The harsh reality for many is they have been victimized.  When we push that harsh reality away and carry on without healing the result may very well be that others become victims of our unhealed pain.  I give many examples in this podcast (including some of my own story) how some scenario's play out.  I invite you into this conversation of how unhealed victimized parts of us can also hurt others and how to take responsibility for your healing.   

If you have experienced betrayal or know someone who has then this episode is for you.  Sexual betrayal is one of the most painful experiences in a persons life.  Words to describe this type of betrayal are often described as shattering, destroyed, gut wrenching pain, broken and my personal description, whatever is after dust thats how I felt I was.  Sexual betrayal is obliterating.  But why?  In this episode I will give a clear description of why this happens so you can feel less alone in your process to healing.

None of us enjoy the cycle of unresolved emotions within ourselves.  Most of us believe that if that if we stay busy, avoid or just pray these uncomfortable emotions away that eventually they will disappear.  I have news for you, they don't!  When difficult emotions or feelings in the body arise and we don't address them we get stuck in a cycle of 'Avoi-dance".  Instead of doing the dance of avoidance and staying stuck, I will discuss how we got to this place, how others contributed to it, and how to change.

You may have heard the common saying to leave and cleave to your spouse when you get married. Yet you find yourself saying and doing things like you did in your family of origin in your relationship.  Or maybe you vowed to never do or say the things that your parents did or said and yet you find yourself doing those exact same things. 

I will be discussing why this is a factor and how to start the process of change in your adult relationships.  

Resources:

It didn't start with you by Mark Wolynn

What if lack of emotional awareness is why you are dealing with the issues in your identity?  How would you know how to handle emotions or body sensations if they were never allowed before?

I will be discussing WHY lack of emotional awareness is linked to identity issues and HOW to start the process to change and build healthy identity.

 ***When we know ourselves we know our needs and can create healthy boundaries***

The topic of change can be a really sticky subject.  A lot of people believe that change isn't really possible.  However, there is so much science that proves that change is absolutely possible! In this podcast I discuss some of the ways I experienced change personally and some important tools you can use to take steps towards change as well. 

Resources:

Feelingswheel.com

Characterformationcoaching.weebly.com

Triggers are rarely something we enjoy.  Instead of trying to run from the pain we experience in triggers, what if instead you got curious with them and find out the messages they are attempting to send to you?  What if triggers are a pathway to healing? In this podcast I am raw and real (as I always am!) about how triggers were affecting me and how I allowed myself to heal using curiosity instead of pushing away pain.

Resources mentioned in the podcast:

https://jay-stringer.com/book/

In a world where the Disney fairytale has had such relational influence, its become the standard for many.  Just like porn has set an unhealthy standard for men and women, I believe these fairytales have also influenced unhealthy relational standards.  In this podcast I will discuss what I call "Disney porn", pornography, their influence and how their standards have led us into unhealthy relational dynamics. As we unpack this my hope is that you'll experience some eye opening realities, plus some tools to change these unhealthy view points.

Most of us have no clue what healthy sexuality looks like or how it should be experienced.  In this episode I will be discussing what I see as our current issues in our sexuality and how to create new healthy perspectives.