There are many things I wish I had known right after D-Day… things that would have helped me recover more quickly. In this video, I cover several of them, and Jay gives extra input from the addict-who’s-found-sobriety point of view. (Please note: We do not condone hitting your spouse. If this is happening, please reach out to your local shelters/authorities.)

Timestamps:

0:00 Intro

0:23 Coming down hard on yourself regarding boundaries

0:55 I’m in!!! I’m out!!! (what many guys do with this and one Solution)

2:46 Solution: How to find safe people & safe counselors

5:05 One way to keep from being blinded: Change your job description (Guys, nurse her back to health)

8:16 Solution to “falling for lines”

9:53 One clear sign Jay was taking his addiction recovery seriously

10:22 Solution to “You’re being too sensitive!”

11:16 Getting back at him / betraying yourself

12:58 Some addicts think, “It’s a license to keep acting out”

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https://thecouplecure.com - Jay and Lori's website

https://pornpainhealed.com - Lori's site for betrayed partners

https://porniskillingme.com - Jay's site for porn addiction recovery

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