This is a follow-up to last week's episode about a client whose New Year's resolution to "drink less" was already failing two days in. I talked about how emotional overwhelm leads to a "functional freeze," and why this is more than a habit, it's a survival strategy.
On the coaching call, we uncovered exactly why she's needed a survival strategy. Like many women who experience a decrease in libido due to hormone changes, she's spent the last decade having obligatory sex with her husband. Because a good wife takes care of her man, right? But also having to put up with his temper tantrums and passive aggressive behavior when she doesn't put out has left her with a mountain of frustration and resentment that until now, she didn't have the tools to process.
This episode is about the emotional straightjacket so many women find themselves in. How having sex to keep the peace forces you to disconnect from not just your sexual energy, but your life force energy. Which is why it makes complete sense that you'd rather drink alone than be intimate with the man you love.
In this episode, I cover:
→ The functional freeze: when you're going through the motions but feel dead inside
→ How obligatory sex shuts down desire for everything—not just sex
→ Why you need to stop participating in the hostage negotiation over your vagina
→ How the cultural programming that says women are responsible for men's sexual needs is destroying your marriage
→It's not menopause that's disabling your libido
→ The only way to rekindle desire is to give yourself what you want (especially when what you want is to be left alone)
→ Why the relationship you need to focus on repairing is NOT with your partner, but with yourself
This episode is for you if:
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You'd rather drink alone than have sex with your partner
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You've lost passion for things you used to love
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You feel like you're just going through the motions
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You've been "going along to get along" for so long you don't know who you are
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