“Your task is not to seek love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” – Rumi

Why do we think we can just give love when the well inside is dry? And if we don't have anything to give, what are we actually doing? When we feel depleted, tired and sometimes (as a result) angry, our first response may be to beat up ourselves and others. That’s not really loving, is it?

As Rumi so eloquently said, all the barriers you carry against loving yourself affect your ability to love others. If you’re cruel to yourself, how do you treat your partner? You may not necessarily be cruel, but I guarantee you’re looking to fill a void. And how can you demand that someone else fill your void when you’re unwilling to do it yourself? It’s not their job. I know that if I don’t love me, there’s no foundation for a happy relationship. In fact, it’s a recipe for disaster. If you’re not happy inside, you will create situations with your partner that match that unhappiness. Learn how to break through to the other side so you’re relationships not only work… they thrive!