This one is BEEFY and FUUUUCK it's SO GOOD.
Legit, it's saved marriages, repaired resentment in relationships and helped clients feel way less crazy in how they communicate.
This is something that my 1:1 clients get annoyed at me for because THEY KNOW IT IS SO TRUE.
SO MUCH of our resentment in our relationships is caused by unclear communication.
...and ya'll- "common sense" is NOT common. Common sense is your own assumptions that you put on others and expect them to mind-read to meet your needs.
The bullshit "Ugh, I ask my spouse to help! They never do!" excuse is over, sis.
My response when I hear this is "Did you get specific? Did you give a deadline, when you expect it to be done? Did you express HOW you wanted it to be done?"
Yeah, then you didn't ask.
BOOM. TRUTH BOMB. #sorrynotsorry #IsaidwhatIsaid
So, read through this post. Twice. Save AND share it.
And, go out and communicate like the badass you are!
((PS: I KNOW there are some spouses out there who you ARE asking for things clearly, with specifics on how and when who STILL aren't meeting your needs. In my experience this is RARE and often can be fixed with clearer communication on all fronts.))