December 08, 2025

What Decentering Men Actually Looks Like

1 hour 47 minutes

In this week’s episode of The Audaci-Tea Podcast, hosts Lisa and Sovereign explore what it looks like for women to decenter men in everyday life and relationships. Decentering men is not a single action but a result of prioritizing women's autonomy and needs while deconstructing patriarchal norms. This episode breaks down practical steps, mindset shifts, and the empowering outcomes of putting yourself first.

But first, in Tea Time, they respond to a listener voicemail about women taking their husbands’ last names, discuss the US Border Patrol monitoring drivers and detaining pregnant women seeking reproductive health care, female MAGA influencers facing backlash for feminist stances, and a woman proposing to her boyfriend of 14 years. Later, in Mailbag, they answer a listener question about whether women need to be the ones approaching men romantically.

🎧 This episode examines how women can prioritize themselves, navigate relationships with awareness, and embrace empowerment without guilt.

🎙️ Topics Discussed:

What decentering men looks like in practice

Why prioritizing women’s needs is essential for empowerment

How societal expectations pressure women into traditional roles

Surveillance and threats to women’s autonomy

Celebrating choices in relationships without losing identity

Using self-discovery and boundaries to navigate dating and partnerships

✨ Links and Resources Mentioned:

Border Patrol monitoring US drivers and detaining those with ‘suspicious’ travel patterns

https://apnews.com/article/immigration-border-patrol-surveillance-drivers-ice-trump-9f5d05469ce8c629d6fecf32d32098cd

Georgia dismisses maternal mortality committee after ProPublica investigation

https://www.cnn.com/2024/11/21/health/georgia-maternal-mortality-committee-propublica

MAGA influencer hit with right-wing backlash over feminist comments

https://www.rawstory.com/maga-influencers/

Lizzy B on centering men as its own punishment

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTrkQPsHJ/

📚 This Week’s Recommendation:

The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence

https://a.co/d/dkAQZ9A

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https://www.patreon.com/collection/960341

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🕰️ Episode Chapters:

00:00 Welcome and Tea Time

03:15 Listener Voicemail: Should Wives Take Husbands Name?

09:15 Surveillance and Privacy Concerns in Texas

19:28 Proposing To BF of 14 Years

30:14 MAGA Influencers Accused of Feminism

37:57 What Does Decentering Men Actually Look Like?

45:18 The Result of Decentering Men

55:15 Should Women Embrace Selfishness?

01:02:57 Finding Worthy Partners

01:14:00 Checklist for Decentering Men

01:26:57 Mailbag: Do Women Need To Approach Men Romantically?

01:45:31 Poll Results: Modern Witch Hunts

🎙️ The Audaci-Tea is a production of Siren Sound, executively produced by Lisa Carr and The Sovereign Woman. Music, audio production, and show production by Ryan Marth and Siren Sound.

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