What Brings You In?

In today's episode we cover:

• Listener question: How do you recover as the perpetrator of an affair?
• What does it mean to know yourself? How can you not.. you're.. you.
• 3 ways to get to know yourself better
• How knowing and accepting yourself changes your relationships
• Your inner dialogue, and how it can push people away

Stuff we missed or didn't have time to talk about can be found in the show notes at ryananswers.com/podcast

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There's all kinds of advice on how to be happy, but what does science say? 

In today's episode we cover:

• The 84 year long Harvard experiment on happiness
• The single biggest factor in whether you're happy or not
• Money - can you buy happiness?
• Two key exercises to help unlock your personal happiness pathway
• How culture affects happiness

Stuff we missed or didn't have time to talk about can be found in the show notes at ryananswers.com/podcast

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Do you have low emotional bandwidth? Here are the symptoms:

• You get angry quickly
• You end relationships rather than working through issues
• You have difficulty expressing yourself 
• You find it difficult to calmly resolve relationship issues 
• You avoid, dismiss, minimize, or numb yourself to avoid feelings
• You become preoccupied with issues and have trouble focusing on other things

In today's episode we cover:

• Why some people naturally have this, and others have to work at it
• The two types of emotions and how one derails communication
• How you can increase your emotional processing ability 
• Why having low emotional bandwidth makes your relationships difficult

Stuff we missed or didn't have time to talk about can be found in the show notes at ryananswers.com/podcast

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Huge week for us here at WBYI. Our new office is finished, including a room I had built just for our podcast. We also received our first reader question, so we're a pretty big deal now.

In today's episode we cover:

• Reader question: How to deal with boundaries that become isolating?
• Three communication tips you can use in your relationship right away
• That's it. A punchy episode today 

Stuff we missed or didn't have time to talk about can be found in the show notes.

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The overbearing mother-in-law who drops by whenever she wants. The father who retires from the family business but keeps telling his son what to do. The friend who drinks too much at your dinner party. The colleague who overshares about their personal issues.

There are so many examples of boundary issues, so it's no surprise boundaries are one of the most common issues people talk about in therapy.

In today's episode we cover:

• What exactly are boundaries?
• Do you have to cut people out of your life if they cross your boundaries?
• What if your attempts to talk about boundaries always cause fighting?

Stuff we missed or didn't have time to talk about can be found in the show notes.

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It's a modern cliche featured in at least half of the series I've seen on Netflix lately. A person walks into a generic looking office and a calm, soft spoken figure with round glasses asks them about their childhood.

But is it accurate? Or do therapists also focus on the issues happening now, the issues that made you pick up the phone and book an appointment?

In today's episode we cover:

• Do therapists really focus heavily on childhood?
• What about childhood is relevant to your adult problems?
• The major types of parenting and how they affect you as an adult
• How our blind spots develop and the problems they cause

Stuff we missed or didn't have time to talk about can be found in the show notes.

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The single most misunderstood topic in relationships is cheating. There are so many myths, so much information, and so many people on the internet who claim to have the answers.

Today, we draw on decades of experience working with couples going through infidelity, and take a look at some of the most common beliefs about cheating.

Which do you think are true?:

• Once a cheater, always a cheater 
• People cheat because of unmet needs in their relationship 
• Some people are just cheaters, some people could never do it
• If you don't break up with a cheater, you have no self respect
• Most couples in therapy for infidelity end up divorcing

There are many more things we cover, and the stuff we missed or didn't have time to talk about can be found in the show notes.

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After World War 2, American psychologists set out to prove that Americans would never fall for Nazi crap the way Germans did. They set up a clever experiment where a volunteer would be asked to push a button delivering a fatal shock to his fellow man.

Their prediction? 0.01% of men would push the button. 

The result? 65% of men did it. 

This sent shockwaves through the field of psychology. In our first episode of a special series looking back at landmark experiments, we cover the Milgram obedience to authority experiment.

You'll learn:

• The conditions required for two thirds of people to become murderers
• How many people it takes to convince you what you're seeing isn't real
• Why more bystanders actually decreases the odds of anyone helping
• The factor that dropped obedience from 65% to 10%

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Today we talk about one of the most difficult topics: grief.

People often say we need to talk about issues more, but this is one that gets left out. So today we're going to cover:

• The phases of grieving, and their legitimacy
• The differences between death, grief, and loss
• Different types of loss, and how the affect people 
• What it means to process grief, and how to do it in a healthy way
• How to know if you're suppressing feelings

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Do long distance relationships work? How do you stay connected? Are there times you should rip off the band-aid and go your separate ways? 

This episode we talk all about long distance relationships and how to stay connected while you're apart. We cover:

• How to figure out if it's better to break up or go long distance
• What to do to stay connected when you're far away
• What it means when you stop missing the person
• When it's time to readjust your expectations

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