You told yourself this morning you weren't going to drink tonight. But now that it's time to make that decision, it feels impossible to say no. That moment is exactly what Colleen breaks down in this episode — because the path forward requires you to understand that this is not a lack of discipline and it's not a willpower problem. The relief you feel when you take that first sip has nothing to do with alcohol. It's about what's been happening inside your body all day long — the dumpster fire of stress and anxiety that has chronically become your state of normal. In this episode, Colleen teaches you the foundational skill that changes the way you move through your entire day, so that by evening, instead of telling yourself no, you're telling yourself yes — and there are a lot more options on the menu than just drinking.

In This Episode:

• The two versions of you: regulated vs. dysregulated, and why you're a completely different decision-maker in each state

• Why your body isn't craving alcohol — it's craving relief

• The difference between skills and strategies, and why strategies fail without this foundational skill

• Practical strategies that work when you're regulated: Delay Don't Deny, mental rehearsal, talking to your tomorrow self, and extracting the lesson instead of spiraling in shame

• The RISE framework: Recognize, Integrate, Strategize, Embody

• What it takes to become the version of you who can take or leave alcohol

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Do you want to know what's different about the women who can genuinely take or leave alcohol? And why it feels impossible for you to be "more like them?"

In this episode, I'm giving you a sneak peak of my new masterclass: The science behind take it or leave it--why some women can and how you can too.

The masterclass isn't even on my website yet--you'll watch it right on YouTube.

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Also, I'm running a Love Yourself campaign in honor of Valentine's Day. If you book a call and decide to join The Next Chapter, you'll get $2,000 off !

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The call is how you lock in the discount — and it's a real conversation, not a sales pitch. Even if you just have questions, book it. That's what it's for.

I was one of the most therapized people you've ever met.

I knew my triggers. I'd unpacked my daddy issues, my relationship with my mom, my insecurity, my eating disorders, problems in my marriage. I cognitively understood what triggered me and why I wanted to drink so much.

And that did fuck-all to reduce my cravings.

Which is how I know that awareness isn't enough. Understanding the pattern doesn't break the pattern. And talk therapy—as valuable as it is—didn't change how I felt in my body.

Today's guest is Dr. Amanda Hanson, a clinical psychologist who spent the first half of her 27-year career practicing traditional therapy—until she realized all that talking wasn't actually helping women change. What she discovered instead will completely transformed how you think about emotions, nervous system regulation, and why so many of us numb instead of feel.

We go deep in this conversation. We talk about why women are taught to source their safety outside of themselves—and what happens when you stop. We talk about the rage release practice that cracked me open at her retreat. We talk about aging, beauty, and the cultural scam that keeps women distracted from their real power. And we talk about what it actually takes to stop abandoning yourself.

If you've done the therapy, read the books, understand your patterns—and you're still stuck—this episode is going to show you what's missing.

In this episode, we cover:

→ Why traditional talk therapy often isn't enough to change behavior

→ The difference between being emotionally dysregulated and being fully alive

→ How self-abandonment leads to numbing (wine, food, scrolling)

→ What a rage release and grief release practices look like

→ How to give yourself the things you've been waiting for someone else to give you

→ Aging, beauty, and refusing to be complicit in a system designed to keep women small

Dr. Amanda Hanson is a clinical psychologist with 27 years of experience who now works with women in ways radically different from her traditional training. She is the host of the podcast Things Your Mother Never Told You and creator of the Magnetic retreat experience.

Find her on Instagram @midlife.muse or at AmandaHanson.com

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In this episode, Colleen shares a raw, surprising takeaway from a recent retreat — one that had nothing to do with learning new concepts and everything to do with experiencing her body in a new way.

What began as deep discomfort around words like sensuality and sexual energy opened into a realization many women quietly live with: when you've been taught to fear, suppress, or perform your body for others, you often shut down far more than sexuality — you shut down joy, creativity, pleasure, and aliveness. And when that energy stays blocked, the body looks for relief wherever it can find it.

Colleen explores how drinking, numbing, and emotional shutdown aren't moral failures or cravings for "bad behavior," but attempts to regulate trapped energy in a body that hasn't felt safe to move, express, or feel. She explains the difference between processing trauma cognitively and liberating energy physically — and why movement, music, and instinctive expression can unlock more healing than insight alone.

🔑 Key Takeaways

• Why blocked sensual and creative energy often shows up as numbness or drinking

• How purity culture and performative sexuality disconnect women from their bodies

• The difference between sexual energy and sexual behavior

• Why movement is a powerful form of emotional regulation

• How suppressing instinctive expression drains energy and joy

• Why healing doesn't always come from "working through it" — sometimes it comes from moving through it

• How reconnecting with your body creates relief without numbing

This episode is about reclaiming your body as your own — not for a partner, not for performance, not for approval — but as a source of power, pleasure, and presence. It's a reminder that the body doesn't want to be fixed — it wants to be seen and felt.

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I woke up a little hungover this morning. I had a third glass of wine I didn't need. And instead of spiraling into shame, I did what I always do now—I grabbed my journal and got curious.

In this episode, I'm walking you through exactly what I do the morning after I drink too much. The four mindset tools that set me up to learn instead of spiral into shame. The journaling framework I use to extract the lesson. And what I discovered about why my mind and body were out of sync.

But I'm also being honest: this process only works if you're in a certain place in your journey. If shame and frustration are still running the show, this episode might feel overwhelming. If that's you, I'll explain what to do instead.

What I cover:

→ Why another drink feels like a good idea when your nervous system is stressed

→ The four mindset tools you need to expand your perspective so you can extract a valuable lesson

→ How to tell the difference between your conscious intentions and subconscious habits

→ Why willpower doesn't work when you're dysregulated

→ What to do if this process feels impossible (you've got to clear the shame first)

→ The four phases of this journey and how to know where you are

This episode is for you if:

• You tend to overdrink and you're tired of the shame spiral

• You want to actually learn from your mistakes so you can stop repeating them

• You're curious about what it looks like to change your drinking without white-knuckling

• You want to understand why some approaches work for some people and not others

• You're ready to figure out where you are in your journey and what you actually need

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In this episode, Colleen responds to a question many women hit right after real momentum begins: What if I slip back? What if the funk comes back and I lose everything I've built?

Using a recent coaching call — and her own very real 5 a.m. spiral — she breaks down why the goal of emotional sobriety isn't avoiding hard days, negative thoughts, or uncomfortable emotions. It's learning how to recognize them early and change your relationship to them before they hijack your nervous system and run the day.

Colleen explains why awareness is most of mental health, how negative thought loops become habits, and what actually separates "good" mental health from bad: who's driving the car — you, or your mind. She walks through the five core attributes of a healthy mindset and shows how shifting perspective first is what makes action, clarity, and forward motion possible.

This episode reframes funks as normal, growth as uncomfortable, and success as the ability to take ownership in real time — not the absence of struggle.

🔑 Key Takeaways

• Why the goal isn't avoiding funks — it's changing how you respond to them

• How awareness interrupts negative thought spirals before they take over

• Why mental health is a skill, not a personality trait

• The difference between being driven by your mind vs. driving it

• The five attributes of a healthy, powerful mindset

• Why feeling better comes before changing your circumstances

• How internal locus of control creates momentum, resilience, and freedom

This episode is a reminder that you don't lose progress because you wake up in a funk — you lose progress when you let the funk decide who you are and how you show up.

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Why does the wine start calling at 5pm—even when you promised yourself this morning you wouldn't drink tonight? In this episode, Colleen breaks down exactly what's happening in your nervous system when willpower fails, why high achievers are stuck in chronic stress mode, and how the shame spiral is actually making you drink more. Plus, three body-based tools you can use tonight to complete your stress cycle and finally give your body what it's actually asking for.

• Your desire to drink at night isn't weakness. It's your nervous system asking for relief the only way it knows how.

• Your body doesn't speak English—she speaks energy, movement, rhythm, breath, and sensation.

• The habit that needs to break isn't how much you drink. It's the belief that you have to stay in constant motion.

• Expanding capacity isn't about doing less. It's about teaching your body how to hold more without living in survival mode.

• When you learn to give your body what it actually needs, the drink becomes optional—not because you're white-knuckling, but because you're not desperate anymore.

1. Shaking/Swaying — All animals shake off stress. Release the energy that got stuck in your muscles.

2. The Voo Exercise — Deep breath in, then "vooooo" until all the air is out. Stimulates your vagus nerve.

3. Bilateral Stimulation — Left-right rhythmic movement (walking, tapping shoulders, tapping thighs) tells your nervous system you're not frozen.

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In this episode, Colleen unpacks one of the most misunderstood truths in emotional sobriety: drinking isn't a character issue — it's a nervous system response to chronic stress, shame, and unmet needs.

Drawing from The Myth of Normal by Gabor Maté, she explains why so many of us learned to survive in environments that never felt safe — and how culture, economics, and generational trauma quietly wire our bodies to seek relief wherever we can find it.

This episode explores why healing often makes the urge to numb louder at first, how shame removes our sense of choice, and why compassion isn't a feeling you wait for — it's a perspective you practice. Colleen reframes healing not as fixing what's broken, but as recovering the parts of yourself that adapted to survive.

This is a conversation about why the drink was never the point — and how emotional sobriety begins when you understand what the behavior has been protecting you from.

🔑 Key Takeaways

• Why drinking is often about relief, not desire

• How chronic stress and insecurity train the nervous system to numb

• Why shame keeps you reactive instead of choiceful

• The difference between fixing yourself and retrieving yourself

• Why compassion works better than willpower

• How healing becomes possible when responsibility feels empowering, not punitive

This episode is a reminder that the behavior makes sense — and that understanding it is what gives you your power back.

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This is a follow-up to last week's episode about a client whose New Year's resolution to "drink less" was already failing two days in. I talked about how emotional overwhelm leads to a "functional freeze," and why this is more than a habit, it's a survival strategy.

On the coaching call, we uncovered exactly why she's needed a survival strategy. Like many women who experience a decrease in libido due to hormone changes, she's spent the last decade having obligatory sex with her husband. Because a good wife takes care of her man, right? But also having to put up with his temper tantrums and passive aggressive behavior when she doesn't put out has left her with a mountain of frustration and resentment that until now, she didn't have the tools to process.

This episode is about the emotional straightjacket so many women find themselves in. How having sex to keep the peace forces you to disconnect from not just your sexual energy, but your life force energy. Which is why it makes complete sense that you'd rather drink alone than be intimate with the man you love.

In this episode, I cover:

→ The functional freeze: when you're going through the motions but feel dead inside

→ How obligatory sex shuts down desire for everything—not just sex

→ Why you need to stop participating in the hostage negotiation over your vagina

→ How the cultural programming that says women are responsible for men's sexual needs is destroying your marriage

→It's not menopause that's disabling your libido

→ The only way to rekindle desire is to give yourself what you want (especially when what you want is to be left alone)

→ Why the relationship you need to focus on repairing is NOT with your partner, but with yourself

This episode is for you if:

• You'd rather drink alone than have sex with your partner

• You've lost passion for things you used to love

• You feel like you're just going through the motions

• You've been "going along to get along" for so long you don't know who you are

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In this episode, Colleen breaks down one of the most misunderstood moments in personal growth: the space between feeling pressure to decide and actually being ready to decide.

Drawing from her own experience with sobriety, divorce, and rebuilding her life from the ground up, she explains why urgency is almost never a sign of clarity — and why the nervous system's state matters more than the decision itself. Through the lens of emotional sobriety, Colleen introduces a simple but powerful framework for discerning truth from fear by tuning into the body's signals instead of the mind's panic.

You'll hear how stress, overwhelm, and safety each create completely different "radio stations" in your nervous system — and why decisions made from red- or yellow-light states tend to repeat old patterns, even when they look logical on paper. Colleen also shares how learning to separate identity truth from situational escape changed everything in her own relationships.

🔑 Key Takeaways

• Why urgency is a feeling, not a fact — and why most decisions can wait

• The three nervous system states (green, yellow, red) and how they distort decision-making

• How to tell the difference between truth and a stress-based escape plan

• Why the only thing you can truly "know" is who you are — not what you should do

• How fear, guilt, and shame keep you choosing the familiar instead of the aligned

• Why there is no "right" decision — only decisions you learn from

• What actually changes when you trust yourself to handle whatever comes next

This episode is a reminder that clarity doesn't come from forcing answers — it comes from safety, self-trust, and the willingness to sit still long enough to hear yourself.

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