You know what’s keeping you from getting sober? All the advice telling you how to get sober.

Everyone’s got a different rulebook.

The old-timers say meetings every day, get a sponsor immediately, work the steps to a tee.

People like me say do it your way—you don’t have to follow the doctrine perfectly.

And newer recovery voices are teaching completely different avenues to recovery.

And you’re stuck in the middle, just trying to figure out how to get through today without a drink, paralyzed by all these options, wondering which path is “right.”

Here’s the truth nobody’s telling you: There is no wrong way.

I’m giving you the three universal foundations that every strong sobriety is built on, and showing you how to stop waiting for permission and just start.

You’ll learn:

Remember, a program doesn’t determine your success. You do.

A program doesn’t work or not work.

YOU work. YOU show up, do the things, follow guidance… or you don’t.

Your success is your decision.

In this episode, I’m cutting through all the noise and breaking down exactly what you need to start your recovery journey today—no matter which path or program you choose.

RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EISODE

Free Download: Daily Plan

→ Recovery Starter Kit

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You quit drinking. So why do you still have all the same problems?

You quit drinking. That’s huge. But if you’re sitting there wondering why you still have all the same problems you had when you were drinking – I can tell you exactly why.

Drinking was never the actual problem. It was a symptom.

In this episode, I’m breaking down the difference between sobriety (removing alcohol) and recovery (healing the patterns underneath the behavior).

Because putting down the drink is just the starting line, not the finish line.

We talk about why you’re still making the same shitty choices (just without alcohol), the patterns keeping you stuck that have nothing to do with drinking, how to identify what you’re actually feeling when emotions are totally foreign, and the one thing that separates people who heal from people who stay stuck.

Here’s the truth: most people think quitting drinking is the finish line. It’s not.

Sobriety removes alcohol. Recovery heals the patterns.

If you quit drinking but you’re still people-pleasing, self-sabotaging, avoiding discomfort, or reacting emotionally to everything – you’re just living your drinking life without alcohol.

Same patterns, same problems, just without the numbing agent.

This one’s raw, real, and no fluff. Just the truth about what it actually takes to heal.

In this episode, I share:

Listen in, and if you’re ready to take big action and get big results, I have three coaching spots open this month. Book a call at addictionunlimited.com/call.

And check out this episode about how presence is not equal to participation:

You’re Not Doing the Work — You’re Just Watching Other People Do It

Everything you need to know about why sobriety alone isn’t enough – and what real recovery actually looks like.

Listen, I see this pattern ALL the time with the people I work with.

They quit drinking, they think they’ve done the hard part, and then a few weeks or months in… they’re confused.

They’re disappointed. They’re thinking, “Is THIS what the rest of my life is going to be like?”

And the answer is: only if you stop here.

Sobriety is quitting. Recovery is healing. And the only way to stay sober – the only way to actually build a life you love – is to do the healing work

Most people quit drinking hoping sobriety won’t be too inconvenient.

They want the same life.
The same relationships.
The same routines.
Just… without alcohol.

And at first, it works. You feel better. Clearer. Less foggy.

But then — weeks or months in — the feelings come back.

Anxiety.
Overwhelm.
Anger.
Fear.

All the things alcohol was quietly managing for you? They’re still there. And now they’re loud because you aren’t numbing them anymore.

That doesn’t mean sobriety is failing.
It means your nervous system is healing.

Today, I’m sitting down with Michael Z, who has 30 years of sobriety.

And let me tell you, this conversation is GOLD.

Michael is old-school AA, incredibly honest, and he shares exactly what it was really like in early sobriety and what it takes to build a life you actually want to live long-term.

Because recovery isn’t a destination — it’s a practice.

If you’re newly sober and struggling – if you’re thinking “why is this so hard?” or “I thought things would be better by now” – you’re not doing it wrong.

You’re just in the gap. The gap between sobriety and recovery.

Grab your headphones, get comfortable, and let’s talk about what it really takes to stay sober.

Trust me, this conversation is going to give you the clarity and the roadmap you need to move forward.

If you’re done white-knuckling, overthinking, or feeling stuck in that miserable middle — and you want real support to build a solid recovery foundation — I can help.

👉 Book a call with me and let’s talk about what support would actually move you forward.

Connect with me:

Instagram:  @addictionunlimited

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If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who needs to hear it. Recovery doesn’t happen in isolation – and neither does healing.

Reading about sobriety isn’t the same as doing the work to get sober.

If you feel like you’re doing everything for your sobriety—but nothing is actually changing—this episode is for you.

And trust me, there’s a huge difference!

Here’s the thing: when I got sober, the landscape looked completely different.

There were no podcasts, no endless library of quit lit books, no free challenges.

But today? You can fill every spare moment with sobriety content.

And while that’s amazing in so many ways, it’s also created something I see over and over: people who mistake presence for participation.

They’re reading books, listening to podcasts, signing up for challenges, even showing up to meetings – but they’re not actually engaging.

They’re just… there.

And that’s how people stay stuck for years—busy, informed, and still drinking.

So in this episode, I’m breaking down exactly what it means to shift from passive presence to active participation.

Because that shift?

That’s where real transformation happens.

I dive into:

Tune in and get ready to shift from being present in your recovery to actually participating in it.

Because that’s where the magic happens, my friend.

And I promise you’re capable of it – right now, exactly as you are.

If you’re done consuming recovery content and ready to actually change, Sober Society is where that happens.

Join us in Sober Society for just $27/month! We’ve got meetings throughout the week (and we’re adding more in February, including a meditation meeting!).

This is a place where people actually show up, support each other, and do the work together.

Find all the details at addictionunlimited.com/society

If you’re getting sober in 2026, make it your only focus—everything else can wait.

Here we are, in that weird part of early January where everyone’s trying to overhaul their entire life at once.

New year, new you, right?

Quit drinking AND hit the gym AND change your diet AND meditate AND deal with your trauma… all at the same time.

But…  when you try to transform everything simultaneously, you’re not being ambitious—you’re sabotaging the one thing that actually matters.

Today is my 20th sobriety birthday, and I’m sharing something that helped me get from one day to the next in early recovery: making sobriety my ONE thing. This simple approach allowed me to start accumulating time, finding relief, and building belief in myself—one day at a time.

Because sobriety isn’t 10% of your energy. It’s 100%.

In this episode, we dive into:

>> The hard truth about alcohol: it worked as your relief system, and you have to replace that relief

>> Why early sobriety is a full-time job disguised as “just not drinking”

>> How to do an inventory of your pain points and build a new survival toolkit

>> The ONE question to guide every decision: Is this getting me closer to sobriety or closer to a drink?

Early sobriety means managing cravings, sitting with unbearable feelings, rewiring every social situation, and learning to survive without your only coping mechanism.

That’s not a side project. That’s the entire project.

If you’re getting sober in 2026, or recommitting to sobriety, make it your sole focus.

Do this one thing well. Master it. And when it becomes stable, you can add something else.

But right now? Just stay sober. Everything else comes from that.

Listen in, and remember: sobriety IS the transformation.

Links mentioned in this episode: 

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Why January 1 Isn’t the Answer — and What Actually Moves You Forward

It’s New Year’s Eve, and if you’re feeling that familiar pressure—that maybe-this-year-will-be-different energy—I want you to take a deep breath and listen up.

Whether you’re planning to drink tonight (even though you don’t really want to), or you’re already sober but looking at 2026 like it’s some kind of test you have to pass… I see you.

And here’s what I need you to know: You’re not broken. You’re not behind. You’re just in a stage.

In today’s episode, I’m walking you through the Stages of Change—a professional framework used in psychology and addiction recovery that’s going to help you figure out exactly where you are in your journey. Because once you know your stage, you’ll know exactly what to do next.

No more spinning your wheels. No more beating yourself up. Just clarity, action, and a path forward.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

The 5 stages are:

(Spoiler: If you’re listening to this podcast, you’re already past stage 1. But where are you really?)

Why people get stuck in contemplation (and the one thing that moves you forward—hint: it’s not more research)

The difference between preparation and action (and why support is the bridge between the two)

Why January 1st isn’t going to save you (but action will)

How to avoid burnout in maintenance (and why my 90-Day Focus Planner is built to help you actually make progress)

🎉Why This Episode Matters Right Now

If you’ve been beating yourself up for “not having it figured out yet,” this episode is going to shift everything for you.

You’re not failing. You’re not lacking willpower or motivation. You’re just doing the wrong work for the stage you’re in.

And once you understand that? Everything changes.

🔗Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

Dry January Bootcamp – 31 days of structure, support, and figuring out who you are without alcohol.

90-Day Focus Planner – Built for people who want to make real progress without burning out. Three goals at a time.

Coaching with Angela – If you’re ready to stop effing around with starts and stops, book your consultation call and let’s get you the support you need.

Join the Facebook Group

Healing, growth, and personal transformation — with or without a label.

This episode is the final conversation in The Unlimited Life™ Starter Series —
The 10 most powerful episodes from the Addiction Unlimited archives to help you rebuild your rhythm, structure, and emotional peace.

And I saved this one for last for a reason.

Because what Ian Morgan Cron and I talk about here goes beyond sobriety…
Beyond addiction…
Beyond labels.

This is about transformation.

The truth is, everyone has patterns.
Whether it’s alcohol, perfectionism, food, control, or people-pleasing — we all have behaviors we use to cope.
And the 12 steps offer a framework to heal the emotional root — not just the habit on the surface.

You don’t have to be an alcoholic to feel overwhelmed.
You don’t have to be a drug addict to crave peace.
And you don’t need a label to want something more.

This episode is your reminder that you belong in the work of healing — no matter how it looks on the outside.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

Why the 12 steps work for any human — not just those in addiction

What it means to transform your character, not just your habits

The truth about higher power — and why you might already have one without realizing it

What to do when you feel like you’re “not sick enough” to belong

How the 12-step framework helps with emotional sobriety, identity work, and deep personal growth

In this episode, I sit down with Ian Morgan Cron, author of The Fix, to talk about how the 12 steps aren’t just for addicts — they’re for humans.

🎧 Original episode post:
→ addictionunlimited.com/healing-growth-and-freedom-the-12-steps-for-everyone

Exhausted from overthinking everything before you even start? You’re not alone.

Well, my friend, I’m going to be really honest with you today – after 400+ episodes, I had absolutely no idea what to talk about for this one.

And you know what?

That’s actually the most honest thing I could share with you on Christmas Eve.

Here’s the truth: Even after 20 years sober, I’m still an alcoholic.

I still overthink everything. I still doubt myself. My brain still goes to worst-case scenarios sometimes.

The only real difference between me and someone newer to recovery? I’ve had more practice—and I know that everything will be okay.

So if you’re exhausted from trying to have it all figured out before you start, if you’re burnt out on constant self-improvement, or if you’re just… tired—this episode is for you.

No five-step plan.

Just real talk about what it actually looks like to show up when you don’t have all the answers.

In this episode, you’ll hear all about:

00:13: Why I had no idea what to talk about today (and why that’s the most honest thing I could share)

Listen in, and remember: you’re allowed to just be tired. You’re allowed to not have the answers. And you’re allowed to show up anyway.

Welcome to the club, my friend – you’re in great company.

Links Mentioned in This Episode: 

• Dry January Bootcamp – Facebook group opens next week! Get structure, support, and direction one day at a time.  addictionunlimited.com/bootcamp (VIP upgrade option available for weekly group coaching)

• Book a Call with Angela – Tired of the BS? Tired of crying? Ready for real relief? Let’s talk about working together: addictionunlimited.com/call

Practical tools to manage stress, set boundaries, and stay sober during the most overwhelming time of year.

In this episode, we’re talking about why the holiday season is such a perfect storm for stress, exhaustion, and relapse risk — and what actually helps you stay grounded, calm, and sober when everything feels like too much.

This isn’t about “just don’t drink” or powering through with willpower.

It’s about planning ahead, setting real boundaries, managing your energy, and protecting your sobriety like it actually matters — because it does.

These tools are timeless and incredibly relevant right now — especially as we head into the final stretch of the year.

HERE ARE THE 3 KEY TAKEAWAYS FROM THIS EPISODE:

1️⃣ Holiday Stress Isn’t the Problem — Lack of Planning Is

The holidays don’t sneak up on us. They come at the same time every year. When you plan ahead — for your schedule, your energy, and your triggers — you dramatically reduce overwhelm and vulnerability.

2️⃣ Boundaries Are a Sobriety Tool, Not a Personality Flaw

Boundaries around time, conversations, commitments, and how long you stay at events aren’t selfish — they’re how you stay regulated, present, and sober when stress is high.

3️⃣ Rest, Connection, and Support Are Non-Negotiable

Sleep deprivation, emotional exhaustion, and isolation make cravings louder. Staying connected to your sober support and refueling your energy keeps you strong when willpower runs out.

We’re days away from Christmas. If your energy is low and your stress is high, that doesn’t mean you’re failing — it means it’s time to slow down, simplify, and protect what matters most.

Take what you learn today and use it. Planning, boundaries, rest, and connection aren’t optional extras. They’re how sobriety lasts.

Links Mentioned in This Episode:

👉 Dry January Bootcamp 
If you’re done white-knuckling your way through the holidays and into January, Bootcamp gives you structure, support, and a clear plan to protect your sobriety and start the new year strong.

👉 Book a Call
If you want personalized support and clarity on next steps, book a call to talk through your options.

👉 Join the Free Facebook Group
Connect with others who get it — support, encouragement, and real conversations about sobriety.

If you’re a high-functioning drinker waiting for rock bottom to give you permission to quit, this episode will change everything.

Most people think rock bottom is an external event—a DUI, job loss, or divorce. But that’s not what rock bottom actually is, and this misunderstanding is keeping you stuck in a cycle that never ends.

In this episode, I break down the real meaning of rock bottom and why waiting for external proof is preventing you from taking action on what you already know.

You’ll learn why comparing your life to other people’s disasters keeps you drinking longer, what to listen for in recovery meetings (hint: it’s not the external details), and why the question “Do I really need to quit?” is actually your answer.

What You’ll Learn:

Key Takeaways:

Rock bottom is internal, not external. It’s not about what happens to you—it’s about the moment you realize you can’t live like this anymore, even if your life still looks good from the outside.

You’re comparing the wrong things. When you compare your life to other people’s disasters, you’ll always feel like you’re “not that bad.” But when you compare your internal experience—the exhaustion, the mental gymnastics, the constant negotiation with yourself—that’s when you recognize the real problem.

External events don’t create clarity—they force action. Most dramatic rock bottom moments are years in the making. There are a million smaller red flags that get rationalized away before the big event happens. You don’t have to wait for the big event.

If you’re asking the question, that’s your answer. People without drinking problems never wonder if they need to quit. They don’t think about alcohol constantly, plan their days around it, or spend energy managing and moderating it. If you’re here listening to this, you already know.

Episode Highlights:

[00:12] The common misunderstanding about rock bottom that keeps high-functioning drinkers stuck

[02:00] Why “I’m not that bad” only works if rock bottom is external (spoiler: it’s not)

[05:50] The AA meeting trap: comparing external details instead of internal feelings

[09:33] What rock bottom actually is: internal, emotional, and the moment you realize you can’t live like this anymore

[11:00] My two-year rock bottom and why I waited so long to take action

[14:42] If you want to wait until things get worse, they will (and here’s what that looks like)

[16:30] The small red flags we rationalize away that lead to bigger disasters

[17:50] A client’s rock bottom moment: choosing a drink over playing with his son

[19:19] Why asking “Do I really need to quit?” is actually your answer

[21:31] The takeaway: You already know. Stop waiting for permission.

🔗 Links Mentioned in This Episode

💥 Dry January Bootcamp (Free!)

Get structure, support, and a clear plan to start your alcohol-free life with power.

🎯 Book a Private Call

Ready to stop screwing around and get real results? Let’s talk.

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