Have you ever matched with someone on a dating app, had a great conversation, agreed to meet up in real life and then, at the last minute, they cancel on you or stop responding altogether? It might sound counterintuitive but it’s actually surprisingly common. To the extent that a term has been coined to label it, and that’s gophering.

The name gophering comes from the animal gopher, which is known for digging tunnels and disappearing underground. And it makes sense. The dating ‘gopher’ basically tunnels back into the abyss, leaving you hanging and wondering what went wrong. 

Why do people do that ? Is it the same as ghosting ? How can tell if someone is going to gopher me, and what should I do if it happens ? In under 3 minutes, we answer your questions !

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