In this episode of NeuroFM, Jeremy breaks down the concept of Enemy Mode—which is when the brain is treating individuals as enemies to overcome, rather than people to love.  This leads connections to shut down, and for every interaction to start feeling like a battle. He explores how enemy mode shows up differently in neurodiverse relationships, especially when partners think, feel, or process the world in different ways. Jeremy shares real-life examples that reveal how easily couples can slip into this defensive posture and why it leaves both partners feeling misunderstood, isolated, and stuck in cycles of conflict. 

But this isn’t just theory—it’s a roadmap toward hope. Jeremy outlines practical ways to recognize when enemy mode is active and steps couples can take to move back toward empathy, curiosity, and connection. Whether you’re autistic, ADHD, neurotypical, or somewhere in between, this conversation invites you to see enemy mode not as a flaw, but as a signal—one that, if noticed and addressed, can actually strengthen your relationship. It’s a must-listen for anyone who wants to replace disconnection with deeper trust and love.

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Music for the show’s intro is provided (with permission) by Matt Langston & EleventySeven. You can check out their awesome stuff here - https://www.eleventysevenisalive.com/
 
Music for the show’s outro is provided (with permission) by Sean Rogers & Shineunder. The band doesn’t exist anymore, but Sean is still doing great work and can be found here - https://heyworldcreative.com/