Whole Heart Transformation

As promised, my husband Malachi shares his story of what led him into a life of duplicity, sex addiction and secrecy as a child.  His attempts to get free and the unraveling of his secret life.

You don't want to miss this episode!!!

Boundaries are essential to health and healthy relationship.  In order to understand the benefits we have to have had them established in our upbringing.  If we didn't get those skills as kids then we have to learn them as adults. Which can be really hard because we don't understand the gift they are to us.  In today's episode I explain boundaries in a way for you to understand so you can start the journey to implementing them. 

Our body has an incredible alert system to let us know whether or not we have experienced healing and forgiveness or not. If our body still has reactions to things that are not healed we know we need to give more attention to that area.  When we can come at this with openness, love and grace, we can heal.  

If you haven't heard part one of "My Story" then go back and take a listen.

In todays episode I talk about my failed boundaries and how I had to learn to incorporate them after betrayal.  Even if you haven't encountered a marital betrayal, I believe you can benefit from my story and how to grow in intimate relationships.  

I am finally ready to share more details of my story of betrayal, sex addiction, boundaries, a grueling process to healing and finally hope.  

Grieving.  Many of us were taught that grieving was only for when someone passed away.  But grieving is much more than that!  Our body needs to grieve the losses no matter what they are.  I discuss how grief should have been taught in childhood and reasons why we may not be able to grieve as adults.  I think it might blow your mind!

Using words to describe emotions seems as though it won't have an affect on how we heal. However, new research shows that emotions that are not expressed are a part of the missing link for healing.  Whether thats with ourselves or in relationships. I unpack the reason for this and why it's so important to start sharing these felt emotions whether you are a male or female.  I hope you gain a new perspective on emotions and their purpose. 

What if sex could be so much more than what you are currently experiencing?  Sex within the context of marriage is one incredible union.  We are taught that in order to have amazing sex that we need to perform, wear outfits, lights off, candles on etc. and that will create amazing sex.  What if I told you that NONE of those things make sex incredible, in fact it can becoming boring, and none of those things build the connection and deep intimacy we crave.

Intimacy and connection needs to start BEFORE sex.  But many of us try to connect FROM sex.  It's a misconception that many of us battle.  Real intimacy done right will bring the deepest connection you can have to another human when done in a healthy context.  I hope today opens your eyes to a new view on sex and that your sex life with your spouse can take on a new meaning.