You’re Not Weak — You’re Using the Wrong Strategy

If you’ve ever told yourself “this is the last time”… and then found yourself right back in the same cycle, this episode is for you.

Broken promises aren’t a character flaw. They’re not a lack of willpower. And they’re definitely not proof that you don’t care enough.

In this episode, we unpack why promises made in calm moments almost always fall apart when your nervous system is activated—and what actually works instead.

Whether you’re struggling with addiction yourself or trying desperately to help someone you love, this conversation will help you understand what’s really happening beneath the surface and how to break the cycle for good.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why promises made in a regulated state are nearly impossible to keep in an activated one

The neuroscience behind why “trying harder” doesn’t work (and what does)

Three practical strategies that help you keep promises in real-life moments

Real examples from both perspectives—the person struggling with addiction and the family member caught in the fallout

This isn’t about shame. It’s about strategy, safety, and working with your nervous system instead of against it.

🎯 READY TO BREAK THE CYCLE?
Join me for the Denial Breakthrough Challenge, a live coaching experience designed to help you stop repeating the same patterns and start creating real change.

In this live event, you’ll:

Identify your specific pattern that keeps you stuck

Build bridge strategies for your personal triggers

Create a plan that actually works in the moment, not just in theory

This isn’t generic advice. This is personalized coaching for your situation.

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https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/motivation-unlocked-challenge