hear things as they really are.

But we can’t SPOT IT if we don’t recognize the words from the Holy Ghost. How can we recognize those words? We recite them, we practice them, we post them up, we say them to each other so that when satan throws them our way we will see things as they really are.

If we don’t know the words we’re looking for we won’t recognize or SPOT them when they come from heaven. Let's engage in the things that will help to remind us who we are and who's we are. 

C.R.U.S.H. Framework Each episode (episode characters) will focus on one or a couple of the principles found in my C.R.U.S.H. Framework. Sign up for the CRUSH Course at LindaWinegar.com. The framework is designed to set you up perfectly to CRUSH satan's head and accelerate our healing because we are discovering and using our gifts in this organized way.

R = Remember to Recite - Remember who you are and recite affirmations, the Young Women theme or the Relief Society theme, read your Patriarchal blessing. We have so many resources to help us with this, just a matter of finding it. 

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Have you ever taken the time to notice the difference between when the Holy Ghost talks to you and when Satan talks to you?

God made everything with just using His words. So the adversary knows that words are a powerful tool to create what we desire or subconsciously create what we don’t desire in our lives and for others and uses words strategically against us to instill doubt in who we are and what we are capable of which make us feel all the negative things.

"Things get difficult for all of us but the people who turn back, approach the endeavor with an attitude that is usually along the lines of:

"They run around asking, Should should should should should, so much that they turn into what I like to call “a should head.” LOL RIGHT? I have totally been a should head and I can see this more when he puts it that way." - RORY VADENWW

He then says “There will never be the perfect situation to get us to where we need to get us to where we want to go. 

Elder Holland says, “Troubles we all have, but the "germ" of discouragement, to use Fitzgerald's word, is not in the trouble, it is in us. Or to be more precise, I believe it is in Satan, the Prince of Darkness, the Father of Lies. And he would have it be in us. It's frequently a small germ, hardly worth going to the Health Center for, but it will work and it will grow and it will spread. In fact it can become almost a habit, a way of living and thinking, and there the greatest damage is done. Then it takes an increasingly severe toll on our spirit, for it erodes the deepest religious commitments we can make-those of faith, and hope, and charity. We turn inward and look downward, and these greatest of Christlike virtues are damaged or at very least impaired.” - Elder Holland - BYU Speeches March 1980

Bro Vaden then says that “we don’t realize that by having the neutral attitude of “im not sure” we’re continually giving up on ourselves.”

Um…yeah that’s not cool, Satan is convincing me to give up on myself? Snap!!

C.R.U.S.H. Framework

Each episode (episode numbers) will focus on one or a couple of the principles found in my C.R.U.S.H. Framework. The framework is designed to set you up perfectly to CRUSH satan's head and accelerate our healing because we are discovering and using our gifts in this organized way.

R = Remember to Recite - We need to remember who we are and affirmations or truth statements help us to remember and can be replaced with work. 

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Have you ever watched a real wrestling match? What do you notice?

I needed to get off my high horse or let go of my pride, of holding onto being a victim, so that I could come down and place my hurt and my worry and my sorrows at my Savior’s feet. I was holding on so tightly because it had been a part of me so long, that I didn’t know how to pry it out of my fingers. This was my wrestle before the Lord, before I decided to allow Him to heal all of me.

What Satan doesn’t tell us is that as we work with the Lord to do hard things (laying our hurt and our hangups at His feet), He helps us with our anxiety and our emotions or where we are “weaker,” to make them stronger. Satan doesn’t want us to have a relationship with the Savior, because once you know His light and love and strength, he knows you won’t go back. We will rely on the Savior even more.

So let’s humble ourselves get off our high horses, pray and wrestle so hard like Enos did and then get to work like Noah so we can build that gigantic impossible ark like thing that the Lord has asked of us, because deep down we know that will bring us the most satisfaction and joy like we haven’t felt in like a million years and will take us to our promised land. 

C.R.U.S.H. Framework

H = Hasten to Heed. Hasten to heed the Lord's promptings, just do it because we will be blessed for it and our healing can reach new levels as we are partnering with Christ to do those things that are hard and that we have felt we need to do. If you feel something is missing, Heeding could be the answer.

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Who else had the Book of Mormon Seminary CDs when they first came out?! Enos's wrestle before the Lord is something I will always remember and I realize I do this too. 

"Don’t trade big dreams for tiny to dos."  - Linda Winegar

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Pres Monson said, “It is not enough to want to make the effort and to say we’ll make the effort. We must actually make the effort. It’s in the doing, not just the thinking, that we accomplish our goals.”

One of my affirmations includes, “I will do something today that my future self will be proud of.” 

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I hope you find at least some of these useful to boost your confidence in small and simple ways. Remember these work for me, you’ll want to see what works best for you. 

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The H = Hasten to Heed the Lord's promptings. I know first hand how hard it can be to heed promptings after betrayal or after D day because the pain can feel so crushing and debilitating sometimes, but heeding promptings is not for others benefits it's for our own. It builds confidence in ourselves as we do those things the Lord prompts us to do for ourselves or for others, because in the process we learn more about who we are and what we are capable of.

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Dale Carinegie who wrote How to Win Friends and Influence People said, “Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer your fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.”

Yearly Habit Trackers

If we get discouraged, and we will, remember what President Monson said, “When performance is measured, performance improves. When performance is measured and reported, the rate of improvement accelerates” (#GeneralConference Oct. 1970)

Make a chart, or use a calendar to mark off your progress and keep it, so that the next time the adversary wants to tell you how bad you are at keeping goals you can have some ammo to fight back or shield off those lies with your practice DATA. You can prove to yourself that you know how to keep goals even if they aren't perfect because we are making progress.

“You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems.” - James Clear the author of Atomic Habits.  

Setup some systems and practice those small things in order to have great things happen in your life. 

What does the "S" Mean?

S = Sharpen the Sword. This means practice, practice, practice, using those weapons in our safe circles of people, but it might still require getting a bit vulnerable and outside of our comfort zones but this is where we can strengthen those relationships with the ones we already love in safe and lasting ways while still getting our practice in and building the data we need.

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Some Gems: 

One of my mentors Seth Godin says:

"Sometimes, we mistakenly believe that we're building something that takes time, but what we're actually doing is hiding. We stall and digress and cause distractions, not because the work needs us to, but because we're afraid to ship.” (and of course he says "we" cause distractions but we know who the culprit is distracting us ALL THE TIME. Not us.)

So we just need to ship it!

Bro Brad Wilcox so eloquently puts it:

“We don't pray because we're worthy. We pray because we need help. We don't go to the temple because we've made it, but because God is making us better there. We are not earning a treasure in heaven, but learning to treasure heavenly things.”

We don't have to prove anything to the Lord, He knows us and our capacities, we are the ones that need to learn and remember who we are and what we are capable of. So just go and do it, so you'll know that you can do it too.

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In the book The Wealthy Gardener, John Soforic says “We can ignore a lot of things but we can’t ignore our ambition. When we deny our desires our ambition becomes agitation.” I love Jesus Christ and desire to bless others like Him, because I have felt his love and want to share, so when He gave me the opp and I didn’t take it, my soul felt agitation real pain!

What's up with the Letters and Episode numbers?

Each episode (episode numbers will now have letters) will focus on one or a couple of the principles found in my C.R.U.S.H. Framework. Each episode is meant to strengthen you if you need additional help with one particular principle, check the letter in the podcast. As we implement the steps in the framework, we can accelerate our healing.

U = Unearth the Unexpected. We will find healing when we choose to unearth the unexpected parts of us, those parts we might be refusing to use right now.

H = Hasten to Heed. Hasten to heed the Lord's promptings, just do it because we will be blessed for it and our healing can reach new levels as we are partnering with Christ to do those things He has called us to do.

What are you waiting for!?!

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Brené Brown says, “You can choose courage or you can choose comfort but you can’t have both.”

Mel Robbins has come up with a BRILLIANT rule and an additional tool or weapon we can use against the resistance we feel after we decide we want to pursue something awesome, which I briefly mentioned in Episode 9.

It’s counting down when you get a prompting or idea to do something meaningful like a goal or a commitment. 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 and then just "GO & DO" like Nephi and like Enoch in 5 seconds! 

Mel also says, “Courage is the ability to do things that feel difficult, scary or uncertain. That is the true power of courage; it reveals you. The greatest version of you.” This builds your confidence. If you have low self esteem, go and do something hard and courageous. Then come back and tell me how it went because I love to hear when you can impress yourself. 

What's up with the Letters and Episode numbers?

Each episode (episode numbers will now have letters) will focus on one or a couple of the principles found in my C.R.U.S.H. Framework. Each episode is meant to strengthen you if you need additional help with one particular principle, check the letter in the podcast. As we use this framework we will be able to CRUSH satan's head and accelerate our healing because we are discovering and using our gifts in this unique way.

H = Hasten to Heed. Hasten to heed the Lord's promptings. Finally after so much practice with our loved ones we are ready to serve beyond the safety of our loved ones, as we follow those promptings and ideas to serve others outside our immediate safe circle our confidence in Christ’s ability to help us grows and in turn our confidence in ourselves does too. And we begin to accelerate our healing!

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