When Life Swings - Swing Back! Resilience Podcast with Phylecia Kellar (formerly ballin and bipolar)

Sometimes the hardest part of growth isn’t starting something new — it’s letting go of what no longer fits.

In this episode, I’m talking about why 2025 was never meant to be about expansion first — it was about building the foundation. And for that foundation to be solid, I had to make difficult choices… including losing relationships I had outgrown.

We dive into:

• What it really feels like to lose friends you once thought would always be in your life

• Why outgrowing people doesn’t make you cold — it makes you honest

• How saying goodbye can be an act of self-respect, not rejection

• Why being emotionally closed off might be a sign you’re opening doors for the wrong people

This is a reminder that not every closed door is a failure — some are protection. And sometimes the space left behind is exactly what you need to welcome the right people, opportunities, and version of yourself.

If you’ve been grieving relationships, questioning your circle, or wondering why growth feels lonely… this episode is for you.

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Resolutions fade — systems don’t.

 In Part 2 of the NO RESOLUTIONS series, we break down how to actually accomplish your goals this year by ditching the vague “new year, new me” mindset and replacing it with clear, actionable structure.

Instead of setting giant year-long resolutions that fall apart by February, this episode teaches you how to:

✨ Build quarterly goals that keep you focused
✨ Create a clear vision with achievable action steps
✨ Work on one goal at a time so you stop overwhelming yourself
✨ Separate output goals (things you control) from outcome goals (things you don’t)
✨ Use “pebble stones” — small steps — to bring every vision to life

You’ll hear Phylecia break down her own Q1 goal of growing her speaking business, and how she’s focusing on the part she can control:
blocking the time, building the list, and making the calls.

Because if you don’t break your goals into steps, they’ll stay visions forever.
 This episode will show you how to finally build momentum — quarter by quarter, week by week — and actually follow through this time.

Ask yourself these 3 questions to accomplish goals daily -

* What do I need to block time for?

* What habit do I need to take AWAY?

* What habit do I need to put INTO place?

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www.ballinandbipolar.com/book

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This New Year’s Eve, we’re not doing resolutions.
Not the pressure. Not the unrealistic lists. Not the “new year, new me” noise.

Instead, we’re choosing two words — two anchors — that will drive everything we do in 2026.

In this episode, Phylecia shares her two words: Plan + Execute.
Because if you have a plan… you can execute. And if you execute… you can change your life.

This is about focusing on what matters today, preparing for what’s coming tomorrow, and letting your actions — not resolutions — build the year you want.

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MY BOOK!

www.ballinandbipolar.com/book

Link for my FREE resources! 👇 

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TO NOTE: EVEN IF YOU DO NOT CELEBRATE CHRISTMAS - THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU!

This Christmas Eve, I want to slow everything down and sit with you for a moment — not to talk goals, not to push, not to hustle… but to honor the fact that you made it.

Through the highs, the lows, the burnout, the breakthroughs, and every messy middle in between — you kept going. And before we step into a new year with new expectations, we need to pause and acknowledge the strength it took just to reach this day.

🧘‍♀️ Presence & Peace Prompts

• “What does peace feel like for you — and when’s the last time you actually gave yourself permission to feel it?”
• “If you could freeze this moment, what would you want to remember about it?”
• “What can you let go of tonight that you don’t want to take with you into the new year?”

This episode is your reminder that survival is an accomplishment. That showing up is enough. And that you are allowed — today — to rest, breathe, and feel proud of the person you’ve become.

Merry Christmas, and Happy Holidays, my friend. You made it. 🎄✨

We’re only in the first quarter of your journey — so why are you comparing your progress to someone who’s already in their fourth?

In this episode, I break down the real reason comparison steals our joy and stalls our growth. Whether it’s fitness, career, mental health, or personal development, too many of us look at someone else’s highlight reel and assume we’re falling behind… when really, we’re just early in the game.

You’ll learn how to:

• Recognize when comparison is sabotaging your mindset
• Reclaim your own pace and your own timeline
• Stay focused on your “field,” not everyone else’s
• Build momentum quarter by quarter instead of trying to win the whole game on day one

HOWEVER - we will also dive into when comparison can actually HELP you move forward, how other people can be examples for how you want to show up! 

It's all perspective! 

This is your reminder: you’re not behind — you’re just getting started. And there’s a lot of football left to play. Let’s get after it.

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MY BOOK!

www.ballinandbipolar.com/book

Link for my FREE resources! 👇 

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Let’s talk about the lies we’ve all been told about mental health — and what’s actually true.

In this episode, Phylecia breaks down six of the most common myths that keep people silent, ashamed, or afraid to get help. From the idea that mental illness is “rare” or “a sign of weakness,” to the misconception that therapy is just talking or that recovery isn’t possible — we’re busting through the stigma one truth at a time.

Because mental health isn’t a flaw to fix — it’s a part of being human. And when we understand the truth, we can replace shame with strength, compassion, and real growth.

This episode will leave you informed, empowered, and reminded that healing is always possible.

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MY BOOK!

www.ballinandbipolar.com/book

Link for my FREE resources! 👇 

www.ballinandbipolar.com/free-resources

Here’s the truth — no one’s immune to bullying. Not even the confident ones. Not even the “cool” ones.

In this episode, Phylecia shares a story about a strong, confident girl who was bullied simply for standing out — for having muscles, for being herself. The takeaway? Haters are gonna hate. Bullies will always find a target. But their words only stick if we let them.

This episode is a reminder that real confidence doesn’t mean people won’t try to tear you down — it means they can’t touch you when they do. Focus on your own growth, your own voice, your own light… and let them do their thing.

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MY BOOK!

www.ballinandbipolar.com/book

Link for my FREE resources! 👇 

www.ballinandbipolar.com/free-resources

This Thanksgiving feels different — because gratitude means more when you’ve had to fight for your joy.

In this heartfelt episode, Phylecia reflects on turning 37, what that day looked like, and why it wasn’t about perfection but pride — pride in the growth, the lessons, and the strength it took to get here.

It’s a reminder that gratitude isn’t about everything being easy. It’s about seeing how far you’ve come, even through the messy, hard, and beautiful parts of life. Because when you’ve walked through the fire and still found light — gratitude just hits different.

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MY BOOK!

www.ballinandbipolar.com/book

Link for my FREE resources! 👇 

www.ballinandbipolar.com/free-resources

The holidays can be a beautiful season — but also the perfect storm for chaos, stress, and slipping out of routine. Before life starts running you, this episode is your reminder to slow down, set intention, and protect your peace.

Phylecia breaks down the do’s and don’ts of staying aligned before the holidays hit:
✅ Keep your diet, sleep, and exercise steady.
✅ Set a budget and stick to it.
✅ Plan your days — write it down, use your calendar, and stay organized.

Because when you lead with intention, you stay prepared.
 And if you don’t run your life — your life will run you.

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MY BOOK!

www.ballinandbipolar.com/book

Link for my FREE resources! 👇 

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Resistance is inevitable — whether it’s in your habits, workouts, or goals, life will always push back. But sometimes, the key isn’t to fight harder… it’s to find the path that makes sense for you.

In this episode, I talk about learning to work with your natural rhythm instead of against it — choosing times, routines, and environments that support your growth rather than drain it. Because success isn’t about constant struggle — it’s about alignment, consistency, and doing the work when it makes sense.

BE EFFICIENT!

MY BOOK!

www.ballinandbipolar.com/book

Link for my FREE resources! 👇 

www.ballinandbipolar.com/free-resources