This one is a little different—it’s a real-life update on where I am, what I’m working toward, and what I’m doing to actually make it happen.

Inspired by conversations and ideas from people like Mel Robbins and Oprah, I’ve been thinking a lot about how important it is to know what you want in life—but also what you don’t want. Sometimes getting clear on what you’re ready to leave behind is just as powerful as defining where you want to go.

I’m sharing some of my personal goals and giving you a behind-the-scenes look at how I break a big vision into phases, then turn those phases into what I need to focus on year to year, month to month, week to week, and day to day.

We’re talking health, finances, business, money, personal growth, and the bigger picture of the life I’m trying to build.

Because a goal is great—but a goal without a plan can stay just a dream. This is about taking the big vision and turning it into the next small move.

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www.swing-back.com/book 

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We talk a lot about slowing down, resting, and giving ourselves grace—but we don’t talk nearly enough about how good it feels to actually get things done.

Productivity isn’t just about checking things off a to-do list. It can create momentum, build confidence, and give you that feeling of “I did that.” Sometimes accomplishing even one small thing can completely shift how you feel about yourself and your day.

In this episode, I’m sharing a story about a woman I’m working with and what her experience taught me about the connection between productivity, progress, and how we feel.

Because sometimes you don’t need to overhaul your entire life. You just need to start doing the things that make you feel capable again.

Let’s talk about why productivity deserves a place in the self-development conversation—and how small wins can create big momentum.

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MY BOOK!

www.swing-back.com/book 

If you want to chat about my coaching program - DM here: https://www.instagram.com/phylecia_kellar/

We all do it—we sweat the petty stuff. Someone says something that gets under our skin, someone cuts us off in traffic, or one little thing completely hijacks our mood.

In this quickie, I’m sharing ways I catch myself sweating the petty stuff and, more importantly, the simple daily steps I use to break free from it.

Because not everything deserves your attention, your energy, or your peace.

Let’s talk about how to recognize when you’re getting caught up in the little things, shift your perspective, and stop giving petty stuff so much power over your day.

Your peace is worth protecting.

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MY BOOK!

www.swing-back.com/book 

If you want to chat about my coaching program - DM here: https://www.instagram.com/phylecia_kellar/

Sometimes the biggest life lessons show up in the most unexpected places—including a day at the beach.

In this episode, I’m sharing three lessons the beach reminded me of: your vision may be clear even when the destination feels farther away than you expected, it’s okay to fall, and storms never last forever.

Sometimes we can see exactly where we want to go, but the bridge to get there takes longer than we imagined. That doesn’t mean the vision was wrong—it simply means the journey may take more time. The important thing is that you can see it, believe in it, and keep taking steps toward it.

Then there was the time my dad and I literally fell into the ocean. 😂 And honestly? It was a pretty good reminder that falling is part of being human. The blessing is that we don’t always have to fall alone.

And finally, those unpredictable storms that roll in quickly reminded me of something we all need to remember: just because you’re in a storm right now doesn’t mean you’ll always be there. The sun can come back just as quickly as the storm arrived.

This episode is your reminder to keep moving toward the vision, give yourself permission to fall, and trust that this too shall pass.

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MY BOOK!

www.swing-back.com/book 

If you want to chat about my coaching program - DM here: https://www.instagram.com/phylecia_kellar/

If you’re new to self-development and wondering where to even begin, this episode is for you.

After our Comeback Series, we’re going back to the basics and talking about why three simple practices—journaling, movement, and gratitude—are such a powerful place to start.

When life feels overwhelming, anxiety often shows up when we feel like we’ve lost control. Journaling can help you process what you’re feeling, release what’s weighing on you, and create clarity. Moving your body can help shift your mood, release feel-good endorphins, and give you the momentum to start accomplishing small goals. And practicing gratitude helps shift your perspective, allowing you to notice the beauty in your everyday life and appreciate the “regular” things we often overlook.

You don’t have to change your entire life overnight. Sometimes, getting back to the basics is exactly where the transformation begins.

If you’re interested in learning more about my 8-week program, send me a DM on Instagram and let’s chat. You can also find the link in the show notes.

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MY BOOK!

www.swing-back.com/book 

If you want to chat about my coaching program - DM here: https://www.instagram.com/phylecia_kellar/

This episode is our LAST of the series!!

We're diving into Pillar 5: Growth, Goals & Finding Your Magic

Thrive in it!

"A dream without a goal and a to-do list will stay a dream forever."

This is where you stop rebuilding and start building something new. You ask the bigger questions. You find what lights your fire. You go do it.

What we cover:

• The 4 questions: What's my goal? What's my bottleneck? What's my action step? What's the ONE thing I can do today?
• Clarity — Commitment — Tenacity: the three things required to actually get there
• Goal setting: 30 days → 12 months → 5 years
• Living as if you are already that person
• Top 3 priorities + achievable action steps each week (your daily mantra)
• Asking the right questions in each season: Who do I want to be? Who can I help? Where can I find the beauty today?
• Purpose changes by season — stop looking for the one big purpose and start finding purpose in right now
• Asking the right questions - who to ask / go implement 
• Support system - who is yours, become support for someone else

The key shift: From "I wonder if I could" to "Holy shit — I just did that." (Rachel Hollis)

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The full framework 

• 1) Understanding your struggle & Trauma
• 2) Mindset shift - why me, why not me
• 3) Daily Success Strategies - routine 
• 4) Internal Foundations - CIJ 

* 5) Finding your Magic - goal / priorities 

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Pillar 4: Internal Foundations

The Rebuild -

"Confidence, Independence, and Joy — find one, and the others follow."

This is where you get yourself back. Not the old you — the stronger, more interesting version who's been through something and came out the other side.

What we cover:

• Confidence: what makes you feel good about yourself, and how to get more of it — deliberately
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• Independence: what does it mean for you to stand on your own two feet right now, in this season?
• Joy: what brings it — and are you doing those things?
• Taking full responsibility and ownership for your life (no one is coming to save you)
• Learning to pay it forward — the moment you go help someone else is the moment you stop drowning
• Give more, gain more — service as a tool for your own recovery

The key shift: From "I'm trying to survive" to "I'm starting to live."

• Build house on sand - you got nothing, build a house on a firm foundation, you've got everything

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The full framework 

• 1) Understanding your struggle & Trauma
• 2) Mindset shift - why me, why not me
• 3) Daily Success Strategies - routine 
• 4) Internal Foundations - CIJ 

•⁃5) Finding your Magic - goal / priorities 

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MY BOOK!

www.ballinandbipolar.com/book

In this episode we're diving into Pillar 3  - 

 Daily Success Strategies!

Prepare for it!

"We don't build a routine for the good days. We build it for the bad ones."

Stability is not an accident. It's a daily practice. And when you have it dialed in, you become harder to knock down — and faster to get back up.

What we cover:

• Morning routine — SAVERS: Silence, Affirmation, Visualization, Exercise, Read, Scribe (Hal Elrod)
• Walkabouts and nature — the underrated power of getting outside and moving your body
• Media diet — what you consume is what you become
• Physical health as mental health — they are the same system
• Daily check-ins, prayer, gratitude practices
• Mood tracking — if you can feel the stressors coming, you catch it before you fly too high or fall too hard
• Understanding what you need in specific moments: anxiety, calm, overwhelm, joy
• Use time as a tool to work for you 
• Support system - get rid of toxicity 

The key shift: From "I react to my days" to "I prepare for them."

••We don’t have a routine for the good days, we have a routine for the bad days - Rachel Hollis 

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The full framework 

• 1) Understanding your struggle & Trauma
• 2) Mindset shift - why me, why not me
• 3) Daily Success Strategies - routine 
• 4) Internal Foundations - CIJ 

•⁃5) Finding your Magic - goal / priorities 

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MY BOOK!

www.ballinandbipolar.com/book

If anything changed my life - it was a mindset shift, nothing else.

"If you want to change your life, start with your mind'

In this episode we're diving into - Pillar 2 Mindset !!!

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The full framework 

• 1) Understanding your struggle & Trauma
• 2) Mindset shift - why me, why not me
• 3) Daily Success Strategies - routine 
• 4) Internal Foundations - CIJ 
• 5) Finding your Magic - goal / priorities 

Pillar 2 - Mindset 

• SHIFT IT!
• "Why me becomes why NOT me — and that's where everything changes."
• You cannot think your way out of depression. But you can change the questions you're asking, and that changes everything that follows.
• What we cover:
• The shift from why me to why not me — the most important mindset move you'll ever make
• Limiting beliefs and the lies we tell ourselves that keep us stuck
• Living in the gain, not the gap — measuring progress against where you started, not where you wish you were
• The red car theory — you find what you focus on
• Gratitude as a daily practice, not a platitude
• Asking the universe/God the right questions

•⁃The key shift: From "I can't get out of this" to "How do I get out of this?"

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MY BOOK!

www.ballinandbipolar.com/book

In this episode we deep dive into pillar 1 of the 5 part framework.

If you don't understand the problem, you simply won't know the solution.

The full framework: 

• 1) Understanding your Trauma - the problem / the struggle.
• 2) Mindset shift - why me, why not me
• 3) Daily Success Strategies - routine 
• 4) Internal Foundations - Confidence, Independence, Joy 
• 5) Finding your Magic - goal / priorities 

7/22 - Pillar 1 - understanding your struggle and trauma 

• NAME IT!
• "You can't rebuild what you haven't named."
• This is where we stop running from what happened and look it dead in the face. Not to stay there — but because you cannot build a foundation on top of unprocessed wreckage.
• What we cover:
• What is your story — and what does it actually mean about you?
• Identifying your triggers and onsets before they take you out
• The difference between putting a bandaid on trauma vs. actually healing it
• Accepting that it's not if life throws a curveball — it's when
• Getting over the fear of "what if it happens again"

•⁃The key shift: From "This happened to me" to "This is what I'm working with.

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MY BOOK!

www.ballinandbipolar.com/book