In this episode, Colleen dismantles one of the most costly habits we carry through life: the obsession with figuring out whose fault it is. She makes a powerful distinction between fault—the cause of a problem—and responsibility—your power to choose how you respond. The moment you stop waiting for someone else to make things right, you stop handing them your power.

With humor, wordplay, and grounded examples, she shows how clinging to blame keeps you stuck, resentful, and drained—while letting go frees you to act from a place of choice, not victimhood. Whether it’s waiting on an apology, reimbursement, or just “closure,” the real cost is the energy you lose while holding someone else accountable for your own next move.

Colleen invites you to reclaim your response-ability, stop making other people’s actions the condition for your own happiness, and give situations “all the attention they deserve—none.” Because when you drop the weight of fault, you gain the freedom to create the life you actually want.

 

 

🔑 Key Takeaways:

• Fault is about causation; responsibility is about choice.

• You are always 100% responsible for how you respond—no matter who caused the situation.

• Waiting for someone to “make it right” keeps you stuck in powerlessness.

• The idea that someone owes you something is often just a brain block.

• Letting go of fault reclaims the energy you need for your actual goals.

• Response-ability means owning your power to act, even when you choose to wait.

• Not every problem is worth solving—sometimes the best response is no response at all.

 

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