What's behind the pressure to drink, and why do we feel the need to prove we can handle it?

In today's episode, guest coach Patrick Fox is here to discuss how ego and the fear of looking weak shape drinking behaviors, especially for men. While this conversation focuses on masculinity, the themes are relevant for anyone who has ever thought, "I don't want anyone to think I have a problem."

Listen in to hear Patrick's insights on the cultural pressures that encourage men to drink, especially in social and professional settings. You'll also learn how ego and the fear of looking weak perpetuate drinking patterns, why shifting your relationship with alcohol starts with recognizing your own values, and how reframing your thinking can help you break free from these pressures.

Find a personalized approach that helps you change your habit in my new book, The Ultimate Guide to Drinking Less, here: https://rachelhart.com/guide/

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What if changing your drinking didn't have to start with quitting, cutting back, or figuring everything out?

For many people, the hardest part of the habit isn't the drink itself, but the moment the urge shows up and feels impossible to ignore. That pressure can make it seem like change has to be dramatic or all-or-nothing to count.

This week, you'll learn a deceptively simple shift that can interrupt the habit without triggering panic or white-knuckling: delay. Listen in to hear how delaying the drink helps you get off autopilot, especially during the evening witching hour, why creating space between the urge and the action helps your brain learn something new, and why even imperfect attempts still matter.

Find a personalized approach that helps you change your habit in my new book, The Ultimate Guide to Drinking Less, here: https://rachelhart.com/guide/

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Why does watching sports without a drink feel like something is missing?

Whether you love the game, tolerate it, or just see it as an excuse to get together, alcohol can feel baked into the entire experience. When you start thinking about drinking less, this connection can make it feel like sports, parties, or even belonging itself won't be the same.

Listen in this week to learn why sports and drinking feel so connected and what's really happening in your brain when alcohol isn't there. You'll hear how expectations, not necessity, drive that uneasy or restless feeling, why your brain often interprets "unexpected" as "something's wrong," and how to relate differently to boredom, excitement, or social pressure on game day.

Find a personalized approach that helps you change your habit in my new book, The Ultimate Guide to Drinking Less, here: https://rachelhart.com/guide/

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If you've ever worried that not drinking will make you boring, wondered whether your friendships can survive without alcohol, or if part of you thinks maybe you should just have one drink to keep things normal, this episode is for you.

In this week's listener Q&A, you'll hear a question from Sean, who fears losing his friendships if he stops joining in with drinking.

Tune in to learn why you believe you need alcohol to be your "best self," what's really happening when you drink to feel comfortable socially, and how to access the ease and connection you want without needing a chemical mute button.

Find a personalized approach that helps you change your habit in my new book, The Ultimate Guide to Drinking Less, here: https://rachelhart.com/guide/

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Get the full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/453

What if the pressure you're putting on yourself to change your drinking is actually the very thing keeping you stuck?

In this episode, I answer a question from a listener named Deb who feels like she's on her last chance to get her drinking under control. She's caught in a familiar loop of replacing alcohol with snacking, and the frustration is palpable. But the real problem isn't the drink or the snack. So what is?

Tune in this week to learn why fear-based motivation bypasses the emotional skill-building you actually need to create change, how to break the cycle of replacing alcohol with food (and why it happens), and the counterintuitive truth about discomfort that changes everything.

Break the cycle of temporary challenges and learn how to make alcohol feel truly optional during my three-day Reset Your Drinking workshop starting January 21st, 2026. Click here to secure your ticket and discover how to find your "off switch" for lasting change: https://rachelhart.com/january/

Find a personalized approach that helps you change your habit in my new book, The Ultimate Guide to Drinking Less, here: https://rachelhart.com/guide/

Discover alternative approaches to drinking less inside our membership program, Take a Break: https://rachelhart.com/tab/

Get the full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/452

Do you have a strong desire to change your drinking and yet, you're not where you want to be?

In this episode, I'm answering a question from a listener named Chris who's frustrated that he's still drinking more than he wants to, despite trying to make healthier choices. He's switched from hard liquor to premixed cans and is concerned about what his daily drinking is doing to his health.

Tune in this week to hear how Chris's question speaks to so many things people are thinking about in the new year: the identity shift that comes with trying to drink less, the anxiety about how drinking may be impacting your health, and the frustration that despite so much effort, you're not where you want to be.

Break the cycle of temporary challenges and learn how to make alcohol feel truly optional during my three-day Reset Your Drinking workshop starting January 21st, 2026. Click here to secure your ticket and discover how to find your "off switch" for lasting change: https://rachelhart.com/january/

Find a personalized approach that helps you change your habit in my new book, The Ultimate Guide to Drinking Less, here: https://rachelhart.com/guide/

Discover alternative approaches to drinking less inside our membership program, Take a Break: https://rachelhart.com/tab/

Get the full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/451

So many of you start the new year with the best intentions to cut back on drinking, only to find yourself slipping up within the first few days or weeks.

Maybe you promised yourself you'd cut back on drinking this year, but then life happened. A stressful day at work. An awkward social situation. A craving that felt impossible to ignore. And now your brain is telling you that you've failed, that nothing matters, that you might as well give up.

Tune in this week to learn why that first slip-up isn't actually the problem, and what is. You'll discover high-quality questions to ask yourself after a setback that will help you build awareness instead of shame, and how to redefine success beyond perfect streaks.

Find a personalized approach that helps you change your habit in my new book, The Ultimate Guide to Drinking Less, here: https://rachelhart.com/guide/

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Get the full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/450

If you're feeling more tired and doubtful than inspired about the New Year, especially when it comes to changing your drinking habits, you're not alone.

We're sold this fantasy that the New Year is a magical time to create change, but massive change is always built through tiny steps. Instead of trying to figure out how to completely overhaul your drinking habits, I'm proposing something different: focusing on just a 10% shift.

Listen in this week to hear three questions that will help you identify what a small but meaningful change would look like in your drinking habits, especially if you doubt your plan for drinking less will stick.

Find a personalized approach that helps you change your habit in my new book, The Ultimate Guide to Drinking Less, here: https://rachelhart.com/guide/

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Get the full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/449

Have you ever felt like you're the only one who can't get a handle on your drinking? Like all the success and determination you have in other areas of your life just disappears when it comes to alcohol?

For years, I carried so much shame about my drinking. I'd go to therapy and talk about everything else in my life, but never broach this topic. When I searched for answers online, everything pointed to the idea that some people are powerless over alcohol. That's why I'm excited to share something new with you on this episode.

Tune in this week to hear how you can submit your drinking questions directly to me, starting right now. Whether you're worried about cravings, excuses, other people's opinions, or feeling like it's too late to change, I'm here to help you see there's an answer that doesn't make YOU the problem.

Find a personalized approach that helps you change your habit in my new book, The Ultimate Guide to Drinking Less, here: https://rachelhart.com/guide/

Discover alternative approaches to drinking less inside our membership program, Take a Break: https://rachelhart.com/tab/

Get the full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/448

How often do you find yourself saying, "I'm an adult, I can drink if I want to"?

While it's technically true that you're an adult who can make your own choices, here's the deeper truth: this thought isn't really about the drink.

Tune in this week to hear why pouring a drink in these moments isn't an act of defiance but actually a distraction, how to identify what you're really rebelling against, and three specific thought swaps that will help you challenge this excuse when it pops up.

Find a personalized approach that helps you change your habit in my new book, The Ultimate Guide to Drinking Less, here: https://rachelhart.com/guide/

Discover alternative approaches to drinking less inside our membership program, Take a Break: https://rachelhart.com/tab/

Get the full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/447