It's everywhere - in songs, in movies, on Facebook - this perfect relationship that we're meant to have that will somehow make our life secure, complete and happy ever after.

When we believe all these concepts to be truths we get lost and we suffer because they are mind-made, man-made ideas which could never have the power to make us feel anything - including our partner. We only ever experience them as a function of our own thought, our partner is an idea the same as any other concept.

The more we see this, the more our thinking settles down because it stops trying to wrestle with itself, and from that settled state of mind, we then experience the true love, freedom and security that we really are.

So settle down, relax and join us for the chat.

We'd love to hear from you with your questions and thoughts so just get in touch here.

Mentions in the show:

George Pransky's The Relationship Handbook https://www.amazon.co.uk/Relationship-Handbook-Satisfying-Relationships-Anniversary/dp/0998874205/ref=dp_ob_title_bk

Angus and Rohini Ross https://rohiniross.com/

This week we're talking about money.

It's an aspect of life that our identity can become very tangled in because of the consistent and seemingly true messages that how much money we have says something about our worth in the world, that it's a way to bring security or that it's a way to avoid danger.

This entanglement we find ourselves in leads to some behaviours which, when repeated over and over, start to lead to suffering. This suffering is the perfect way for us to start to wake up to what money actually is and who we really are.

The kind of suffering you, or others you know, might be experiencing include shopping addictions, inability to ask for the payment or pay increases you're entitled to, endless chasing of the next, bigger, better thing, not going for jobs you're capable of because you're apparently not worth that much, or hoarding and protecting the money you have.

It's a big topic and we explore a number of angles. Have a listen and see what you hear.

If you have immediate problems with money that need practical support, please get in touch with experts who can help.

https://www.moneysavingexpert.com/loans/debt-help-plan/

https://www.stepchange.org

https://www.businessdebtline.org

https://www.gamblersanonymous.org.uk/

Now settle down, relax and join us for the chat.

We'd love to hear from you with your questions and thoughts so just get in touch here.

Mentions in the show:

Michael Neill's Financial Freedom from the Inside Out (self study programme) https://www.michaelneill.org/store/financial-freedom/

It's Not Your Money: How to Live Fully from Divine Abundance - https://www.amazon.com/Its-Not-Your-Money-Abundance-ebook/dp/B07CWFGMJJ

Russell Brand's episode 74 with Wendy Mandy, Shaman - https://www.russellbrand.com/podcasts/page/2/

This week we explore the fascinating topic of communities - which initially sparked an interesting reaction from Natalie who had some strong attachment to it in the context of her peer support charity work (the spirit of community is often cited as a positive term).

This was a really interesting chat which ultimately showed that the sense of belonging we often innocently seek in communities is always within. And we came to the realisation that community (like everything else) is a neutral term upon which we have overlaid lots of meaning.

Settle down, relax and join us for a chat.

We'd love to hear from you with your questions and thoughts so just get in touch here [link].

Mentions in the show:

Dr Amy Johnson's podcast episode about nature, trees and the innate connection of those systems. How we are that - just we layer stories over the top https://dramyjohnson.com/2020/01/ep80-the-nature-of-you-how-you-and-nature-are-one-and-the-same-with-teri-whiteman-and-claudette-dietlin/?inf_contact_key=35f4e05ecb253e7cb65c597e29113fa2680f8914173f9191b1c0223e68310bb1

This week we talk about our different parenting journeys and experiences - each of us is at a different stage; between us our kids ranging from 5 to 18.

We talk about the challenges of the early days of the first newborn, Nat and Helen sharing their experience as first-time Mums, and Gary's experience as a Dad.

We talk about the brilliance of kids, the chaos they bring, the lessons they teach us every day and we talk about how parenting has evolved for each of us since being in the understanding of the Three Principles.

And, just in case you're wondering, we also talk about how you are, definitely, enough as a parent - whatever your situation and experiences. And if that sounds crazy, take a listen and see what you think by the end.

Settle down, relax and join us for a chat.

We'd love to hear from you with your questions and thoughts so just get in touch here.

Mentions in the show:

The charity Natalie co-founded - Smile - http://www.thesmilegroup.org/family-affair-ripple-effects-perinatal-mental-illness/

Jack Pransky's book - Parenting from the Heart https://www.amazon.co.uk/Parenting-Heart-Guide-Essence-Inside-Out/dp/1927360641

Do you need a purpose in life?

We answer this very succinctly, 1 minute into this episode, with a resounding "no".

We go on to talk about purpose vs calling, about 'how do we know if we're living our purpose?' and that the more we seek a purpose the more it is disguised from us. And that we can rely on life to shout louder and louder if we're going in a direction other than life wants us to go.

We also explore ego within this topic, what role does it play, if any, as well as the opportunity for fluidity to keep living whatever it is that's making sense for us now. We start to suffer when we are constantly chasing THE job or THE purpose for us, and we suffer when we get stuck believing that THIS one job is the only job I can do or THIS purpose is the only purpose I can fulfil.

Then finally, what about organisational purpose. How these get reverse-engineered, how they can be believed to be the answer to an organisation's performance prayers, and also how they can be a practical tool if seen for what they are.

Settle down, relax and join us for a chat.

We'd love to hear from you with your questions and thoughts so just get in touch here [link].

Mentions in the show:

Eckhart Tolle - A New Earth

Mathew Fox - A three principles coach with a great podcast exploring the heart of dad

This week we're exploring the worlds of busy-ness, stress and self-care.

How being busy isn't ever going to get you to feel like you've made it, reaching that imagined pinnacle of good enough, and how avoidance of busy with self-care can become equally addictive.

Both an endless chase of "I'll be good enough when…" or "I'll be OK when…"

If goals and plans and deadlines in your life seem to be saying something about who you are and your worth in the world then we're here to offer you a fresh perspective to step out of the normal narrative that cycles round society on these topics.

Settle down, relax and join us for a chat.

We'd love to hear from you with your questions and thoughts so just get in touch here.

Mentions in the show:

Nic Askew who videos his clients while they're held in a loving silence https://nicaskew.com/ Ziva Meditation who Helen learnt transcendental meditation with https://zivameditation.com/

Welcome to episode 2 of 'What You've Been Looking For.'

We talk about the self, what it is, how it's never been there, and how, when you see that, you discover the ultimate freedom.

We include pointers so you can notice times for yourself when you've had an experience of 'no-self' and how that feels.

We've been misdirected all these years by the messaging that tells us we have to believe in ourselves, develop ourselves and that there are 3, 5 or 7 steps to do that successfully.

We challenge these accepted norms and how they're actually a source of suffering as we continue to feel like we're never quite there, never quite good enough.

Settle down, relax and join us for a chat.

We'd love to hear from you with your questions and thoughts so just get in touch here.

Mentions in the show:

Michael Neill, a leading coach in the Three Principles - the same understanding Gary, Helen and Natalie work with clients from https://www.michaelneill.org/

Skinners pigeons https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/B._F._Skinner

Acceptance and commitment therapy https://contextualscience.org/act

Welcome to episode 1 of 'What you've been looking for.' With this podcast, we bring you a variety of perspectives on the nature of life and experience which means we get into some deep stuff that's at the heart of who we are as well as lighthearted humour and laughs.

Settle down, relax and join us for a chat.

We're Natalie Nuttall, Gary Bridgeman and Helen Amery and we're all coaches who reconnect clients to their innate brilliance.

In this episode, we introduce who we are and how we got into the work we all do now. The label used for the work is The Three Principles and we talk about that too. What are these principles, why do they matter, what difference do they make?

We'd love to hear from you with your questions and thoughts so just get in touch at www.whatyouvebeenlookingfor.com.

Mentions in the show:

Michael Neill, a leading coach in the Three Principles - the same understanding Gary, Helen and Natalie work with clients from https://www.michaelneill.org/ Piers Thurston, Helen's first coach https://www.makingchangework.co.uk/

Many people are seeking an easier life, a happier life, a better life. We've launched a new podcast to share how we've all rediscovered a life like this and more — and how it's not been through the seeking of gaining those experiences or of putting in place action plans to get there. Music from https://filmmusic.io "Feelin Good" by Kevin MacLeod (https://incompetech.com) License: CC BY (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/)