In today’s episode, Colleen reveals the sneaky way our own thoughts quietly become emotional abuse—and how to interrupt the habit of thinking things that hurt.

From bedtime mirror pep talks to buried beliefs about being “a hot mess,” this episode explores how subconscious thought loops create the feelings that sabotage your confidence, relationships, and self-trust. Colleen explains how your nervous system isn’t reacting to your circumstances—it’s reacting to your story. And most of that story? It’s fiction you’ve been rehearsing for years.

If you’re ready to stop bullying yourself with thoughts you’d never say out loud to a friend, this episode is your start to choosing a better script and creating safety in your own mind.

🔑 Key Takeaways:

• The way you feel about yourself is just a reflection of the thoughts you repeat.

• Your thoughts aren’t facts—they’re habits.

• Negative emotions are your body’s way of flagging old, outdated beliefs.

• If you wouldn’t say it to someone else, it doesn’t belong in your internal dialogue either.

• The path to healing starts with noticing the thought, pausing the habit, and choosing again—on purpose.

If you are ready to get support from a community of women who are co-creating this change with intention and clarity— Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL. 

Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you’re struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen’s NEW Q& A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air! 

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YouTube: @HangoverWhisperer

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Click here to register for the Rewrite Neural Pathways to Escape Negative Self-Talk Workshop on July 12th

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Do you have confidence and discipline in most areas of your life, and feel befuddled as to why your drinking feels so hard to control?

If your drinking feels out of alignment with your values, your goals, or your sense of self, this episode will give you a clear understanding as to what’s really going on, and also five powerful, science-based strategies that will help you stop yourself from over-drinking—without relying on willpower, restriction, or shaming yourself into submission. 

Whether you're trying to moderate, avoid shame spirals, or feel more in control after a stressful day, these tools will help you reset your nervous system, reconnect with your values, and get your brain off autopilot so you can build new habits that align with who you really are.

🔑 You’ll Learn:

• Why your brain craves alcohol when you’re stressed (and how to rewire that urge)

• How “Delay, Don’t Deny” instantly puts you back in control

• Why emotional goal setting works better than setting limits on your consumption

• How to rehearse success using mental imagery

• What it means to take an “upstream” perspective—and why trying to stop yourself from overdrinking at the end of the day is about as useless as trying to stop the last domino from falling

• How checking in with your tomorrow self can interrupt the “f-it” cycle

Overdrinking is not about your relationship with alcohol. It’s about your relationship with yourself—and these strategies help you rebuild self-trust, one decision at a time.

Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL if you’re ready to fully commit to your personal growth and do the work to get emotionally sober. Side effects include an 80 percent reduction in drinking.

Want daily updates from me? TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer Twitter (X): @NotAboutTheAlc and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@hangoverwhisperer

—Do you want coaching from Colleen on a situation you’re struggling with? Click here to submit your question. Your name will not be mentioned on air! 

In today’s episode, Colleen unpacks why your background alarm is going off—and how to finally turn it off.

You’re not lazy. You’re not broken. And your bedtime resistance, your anxious spinouts, your self-sabotage? They’re not random. They. Are. Patterns.

Habits formed by younger versions of you who were just trying to stay safe.

This episode dives into how childhood beliefs shape your nervous system, why emotional energy gets trapped in the body, and how to reclaim that energy instead of wasting it on panic, shame, or perfectionism. If your anxiety feels like it runs the show, Colleen gives you a way to interrupt the pattern and stop thinking your way out of a feeling problem.

Whether you’re healing from overdrinking, a divorce, or just trying to move through your day with more peace, this one shows you exactly how to get back into your body and claim your power.

Key Takeaways:

• That “resistance” you feel? It’s not laziness—it’s a child part of you stuck in a story.

• Your background alarm (aka chronic anxiety) is often a relic from the past—not a reaction to the present.

• Trying to think your way through a feeling problem only keeps the alarm ringing.

If you’re done spiraling, numbing, or wondering why you sabotage the things you say you want—this episode is your wake-up call to stop overriding your body and start listening.

And if you’re ready to reduce your drinking by 80% and finally trust yourself again? Schedule a discovery call with Colleen or the team- BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL. 

Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you’re struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen’s NEW Q& A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air! 

Find me on:

YouTube: @HangoverWhisperer

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You’ve probably heard me say the common phrase “the call is coming from inside the house” — but what if every judgment you make about someone else is too?

In this episode, Colleen unpacks the concept of The Black Mirror — the idea that your emotional reactions to other people are often projections of the stories, beliefs, and insecurities you hold about yourself.

You’ll learn how to flip the script when you're triggered by someone else's behavior, turn judgment into powerful self-awareness, and use emotional sobriety skills to stop reacting from fear and start responding from clarity. This is shadow work, made practical.

This episode is for the woman who is ready to take her power back… by owning what’s hers and releasing what isn’t.

🔑 Key Takeaways:

• The traits you judge in others often reflect disowned parts of yourself.

• Emotional reactivity is a mirror — not a fact.

• Changing “they think…” to “I feel…” is a powerful way to access hidden beliefs.

• Boundaries come from clarity, not resentment.

• Emotional sobriety means learning to feel what you feel without making it mean something is wrong with you.

If you are ready to get support from a community of women who are co-creating this change with intention and clarity— Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL. 

Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you’re struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen’s NEW Q& A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air! 

Find me on:

YouTube: @HangoverWhisperer

TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer

Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer 

X (Twitter) : @NotAboutTheAlc

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Click here to watch the full interview with Carley on YouTube

In Part 2 of Carley’s story, we dive into the healing that began once she joined the program. You’ll hear how she learned to regulate her nervous system, rewire her brain, and change the story she told herself about who she was.

Carley shares how she finally stopped chasing external validation, started putting herself first without guilt, and showed up more fully — not just for herself, but for her kids, her husband, and her work.

We also talk about what it means to “be emotionally sober” and why drinking less wasn’t the ultimate win for Carley — it was becoming the woman she never thought she could be.

This part of the conversation is a celebration of what’s possible when you stop trying to get sober and start learning to feel safe in your own body.

What you’ll hear in Part 2:

• The skills Carley developed that helped her reduce her drinking by 80%

• How emotional sobriety changed her marriage, her parenting, and her self-talk

• Why she now calls herself “unrecognizable” — in the best way

• What she would say to any woman who’s scared to take the first step

Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL if you’re ready to fully commit to your personal growth and do the work to get emotionally sober. Side effects include an 80 percent reduction in drinking.

Want daily updates from me? TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer Twitter (X): @NotAboutTheAlc YouTube: @hangoverwhisperer

—Do you want coaching from Colleen on a situation you’re struggling with? Click here to submit your question. Your name will not be mentioned on air!

Most women don’t realize how uncomfortable they are with feeling good—until things start going too well. That’s when the sabotage creeps in. A snappy comment. A skipped workout. An unnecessary glass of wine.

In today’s episode, Colleen breaks down the concept of the “upper limit problem” from The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks—and explains how perfectionists and people-pleasers unknowingly block joy, ease, and success by clinging to struggle.

You’ll learn how your emotional thermostat gets set in childhood, why guilt and discomfort with pleasure keep you stuck, and how to reset your internal baseline so peace and happiness stop feeling unsafe.

This episode is a powerful reminder that you don’t have to earn your joy. You just have to stop arguing for your limitations.

🔑 Key Takeaways:

• The “upper limit problem” is a self-imposed glass ceiling that blocks success, love, and creativity.

• Most high-achieving women are used to pain—and don’t know how to tolerate feeling good.

• Guilt is often the signal that you’re expanding beyond what feels “acceptable” to others.

• You don’t need permission to feel ease, rest, or joy. You just need a new intention.

• Emotional sobriety means letting go of the need to suffer in order to deserve what you want.

✨ What if your next breakthrough wasn’t about doing more… but feeling more?

If you're ready to stop drinking just to take the edge off your own growth, then Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL. 

Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you’re struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen’s NEW Q& A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air! 

Find me on:

YouTube: @HangoverWhisperer

TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer

Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer 

X (Twitter) : @NotAboutTheAlc

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In today’s episode, Colleen shares a powerful one-on-one coaching conversation with a client who was dreading a weekend trip with her judgmental, high-maintenance mother-in-law. What started as a fear of overdrinking turned into something much deeper—a real-time lesson in emotional ownership, boundaries, and what it means to become unfuckwithable.

This episode isn’t about family dynamics—it’s about taking your power back. If you’ve ever agreed to something just to avoid conflict and ended up feeling resentful, this is for you.

You’ll walk away with practical language, new scripts, and the mindset shift that will help you stop outsourcing your emotional well-being to other people’s moods.

🔑 Key Takeaways:

• Feeling trapped isn’t a fact—it’s a sign you haven’t fully claimed your power of choice.

• Boundaries are about what you will do, not about controlling others.

• Being “unfuckwithable” doesn’t mean you don’t care—it means you stop performing to keep the peace.

• You don’t need to change other people’s reactions to feel okay.

• Resentment is often a sign that you said yes when you meant no.

If you are ready to get support from a community of women who are co-creating this change with intention and clarity— Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL. 

Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you’re struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen’s NEW Q& A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air! 

Find me on:

YouTube: @HangoverWhisperer

TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer

Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer 

X (Twitter) : @NotAboutTheAlc

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Click here to watch the full interview with Carley on YouTube

In this raw and relatable conversation, I’m joined by one of my incredible clients, Carley — a driven healthcare professional, mom of two, and former daily drinker who once believed her only two choices were to either quit drinking forever or keep white-knuckling it with shame and regret.

Carley opens up about what her drinking looked like behind closed doors and the pressure she put on herself to “keep it together” — until it started to fall apart. She shares how overachieving, perfectionism, and people-pleasing became coping mechanisms, and how alcohol slowly crept in as her off-switch.

We talk about the moment she realized her mental math wasn’t working anymore, the emotional buildup that led her to finally book a discovery call, and what shifted when she heard someone say: “You don’t have to get sober. You just have to feel better.”

This is an incredibly powerful episode for anyone who has ever felt stuck between drinking too much and feeling like you can’t stop completely. Carley’s story is proof that emotional sobriety isn’t about rules — it’s about freedom.

What you’ll hear in Part 1:

• The hidden stressors that led Carley to overdrink (even as a healthcare worker who knew better)

• The fear of reaching out for help — and what made her finally do it

• The myth of “just try harder” and why it never works

• The exact moment she realized she didn’t have to choose between chaos and abstinence

Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL if you’re ready to fully commit to your personal growth and do the work to get emotionally sober. Side effects include an 80 percent reduction in drinking.

Want daily updates from me? TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer Twitter (X): @NotAboutTheAlc YouTube: @hangoverwhisperer

—Do you want coaching from Colleen on a situation you’re struggling with? Click here to submit your question. Your name will not be mentioned on air! 

In today’s episode, Colleen unpacks a subtle but powerful mindset that can completely shift how you experience stress, pressure, and time. Whether it’s a packed calendar, an airport sprint, or your own inner critic barking about everything you should be doing, the real problem isn’t your to-do list—it’s your nervous system.

This episode explores how urgency is often just emotional dysregulation in disguise, and why “getting everything done” will never create the calm you’re actually craving.

If you’re constantly on the go, juggling work, family, and the secret shame of overdrinking, this one will help you slow down without falling behind—and start practicing emotional sobriety in the way you move through your day.

🔑 Key Takeaways:

• Feeling rushed is not a fact—it’s a nervous system state.

• Stress often masquerades as urgency, but urgency isn’t truth.

• When your body is dysregulated, your brain makes up reasons to panic.

• Emotional sobriety means choosing how you want to feel and leading with that.

• You don’t have to suffer through your schedule—you can rewire how you move through it.

If you are ready to get support from a community of women who are co-creating this change with intention and clarity— Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL. 

Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you’re struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen’s NEW Q& A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air! 

Find me on:

YouTube: @HangoverWhisperer

TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer

Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer 

X (Twitter) : @NotAboutTheAlc Transcript

If you’re drinking more than you want to, but every time you try to cut back it feels like one more thing to do… this episode is for you.

Today, I’m sharing the real story that kept me stuck in the drinking cycle for years—the one that has nothing to do with alcohol: 🙋🏼‍♀️ “I don’t have enough time.”

From the liquor store parking lot to the 87-item to-do list that ran my life, I walk you through how that one belief created stress, depletion, and ultimately... a nightly bottle of wine.

You’ll learn my 5-step Rewrite & Release method for deconstructing the neural pathways that are making you feel overwhelmed, out of control, and like you have nothing left to give—except a glass of wine at the end of the day.

This is the work that actually rewires your brain. This is what it means to get emotionally sober. This is where your freedom begins.

Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL if you’re ready to fully commit to your personal growth and do the work to get emotionally sober. Side effects include an 80 percent reduction in drinking.

Want daily updates from me? TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer Twitter (X): @NotAboutTheAlc and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@hangoverwhisperer

—Do you want coaching from Colleen on a situation you’re struggling with? Click here to submit your question. Your name will not be mentioned on air!