Saving You Is Killing Me: Loving Someone With An Addiction

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  • 257 - When Love Is Not Enough: What I Allowed
    Stories of Strength & Resilience

    Today's episode features one of the courageous contributors from our collective book,

    When Love Is Not Enough: The Hard Truth About Loving Someone with an Addiction – Stories of Strength, Hope, and Resilience from the SYKM Collective.

    Every chapter in this book tells a true story. These are stories of loving someone with an addiction, navigating heartbreak, holding onto hope, setting boundaries, finding courage, and discovering that healing is possible.

    Some contributors chose to share their full names. Others chose to remain anonymous or use a pseudonym. No matter how they chose to tell their story, every voice in this collection is real, honest, and offered with the hope that someone else will feel a little less alone.

    We are deeply grateful to every contributor for their bravery, vulnerability, and willingness to share their lived experience. Your stories are helping break the silence surrounding addiction and reminding others that healing begins when we realize we are not walking this journey alone.

    📚 Order Your Copy

    When Love Is Not Enough: The Hard Truth About Loving Someone with an Addiction – Stories of Strength, Hope, and Resilience from the SYKM Collective

    Available now in paperback and digital editions wherever books are sold.

    Search the full title on Amazon or use the link in the show notes.

    💛 Share Your Story

    Has this episode stirred something in your heart?

    If you have a story that could encourage, comfort, or inspire someone else who is loving a person with an addiction, I would love to hear from you.

    We are already beginning to gather stories for future volumes of the SYKM Collective, and your voice could become the hope someone else is searching for.

    Please email me at:

    Subject Line: Share My Story – SYKM Collective

    🌿 Help Spread Hope

    If this episode touched your heart, please consider sharing it with someone who may need it.

    You can also help by:

    • Recommending the book to your support group.
    • Donating a copy to your local library.
    • Gifting one to a therapist, recovery coach, doctor's office, or treatment centre.
    • Sharing this podcast with someone who feels alone.
    • One story has the power to change a life.

      Thank you for listening and for being part of the Saving You Is Killing Me community.

      Remember…

      Your story matters.

      Your healing matters.
      And together, we're reminding the world that no one has to walk this journey alone.

      Sending hugs,

      Andrea Seydel

       

      29 min
    • 256 - When Love Is Not Enough: The Branch That Survived
      Stories of Strength & Resilience

      Today's episode features one of the courageous contributors from our collective book,

      When Love Is Not Enough: The Hard Truth About Loving Someone with an Addiction – Stories of Strength, Hope, and Resilience from the SYKM Collective.

      Every chapter in this book tells a true story. These are stories of loving someone with an addiction, navigating heartbreak, holding onto hope, setting boundaries, finding courage, and discovering that healing is possible.

      Some contributors chose to share their full names. Others chose to remain anonymous or use a pseudonym. No matter how they chose to tell their story, every voice in this collection is real, honest, and offered with the hope that someone else will feel a little less alone.

      We are deeply grateful to every contributor for their bravery, vulnerability, and willingness to share their lived experience. Your stories are helping break the silence surrounding addiction and reminding others that healing begins when we realize we are not walking this journey alone.

      📚 Order Your Copy

      When Love Is Not Enough: The Hard Truth About Loving Someone with an Addiction – Stories of Strength, Hope, and Resilience from the SYKM Collective

      Available now in paperback and digital editions wherever books are sold.

      Search the full title on Amazon or use the link in the show notes.

      💛 Share Your Story

      Has this episode stirred something in your heart?

      If you have a story that could encourage, comfort, or inspire someone else who is loving a person with an addiction, I would love to hear from you.

      We are already beginning to gather stories for future volumes of the SYKM Collective, and your voice could become the hope someone else is searching for.

      Please email me at:

      Subject Line: Share My Story – SYKM Collective

      🌿 Help Spread Hope

      If this episode touched your heart, please consider sharing it with someone who may need it.

      You can also help by:

      • Recommending the book to your support group.
      • Donating a copy to your local library.
      • Gifting one to a therapist, recovery coach, doctor's office, or treatment centre.
      • Sharing this podcast with someone who feels alone.
      • One story has the power to change a life.

        Thank you for listening and for being part of the Saving You Is Killing Me community.

        Remember…

        Your story matters.

        Your healing matters.
        And together, we're reminding the world that no one has to walk this journey alone.

        Sending hugs,

        Andrea Seydel

         

        20 min
      • 255 - When Love Is Not Enough: A Painful Peace
        Stories of Strength & Resilience

        Today's episode features one of the courageous contributors from our collective book,

        When Love Is Not Enough: The Hard Truth About Loving Someone with an Addiction – Stories of Strength, Hope, and Resilience from the SYKM Collective.

        Every chapter in this book tells a true story. These are stories of loving someone with an addiction, navigating heartbreak, holding onto hope, setting boundaries, finding courage, and discovering that healing is possible.

        Some contributors chose to share their full names. Others chose to remain anonymous or use a pseudonym. No matter how they chose to tell their story, every voice in this collection is real, honest, and offered with the hope that someone else will feel a little less alone.

        We are deeply grateful to every contributor for their bravery, vulnerability, and willingness to share their lived experience. Your stories are helping break the silence surrounding addiction and reminding others that healing begins when we realize we are not walking this journey alone.

        📚 Order Your Copy

        When Love Is Not Enough: The Hard Truth About Loving Someone with an Addiction – Stories of Strength, Hope, and Resilience from the SYKM Collective

        Available now in paperback and digital editions wherever books are sold.

        Search the full title on Amazon or use the link in the show notes.

        💛 Share Your Story

        Has this episode stirred something in your heart?

        If you have a story that could encourage, comfort, or inspire someone else who is loving a person with an addiction, I would love to hear from you.

        We are already beginning to gather stories for future volumes of the SYKM Collective, and your voice could become the hope someone else is searching for.

        Please email me at:

        Subject Line: Share My Story – SYKM Collective

        🌿 Help Spread Hope

        If this episode touched your heart, please consider sharing it with someone who may need it.

        You can also help by:

        • Recommending the book to your support group.
        • Donating a copy to your local library.
        • Gifting one to a therapist, recovery coach, doctor's office, or treatment centre.
        • Sharing this podcast with someone who feels alone.
        • One story has the power to change a life.

          Thank you for listening and for being part of the Saving You Is Killing Me community.

          Remember…

          Your story matters.

          Your healing matters.
          And together, we're reminding the world that no one has to walk this journey alone.

          Sending hugs,

          Andrea Seydel

           

          8 min
        • 254 - When Words Cut Deep: Separating the Person From the Addiction
          When Words Cut Deep: Separating the Person From the Addiction

          Harsh words spoken during addiction can linger long after sobriety begins.

          In this episode, Andrea explores impulse dysregulation, emotional erosion, and how to understand addiction without tolerating disrespect.

          In This Episode:
          • Addiction’s impact on impulse control
          • • Emotional harm and self-worth
            • Explaining behavior vs excusing it
            • Protecting your dignity with boundaries
            💛 Continue the Journey

            Visit:

            👉 www.savingyouiskillingme.com

            Explore Andrea’s books:

            👉 https://www.amazon.com/stores/Andrea-Seydel/author/B076PQLS1X

            Including:

            • Saving You Is Killing Me
            • Tainted Love
            • Saving Me: One Day at a Time

            💛 About Andrea

            Andrea Seydel holds a Master’s in Happiness Studies and formal training in Positive Psychology. As an author and advocate for those loving someone with addiction, she blends science, lived experience, self-compassion, courage, and community — helping you reclaim yourself without shame.

            19 min
          • 253 - When Love Is Not Enough: Loving From a Distance
            Stories of Strength & Resilience

            Today's episode features one of the courageous contributors from our collective book,

            When Love Is Not Enough: The Hard Truth About Loving Someone with an Addiction – Stories of Strength, Hope, and Resilience from the SYKM Collective.

            Every chapter in this book tells a true story. These are stories of loving someone with an addiction, navigating heartbreak, holding onto hope, setting boundaries, finding courage, and discovering that healing is possible.

            Some contributors chose to share their full names. Others chose to remain anonymous or use a pseudonym. No matter how they chose to tell their story, every voice in this collection is real, honest, and offered with the hope that someone else will feel a little less alone.

            We are deeply grateful to every contributor for their bravery, vulnerability, and willingness to share their lived experience. Your stories are helping break the silence surrounding addiction and reminding others that healing begins when we realize we are not walking this journey alone.

            📚 Order Your Copy

            When Love Is Not Enough: The Hard Truth About Loving Someone with an Addiction – Stories of Strength, Hope, and Resilience from the SYKM Collective

            Available now in paperback and digital editions wherever books are sold.

            Search the full title on Amazon or use the link in the show notes.

            💛 Share Your Story

            Has this episode stirred something in your heart?

            If you have a story that could encourage, comfort, or inspire someone else who is loving a person with an addiction, I would love to hear from you.

            We are already beginning to gather stories for future volumes of the SYKM Collective, and your voice could become the hope someone else is searching for.

            Please email me at:

            Subject Line: Share My Story – SYKM Collective

            🌿 Help Spread Hope

            If this episode touched your heart, please consider sharing it with someone who may need it.

            You can also help by:

            • Recommending the book to your support group.
            • Donating a copy to your local library.
            • Gifting one to a therapist, recovery coach, doctor's office, or treatment centre.
            • Sharing this podcast with someone who feels alone.
            • One story has the power to change a life.

              Thank you for listening and for being part of the Saving You Is Killing Me community.

              Remember…

              Your story matters.

              Your healing matters.
              And together, we're reminding the world that no one has to walk this journey alone.

              Sending hugs,

              Andrea Seydel

               

              26 min
            • 252 - The Push-Pull Pattern: Why Addiction Creates Emotional Highs and Lows
              The Push-Pull Pattern: Why Addiction Creates Emotional Highs and Lows

              Why does it feel so intense?

              This episode explains intermittent reinforcement, dopamine spikes, and the psychological magnetism of chaos. Andrea explores why instability can feel addictive — and how to step off the roller coaster.

              In This Episode:
              • Dopamine cycles and emotional volatility
              • • Why chaos can feel like connection
                • The psychology of push-pull dynamics
                • Choosing consistency over intensity
                💛 Continue the Journey

                👉 www.savingyouiskillingme.com

                Books:

                👉 https://www.amazon.com/stores/Andrea-Seydel/author/B076PQLS1X

                💛 About Andrea

                With advanced training in happiness studies and resilience, Andrea offers grounded support for navigating addiction relationships.

                19 min
              • 251- When Love Is Not Enough: The Courage to Tell the Truth
                Stories of Strength & Resilience

                Today's episode features one of the courageous contributors from our collective book,

                When Love Is Not Enough: The Hard Truth About Loving Someone with an Addiction – Stories of Strength, Hope, and Resilience from the SYKM Collective.

                Every chapter in this book tells a true story. These are stories of loving someone with an addiction, navigating heartbreak, holding onto hope, setting boundaries, finding courage, and discovering that healing is possible.

                Some contributors chose to share their full names. Others chose to remain anonymous or use a pseudonym. No matter how they chose to tell their story, every voice in this collection is real, honest, and offered with the hope that someone else will feel a little less alone.

                We are deeply grateful to every contributor for their bravery, vulnerability, and willingness to share their lived experience. Your stories are helping break the silence surrounding addiction and reminding others that healing begins when we realize we are not walking this journey alone.

                📚 Order Your Copy

                When Love Is Not Enough: The Hard Truth About Loving Someone with an Addiction – Stories of Strength, Hope, and Resilience from the SYKM Collective

                Available now in paperback and digital editions wherever books are sold.

                Search the full title on Amazon or use the link in the show notes.

                💛 Share Your Story

                Has this episode stirred something in your heart?

                If you have a story that could encourage, comfort, or inspire someone else who is loving a person with an addiction, I would love to hear from you.

                We are already beginning to gather stories for future volumes of the SYKM Collective, and your voice could become the hope someone else is searching for.

                Please email me at:

                Subject Line: Share My Story – SYKM Collective

                🌿 Help Spread Hope

                If this episode touched your heart, please consider sharing it with someone who may need it.

                You can also help by:

                • Recommending the book to your support group.
                • Donating a copy to your local library.
                • Gifting one to a therapist, recovery coach, doctor's office, or treatment centre.
                • Sharing this podcast with someone who feels alone.
                • One story has the power to change a life.

                  Thank you for listening and for being part of the Saving You Is Killing Me community.

                  Remember…

                  Your story matters.

                  Your healing matters.
                  And together, we're reminding the world that no one has to walk this journey alone.

                  Sending hugs,

                  Andrea Seydel

                   

                  21 min
                • 250 - Self-Care Is Not Selfish: A Lifeline When You Love Someone with an Addiction
                  Self-Care Is Not Selfish: A Lifeline When You Love Someone with an Addiction

                  Today is International Self-Care Day, and we're talking about why self-care isn't selfish—it's essential, especially when you love someone with an addiction.

                  In this episode, I explore what self-care really means through the lens of positive psychology, happiness studies, and my HAPPY Framework. Together, we'll look at practical ways to care for your health, protect your energy, strengthen your relationships, reconnect with your purpose, and remember that your life matters too.

                  If you've been pouring all of your time and energy into someone else's addiction, this episode is your gentle reminder to begin pouring some of that love back into yourself.

                  In This Episode:
                  • Why self-care becomes a lifeline
                  • The Four C's: Self-Compassion, Self-Care, Courage & Community
                  • Self-care through the HAPPY Framework
                  • Simple ways to prioritize your own well-being
                  • 📚 Featured Resource

                    When Love Is Not Enough: The Hard Truth About Loving Someone with an Addiction – Stories of Strength, Hope, and Resilience from the SYKM Collective

                    Available wherever books are sold.

                    If this episode encouraged you, please share it with someone who may need it.

                    Remember...

                    Your story matters. Your healing matters. And together, we're reminding the world that no one has to walk this journey alone.

                    Sending hugs,

                    Andrea Seydel

                    42 min
                  • 249 - It's Launch Day! Celebrating When Love Is Not Enough on International Self-Care Day

                    Today is launch day!

                    I am beyond excited to celebrate the release of our newest book:

                    When Love Is Not Enough: The Hard Truth About Loving Someone with an Addiction – Stories of Strength, Hope, and Resilience from the SYKM Collective.

                    Today also happens to be International Self-Care Day, and I truly couldn't imagine a more meaningful day to release this book.

                    In this special episode, I share why self-care is so much more than bubble baths and spa days—especially when you love someone with an addiction. Self-care becomes the courageous decision to stop abandoning yourself while trying to save someone else.

                    Drawing from the science of positive psychology, happiness studies, and the heart of the Saving You Is Killing Me community, we explore why healing begins with four essential practices:

                    ✨ Self-Compassion

                    ✨ Self-Care
                    ✨ Courage
                    ✨ Community

                    These Four C's have become the foundation of healing within our SYKM community and are woven throughout every chapter of this remarkable collection.

                    This book features the courageous stories of twenty-seven contributors who chose vulnerability over silence. Their stories remind us that while every journey is unique, none of us has to walk it alone.

                    A heartfelt thank you to every contributor who trusted us with your stories. Your honesty, courage, and generosity will help readers around the world feel seen, understood, and hopeful.

                    I'm also deeply grateful to Mike O'Riley, founder of The Art of Recovery Magazine, for writing such a meaningful foreword. Mike's personal experience with addiction and loss beautifully reminds us that while addiction changes lives, hope and healing are always possible.

                    How You Can Help

                    If this book speaks to you, I'd love your help in spreading hope.

                    ❤️ Share it with someone you love.

                    📚 Donate a copy to your local library.

                    🏥 Gift one to a counsellor, therapist, doctor's office, recovery coach, or treatment centre.

                    👥 Recommend it to your support group.

                    Sometimes one story is all it takes to remind someone they are not alone.

                    Order Your Copy

                    When Love Is Not Enough: The Hard Truth About Loving Someone with an Addiction – Stories of Strength, Hope, and Resilience from the SYKM Collective

                    Available now in paperback and digital editions wherever books are sold.

                    (Search the full title on Amazon or use the link in the show notes.)

                    In This Episode
                    • Why we intentionally launched on International Self-Care Day
                    • What self-care really means when you love someone with an addiction
                    • The Four C's of healing: Self-Compassion, Self-Care, Courage, and Community
                    • The science behind resilience, well-being, and hope
                    • Celebrating the twenty-seven courageous contributors
                    • How you can help bring this book into the hands of someone who needs it
                    • If this episode touched your heart, please consider sharing it. Every conversation helps break the silence surrounding addiction and reminds someone that healing is possible.

                      Thank you for celebrating this launch with us.

                      Sending hugs,

                      Andrea Seydel

                      15 min
                    • 248 - Tainted Love (Part 3): Reclaiming Your Power No Matter What You Decide
                      Tainted Love (Part 3): Reclaiming Your Power No Matter What You Decide

                      When you’ve been living in a relationship impacted by addiction, the decision to stay or leave can feel overwhelming.

                      But underneath that question is something even more important:

                      “How do I not lose myself in this?”

                      This episode explores a powerful shift — moving from focusing on the decision itself to focusing on who you become while making it.

                      Addiction relationships often create something known as identity fusion, where your sense of self becomes deeply tied to managing someone else’s behavior. You may find yourself becoming the fixer, the rescuer, the stabilizer — slowly losing connection with your own needs, values, and identity.

                      Reclaiming your power means gently separating yourself from that dynamic.

                      It means remembering something essential:

                      You are not the outcome.

                      You are not the relapse.
                      You are not the chaos.

                      You are a whole person outside of this relationship.

                      This episode also introduces the concept of post-traumatic growth — the idea that through consciously processing difficult experiences, people can emerge with stronger boundaries, clearer values, and deeper self-trust.

                      Not because the experience was easy.

                      But because they faced it honestly.

                      This is where true empowerment begins.

                      Not in choosing perfectly — but in choosing yourself in the process.

                      Whether you stay.

                      Whether you leave.
                      Whether you take space.

                      You can reclaim your power in any direction.

                      If this resonates, this is the heart of Andrea’s book:

                      👉 Tainted Love: Stay or Go? Navigating Tough Relationship Decisions in Addiction

                      A guide to help you walk this path with strength, clarity, and self-compassion — without losing who you are along the way.

                      Continue the Journey

                      👉 www.savingyouiskillingme.com

                      Explore Andrea’s books:

                      👉 https://www.amazon.com/stores/Andrea-Seydel/author/B076PQLS1X

                      About Andrea

                      Andrea Seydel holds a Master’s in Happiness Studies and integrates positive psychology, resilience science, and lived experience to support individuals navigating addiction relationships. Her work is rooted in helping you reclaim your identity and rebuild your life through Self-Compassion, Self-Care, Community, and Courage.

                       

                      24 min

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