Self-deprecation can be an endearing trait in some people. After all, it’s important not to take oneself too seriously, isn’t it? But when pick me boys, the subject of today’s episode, talk badly about themselves, they do so in a manipulative way, in the hope that it will bring them closer to women they’re attracted to.

The term “pick me boy” first emerged on social media in early 2021. According to an Urban Dictionary definition from user Shelmet101, it refers to: “A guy who uses self depreciation in a manipulative way so a girl will date him,” who “will say bad things about themselves to try to get the girl to oppose what they’ve said.”

What kind of tactics do pick me boys use? Could you say that pick me boy behaviour is sexist? But are all pick me boys manipulative? In under 3 minutes, we answer your questions!

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A podcast written and realised by Joseph Chance.

First broadcast: 2/8/2023

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