Duane is joined by Beau Williams, the author of "One Year With My Soulmate." We discuss the deeply personal and emotional process of navigating life after such profound loss. Beau courageously opens up about his late partner Melanie's struggles with unresolved trauma and dependency on Adderall, and her search for healing through breathwork and self-discovery. This conversation sheds light on the complexities of love and loss and the resilience required to find purpose amidst the chaos.

Through sleepless nights in America and a transformative move to Bali, we explore how practices like HIIT fitness, ice baths, and journaling became crucial components of self-healing. Beau's story is a testament to the human spirit's ability to transform pain into purpose, as he embraced a new mission to help others struggling with trauma and addiction. Our dialogue touches on the emotional toll of grief, the struggle to maintain personal growth, and the importance of self-care, highlighting the impact of eliminating alcohol and the power of breathwork in clearing negative energies.

In this episode, you will hear:

Personal journey of grief and transformation after losing a soulmate to suicide

Beau Williams shares insights from his book "One Year With My Soulmate"

Exploration of unresolved trauma, addiction, and healing practices

Role of breathwork, HIIT fitness, and journaling in self-healing

Importance of spiritual connections and reframing loss as a learning experience

Challenges and rewards of embracing a wellness-focused lifestyle

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Are you tired of being stuck in the same painful cycle?

You know the one – where you can't deal with what's happening, you're angry at the world, and you keep hoping things will magically change. Maybe you're fighting with your spouse, holding grudges, or just feeling completely overwhelmed by life.

Here's the truth: all that fighting against reality is actually making your addiction, anxiety, and depression worse. But there's a way out, and it starts with something called radical acceptance.

In this episode, Duane and Eric break down this powerful tool from Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) that's been helping people escape the addiction cycle. You'll discover why accepting painful situations doesn't mean giving up – it's actually the first step toward real change.

They'll walk you through exactly what radical acceptance looks like, share simple statements you can use when emotions feel overwhelming, and give you a clear three-step process to start practicing today. You'll learn why the creator of DBT said "the path out of hell is through misery" and how this counterintuitive approach can finally give you the peace you've been searching for.

Whether you're dealing with addiction, anxiety, depression, or just feeling stuck in life, this episode offers hope and practical tools you can start using immediately. Don't miss the free worksheet that goes with this episode to help you put these concepts into action.

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Key Topics

• What radical acceptance really means and why it's not giving up 

• The difference between pain and suffering – and why fighting reality increases both 

• Three simple steps to start practicing radical acceptance today 

• When radical acceptance isn't appropriate (like abusive situations) 

• Powerful statements to use when emotions feel overwhelming 

• How this Buddhist-inspired therapy tool breaks the addiction cycle 

• Why accepting grief and loss is essential for healing

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Years ago, Olivia Sproat stood at a crossroads. As a provisional psychologist and former counselor, she was drawn to a unique women's rehabilitation prison in Australia—a place where the focus on compassion and respect seemed to offer a glimmer of hope. Today, she joins us to share her journey into this transformative field, where a pioneering program has slashed recidivism rates to an astonishing 6%, compared to the usual 40%. Through her eyes, we explore how addressing the specific barriers faced by women, especially mothers battling addiction, can carve out meaningful paths to recovery.

The notion of prison life is often clouded by preconceived ideas about punishment and confinement. However, Olivia paints an entirely different picture of Wandoo prison, where emotional safety and community are at the forefront. She reveals how conflict resolution, emotional regulation, and mentorship transform lives within its walls. The therapeutic community here is more than just a concept; it's a living, breathing system that encourages trust and vulnerability, allowing women to connect deeply with their peers and themselves. Olivia's insights challenge traditional punitive models, advocating for a system rooted in kindness and support.

In this episode, you will hear:

Transformative power of compassionate rehabilitation in a unique women's prison in Australia

Olivia Sproat's journey as a provisional psychologist and former counselor at Wandoo prison

Therapeutic community model slashing recidivism rates to 6%

Addressing barriers faced by incarcerated women, especially mothers battling addiction

Emotional safety, conflict resolution, and mentorship fostering profound change

Dichotomy of external versus internal freedom explored within prison walls

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Picture yourself staring in the mirror at 3 AM, promising yourself that tomorrow will be different, while that familiar voice whispers "you're weak" and "what's wrong with you?" If this sounds familiar, you need to hear this episode.

Host Duane Osterlind delivers a solo episode that completely destroys the most dangerous myth about addiction - that it's a moral failing or character flaw. As a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who has personally walked through addiction, Duane brings both professional expertise and lived experience to this life-changing conversation.

This isn't another "just try harder" message. Instead, Duane shares groundbreaking brain science that proves addiction is a chronic brain disorder, not a weakness. You'll discover how your brain's reward system gets hijacked, why willpower alone isn't enough, and why shame actually makes recovery harder.

Drawing from leading researchers like Dr. Gabor Maté, Dr. Nora Volkow, and Dr. Anna Lembke, Duane explains the three stages of addiction and how genetics, environment, and brain chemistry all play crucial roles. More importantly, he provides practical steps to move from shame to self-compassion.

If you've ever felt broken, weak, or alone in your struggle with addiction, this episode will give you a new understanding of what you're really dealing with - and hope for genuine healing. You'll learn why connection is the opposite of addiction and how curiosity can replace judgment in your recovery journey.

This episode includes a free worksheet called "Reframing Your Addiction Story" to help you put these insights into practice immediately.

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Key Topics

Addiction as Brain Disease - Understanding the neurological changes that occur in addiction 

The Shame Cycle - How moral failure myths keep people trapped in addiction 

Brain Science Breakdown - Dopamine, prefrontal cortex, and the three stages of addiction 

Genetics vs. Choice - Why addiction risk is 40-60% genetic 

Self-Compassion Practices - Practical steps to move from shame to healing 

Connection as Medicine - Why isolation feeds addiction and relationships heal 

Rewriting Your Story - Separating who you are from what you've done

Timestamps

[00:01:00] - The 3 AM mirror moment: Breaking the shame cycle 

[00:03:00] - What addiction really is: Brain disorder vs. moral failing 

[00:05:00] - How your brain gets hijacked: The dopamine flood explained 

[00:06:00] - Historical perspective: From moral failing to medical condition 

[00:08:00] - The damage of shame: Why stigma makes addiction worse 

[00:10:00] - Practical healing steps: Self-compassion and education 

[00:12:00] - Recovery is possible: Brains heal and neural pathways rewire

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Legendary musician Dion DiMucci joins us to share his extraordinary journey of recovery and growth, shedding light on the transformative power of spirituality and mentorship. Known for timeless hits like "Runaround Sue" and "The Wanderer," Dion candidly discusses his battle with addiction and his path to over 57 years of sobriety. He reveals how faith and a 12-step recovery program changed his life, offering profound insights from his co-authored book, "Dion the Rock and Roll Philosopher." Dion's stories are more than just tales of survival; they are lessons in finding purpose and inner peace through a connection with a higher power.

Mentorship takes center stage as we explore its profound impact on personal growth and emotional resilience. Sharing personal anecdotes and wisdom from his mentor, Dion emphasizes the irreplaceable value of genuine human connections over the pursuit of external validations like wealth and power. This episode serves as a reminder of the importance of surrounding oneself with people who can offer perspective and guidance during life's challenges, highlighting that true fulfillment often thrives in the warmth of meaningful relationships and shared wisdom.

In this episode, you will hear:

Dion DiMucci's journey from addiction to over 57 years of sobriety through faith and a 12-step recovery program.

The transformative role of spirituality and mentorship in personal growth and recovery.

Insights from Dion's book "Dion the Rock and Roll Philosopher," emphasizing wisdom, faith, and philosophical reflections.

The significance of genuine human connections and mentorship over material success and external validations.

Exploring the quest for fulfillment beyond professional achievements through self-reflection and humility.

Dion's profound spiritual awakening experience and its impact on his life and relationships.

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Have you ever felt completely stuck when facing a difficult situation? Like you're drowning in endless possibilities and can't find your way forward? You're not alone. Most of us get trapped in decision paralysis, overthinking every angle until we're more anxious than when we started.

In this powerful episode, Duane and Eric Osterlind break down a life-changing framework that can transform how you handle any problematic situation. Based on Marshall Linehan's Dialectical Behavior Therapy work, they reveal that no matter how complex your challenge feels, you actually only have four choices available to you.

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Whether you're struggling with addiction recovery, facing a major life transition, or simply feeling overwhelmed by daily stressors, this episode will give you the clarity and confidence to move forward. The hosts share practical examples of how to apply each choice, including how to reframe withdrawal symptoms as signs of healing and how to use acceptance as a tool for reducing suffering rather than avoiding it.

You'll discover why "staying miserable" is sometimes the right choice and how recognizing this can actually empower you. More importantly, you'll learn how to break free from the endless cycle of "what-ifs" and take meaningful action in your life.

This isn't just theory – it's a practical roadmap that puts you back in the driver's seat of your own life. By the end of this episode, you'll have a simple but powerful tool that can help you navigate any challenge with greater confidence and less overwhelm.

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Mike Long, the brilliant physicist-turned-writer and co-author of "The Molecule of More," joins us for a riveting conversation on the Addicted Mind Podcast. Together, we dissect the fascinating world of dopamine and its powerful influence over our behavior and experiences. We take a closer look at how this neurotransmitter's relentless push for future rewards often clouds our present joys, impacting everyday actions from gambling to excessive use of social media. Mike's unique perspective bridges natural patterns with human habits, offering profound insights into the mind's complex workings.

In our discussion, we unravel the dual nature of dopamine, painting a vivid picture of its role as both motivator and alert system. Through engaging analogies, like the excitement of Christmas morning, we explore how dopamine shapes our desires and decision-making, propelling us toward imagined futures. Yet, the episode doesn't shy away from recognizing the challenges posed by dopamine's influence, especially in the context of modern technology and its overstimulation. By diving into the science behind neurotransmitters, we underscore the importance of balance in navigating this chemical-driven landscape.

In this episode, you will hear:

Mike Long's exploration of dopamine's dual nature as both a motivator and an alert system

The impact of dopamine on future-focused behaviors and the overshadowing of present joys

Practical strategies to balance dopamine's influence and promote mindful living

Discussion on GLP-1 drugs' potential in curbing cravings and treating addiction

The role of technology in amplifying dopamine-driven habits and solutions for managing screen time

Techniques for fostering personal growth and relationships through intentional living

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Do you ever feel stuck, like something is silently holding you back from achieving your goals in recovery? You’re not alone. On today’s episode of Addicted Mind Plus, hosts Duane and Eric Osterlind tackle a subject that hits close to home for many of us: those sneaky, unhelpful thought patterns called cognitive distortions.

These tricky mental habits can silently sabotage progress and keep us locked in cycles of addiction. From all-or-nothing thinking to blaming yourself for what’s outside your control, these thoughts can feel overwhelming—but they don’t have to define you.

Duane and Eric break down the seven most common cognitive distortions and provide actionable tips to help you challenge and reframe your thinking. Their insights are your roadmap to building a healthier, more empowered mindset.

Why you should listen to this episode:

Whether you’re working through recovery yourself, supporting a loved one, or simply curious about how our minds work, this episode is packed with powerful lessons to inspire hope and growth.

Don’t miss out on the free companion resource! Download the 7 Sneaky Thoughts Holding You Back Worksheet Here to start reshaping your mindset today.

It’s not just about what’s happening in your life; it’s about how you think about it. And when you approach challenges with clarity and compassion, the path forward becomes clearer.

Tune in now to take the first step toward breaking free!

Key Topics:

The impact of cognitive distortions on addiction

Overcoming all-or-nothing thinking

The power of challenging negative thoughts

Recognizing and reframing mental filters

The importance of acknowledging positive steps in recovery

Timestamps:

[00:01:00] Introduction to cognitive distortions

[00:03:48] Discussing "all or nothing" thinking

[00:05:58] Exploring mental filters and their impact

[00:07:40] Addressing the habit of discounting the positive

[00:09:23] How jumping to conclusions affects us

[00:11:24] The problem with labeling ourselves

[00:13:48] The importance of challenging cognitive distortions

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Mark Lucia, Director of Programming at the KindBridge Research Institute, brings his exceptional experience from being a special forces medic to mastering public health and behavioral health program design. Join us as we uncover the systemic barriers that hinder service members and veterans from accessing help for gambling addiction, a problem exacerbated by deeply ingrained institutional stigma. Mark’s relentless efforts to reshape policies and heighten awareness, evidenced by groundbreaking state-level campaigns in Colorado, are crucial steps towards fostering hope and healing within military communities.

Gambling is not just a pastime; within military settings, it reveals its darker side, with slot machines on overseas bases raising concerns about institutionalized gambling. The stigma surrounding mental health care in the military often prevents service members from seeking necessary support, driven by fears of negative career repercussions. This episode sheds light on the surprising prevalence of gambling addiction among veterans, encouraging a dialogue about classifying it as a health issue and finding the appropriate interventions.

In this episode, you will hear:

Exploring the hidden epidemic of gambling addiction within military communities

Insights from Mark Lucia on systemic barriers and stigma preventing service members from seeking help

Examination of gambling facilities on overseas military bases and their impact on mental health

Discussion on reclassifying gambling addiction as a health issue and necessary interventions

Challenges faced by the Department of Defense in recognizing and addressing gambling disorders

Highlighting successful awareness campaigns and policy changes led by Mark Lucia

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The Liberation of Letting Go: Finding Joy in What You Choose to Miss

Have you ever felt that nagging anxiety when you miss a social gathering, decline an invitation, or don't immediately respond to a text? That feeling has a name—FOMO (Fear of Missing Out)—and it might be silently sabotaging your recovery journey.

In this enlightening episode of The Addicted Mind Plus, hosts Duane and Eric Osterlind explore a powerful mindset shift from FOMO to JOMO (Joy of Missing Out). They reveal how the constant pressure to be everywhere and do everything can lead to overwhelm, anxiety, and disconnection from our true values.

The hosts share how social media intensifies this fear by showing everyone's highlight reels, making us feel like we're falling behind or missing crucial experiences. This comparison trap hits especially hard during recovery, whispering lies that rest equals laziness or declining invitations means losing connection.

But there's hope in embracing JOMO—the conscious choice to find peace in saying no and truly meaning it. Unlike FOMO, which research links to lower life satisfaction and poor self-esteem, JOMO helps build emotional resilience and alignment with personal values.

Through six practical steps, Duane and Eric guide listeners on how to recognize FOMO's presence, identify what they're truly afraid of missing, and shift perspective to see what they gain by setting boundaries. This isn't about avoidance—it's about intention and making choices from clarity rather than fear.

The hosts emphasize that recovery doesn't mean you're behind; you're exactly where you need to be. Sometimes the most powerful action is choosing peace over pressure and stillness over striving. JOMO isn't disconnection—it's reconnection to yourself, your needs, and what truly matters.

For those ready to practice this transformative skill, the episode points to a downloadable worksheet and invites listeners to join The Addicted Mind community for deeper support. Because recovery isn't something you have to face alone—and sometimes, the quiet joy of letting go is exactly what your healing journey needs.

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Key Topics

Understanding the difference between FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) and JOMO (Joy of Missing Out)

How social media intensifies FOMO and impacts recovery

Research showing FOMO's connection to lower life satisfaction and poor self-esteem

Six practical steps to shift from FOMO to JOMO mindset

Making choices based on values rather than fear

The importance of community in recovery

Finding peace in intentional choices rather than reactive decisions

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