🎙️ Crumb Confessional — Season 2, Episode 4
Title: You can’t help everybody, and that sucks
Description: It’s July 3, 11:10 AM. Just left a walk with my buddy Dan at Fernbank Park and reflecting on a hard update about Mansaray. I’ve been torn for weeks about whether or not to keep helping him—and after talking with Said and Pastor Vince, I’ve finally found peace in drawing a line. We talk about obedience versus enabling, boundaries in the Kingdom, and why discernment is just as holy as sacrifice. Plus, I reflect on my friendship with Dan and the beauty of walking with brothers who sharpen you without explanation.
I talk about:
- The final decision to block Mansaray and why it was so hard
- Said’s perspective from 10 years working with Beach Boys
- Scriptural filters for discerning when to stop helping
- My old pattern of sacrificing past the point of wisdom
- The importance of boundaries even when love still exists
- A beautiful walk and honest moment with my friend Dan
💡 Highlights & Timestamps:
00:00 – “Just left the shelter, heading over the 75/71 bridge, mind racing…”
04:50 – When does helping become enabling? (Said’s blunt insight)
09:15 – Vince’s story & the Glenn flashback: empathy vs. manipulation
16:30 – Biblical filters: Jesus gave freely, but not blindly
23:10 – Red flags: erosion of peace, chronic excuses, no spiritual hunger
29:20 – “I can’t help everybody. And that just sucks.”
34:40 – Recap of Fernbank Park walk with Dan — friendship without pretense
📖 Scriptures Referenced:
Matthew 18:22 – “Forgive seventy times seven…”
Matthew 7:6 – “Do not cast your pearls before swine…”
2 Thessalonians 3:10 – “If a man will not work, he shall not eat”
Proverbs 26:11 – “As a dog returns to its vomit…” (implied)
Luke 18:22-23 – “Jesus let the rich young ruler walk away”
John 10:11 – “The Good Shepherd lays down His life for the sheep” (implied contrast)
🧠 Core Takeaway:
We’re called to love, but not to be a crutch. Even Jesus walked away sometimes.
🙏 Closing Line:
Crumb Confessional S2E4 — I’m not Jesus. I’m just a vessel. And sometimes the most loving thing I can do is let go.