Why Does My Partner

In this one, we look at layers of how this might be an issue. We share a few different things that might be coming up for you and we talk about ways to soothe yourself and trust yourself.  We all struggle with the stories we create about each other, lets dive in and think about how to radically love ourselves and trust ourselves as we journey into the vulnerability of partnership.

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If you want to dive in deeper, consider registering for our online Essential Skills Relationship Bootcamp. Open to individuals, couples and therapists. Learn more at whydoesmypartner.com/events

This podcast is not a substitute for therapy with a licensed provider.

How do we handle differences with our partners? Are we excited by them?  Are we drawn to them? Are we repelled by them?  We explore the stress we are under, dealing with loneliness and looking at one of the difficult catch 22’s of partnership.  We share tools about how to not take things personally and learn to expand our understanding and compassion of each other and our differences.

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If you want to dive in deeper, consider registering for our online Essential Skills Relationship Bootcamp. Open to individuals, couples and therapists. Learn more at whydoesmypartner.com/events

This podcast is not a substitute for therapy with a licensed provider.

We talk about over functioning and under functioning in this episode. This is a common dynamic in many partnerships. We tackle invisible work, emotional labor and gender roles. Yes we will weigh in on patriarchy and talk about relational health and power dynamics. Do you know how to function in your relationship in a stance of sharing equal power with your partner? This episode we share ideas about how healthy “power with” thinking is and share ideas about how to create a healthy dynamic with empowering each other in your relationship.

Share your questions with us at: whydoesmypartner.com/contact

If you want to dive in deeper, consider registering for our online Essential Skills Relationship Bootcamp. Open to individuals, couples and therapists. Learn more at whydoesmypartner.com/events

This podcast is not a substitute for therapy with a licensed provider.

We don’t shy away from the complexity that is human beings in this episode. Buckle in for an extended episode, we’ll dive deep into the science and into what relational skills will work. How can we take in things when they are good?  What does compassion have to do with calming my feelings? Can rage really be a bid for connection? We talk about many levels of the subconscious mind and how many ways we can answer this question.  We will share practices that will help you develop 2nd consciousness, how to track yourself as a practice and create a space for responsiveness instead of reactivity.  How to examine what might be going on in the depths of you and your partner. We can’t wait to dive deep with you on this one.

Share your questions with us at: whydoesmypartner.com/contact

If you want to dive in deeper, consider registering for our online Essential Skills Relationship Bootcamp. Open to individuals, couples and therapists. Learn more at whydoesmypartner.com/events

This podcast is not a substitute for therapy with a licensed provider.

In this episode, we’ll explore humor, the stories we tell ourselves and how fast those stories lead to reactivity.  Do our stories about what’s happening in our love lives help us or cost us or both? Let’s explore how to find our stories, come into relationship with them and be more vulnerable and close with each other.  Plus, we’ll cover compassion and why it helps calm us down.

Share your questions with us at: whydoesmypartner.com/contact

If you want to dive in deeper, consider registering for our online Essential Skills Relationship Bootcamp. Open to individuals, couples and therapists. Learn more at whydoesmypartner.com/events

This podcast is not a substitute for therapy with a licensed provider.

In this episode, we talk about Boundaries and so much more. Do we absorb too much? Or is nothing getting through? If our Boundaries are in place, we’re able to be curious and see the deeper needs under our partner’s behavior. You’ll hear us learn more about each other and model curiosity, rather than defensiveness. And we review one of our favorite skills, moving from Demand to Direct Request…because the simplest answer to this question is that it’s vulnerable to make a direct request.

Share your questions with us at: whydoesmypartner.com/contact

If you want to dive in deeper, consider registering for our online Essential Skills Relationship Bootcamp. Open to individuals, couples and therapists. Learn more at whydoesmypartner.com/events

This podcast is not a substitute for therapy with a licensed provider.

Why do we say yes when we don’t mean it? Do we know our own answers? Can we be vulnerable and can we allow our partner to be vulnerable? This episode is chock-full of skills: not saying yes when we mean no, making direct requests, not demanding, speaking truth, using psychological boundaries and creating your own boundary images, differentiating between agenda, strategy and needs, allowing for a No. Don’t be fooled, this is not a fully serious episode, in spite of all of those skills. Join us for tons of giggles too.

Share your questions with us at: whydoesmypartner.com/contact

If you want to dive in deeper, consider registering for our online Essential Skills Relationship Bootcamp. Open to individuals, couples and therapists. Learn more at whydoesmypartner.com/events

This podcast is not a substitute for therapy with a licensed provider.

Defensiveness in relationships is normal and something all of us experience at one time or another. In this episode, we discuss the things that could be behind that defensiveness. Are you communicating with your partner in a way that is coming off judgmental or attacking? Is your partner feeling hurt or scared? We explore the common root of defensiveness, hurt and fear, and learn healthy ways to navigate our relationships through these moments of discord into greater intimacy.

Share your questions with us at: whydoesmypartner.com/contact

If you want to dive in deeper, consider registering for our online Essential Skills Relationship Bootcamp. Open to individuals, couples and therapists. Learn more at WhyDoesMyPartner.com

This podcast is not a substitute for therapy with a licensed provider.

Can we go deeper with love languages? Your hosts have 3 different views on how helpful love languages are and we discuss it with no holds barred and collaboration. Today we focus on skills that come out of this space: directness, making agreements and meta conversations.  These are advanced skills for any couple.

For those who don’t know what “The 5 Love Languages” are, it is a concept and book by Dr Gary Chapman. His premise is that everyone has a primary “language” and that if you speak one language and your partner speaks another, you cannot understand each other. He defines the languages as this: quality time, words of affirmation, acts of services, physical touch, and quality time.

Share your questions with us at: whydoesmypartner.com/contact

If you want to dive in deeper, consider registering for our online Essential Skills Relationship Bootcamp. Open to individuals, couples and therapists. Learn more at WhyDoesMyPartner.com

This podcast is not a substitute for therapy with a licensed provider.

Neuroscience will bring compassion to us all!  Let’s learn what the brain does and what to do in response to the brain doin’ what it does.  We’ll be talking about learning to watch our minds and bodies in real time.  And we’ll be hitting these topics: Relational Health + Compassion + Equal Worth + Right Responsibility- boom!

Share your questions with us at: whydoesmypartner.com/contact

If you want to dive in deeper, consider registering for our online Essential Skills Relationship Bootcamp. Open to individuals, couples and therapists. Learn more at WhyDoesMyPartner.com

This podcast is not a substitute for therapy with a licensed provider.