Wine, Dine, and 69

On the final episode of the pod (as well as WD&69’s five year anniversary), Rachel reflects on the last five years and everything she has learned from running the podcast. She is then joined by her *drumroll, please* prometido (fiancé), Javier. Javi also happens to be the pod’s biggest fan. The two of them discuss work/life balance, immigration, living in Spain, their engagement, personal growth, and what lies ahead. A very heartfelt thank you to everyone who has supported WD&69 over the last five years. Thanks for talking. ♥

Episode Notes:

Conversation with Javi begins at 00:12:30.

Mentioned in the episode:

The Unafraid: http://www.theunafraidfilm.com/about.html 

Alain de Botton “On Being” episode, “The True Hard Work of Love and Relationships”: https://onbeing.org/programs/alain-de-botton-the-true-hard-work-of-love-and-relationships/ 

Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR): https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapy-types/emdr 

r/confidentlyincorrect: https://www.reddit.com/r/confidentlyincorrect/ 

The Dunning-Kruger Effect: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/dunning-kruger-effect 

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Podcast artwork by Yogesh Nankar (Design by Dreamers).

Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann. 

Promo/engagement photo by Jesús Calzas Millán.

In the penultimate episode of the Wine, Dine, ad 69 Podcast, Rachel talks about gratitude, growth, and the Johari Window model.  She then welcomes back repeat guest, Leah Spasova. This time, the two of them are diving into a conversation about complementary dynamics in relationships. They discuss how attachment styles play a role, taking accountability for our own part in toxic dynamics, how to break free from the cycle of negative, unhealthy relationships, and more. 

Episode Notes:

“You may be 50% of the relationship dynamic, but every choice you make is 100% for you.”  – Leah

Conversation with Leah begins at 00:12:05.

Follow Leah: 

• Life Sexperts Website: https://www.lifesexperts.com/ 

• Leah on Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/counselling/leah-spasova-oxford-eng/847920 

• Follow Leah on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/leahspasova/

• Follow Leah on Twitter: https://x.com/leahspasova 

• Contact form to work with Leah: https://www.lifesexperts.com/contact-us 

• Sexperts Business Community: https://www.sbc-int.com/ 

• Free e-book, “‘The Big 3 Secrets for a Pleasure filled Intimate Life’’: https://www.lifesexperts.com/product-page/lifesexperts-ebook-the-big-3-secrets-for-a-pleasure-filled-intimate-life 

Follow Life Sexplicit: 

• Life Sexplicit Website: https://www.lifesexplicit.com/ 

• Life Sexplicit Twitter: https://x.com/lifesexplicit 

• Life Sexplicit Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lifesexplicit_/ 

• Life Sexplicit Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/your.lifesexplicit 

• Life Sexplicit LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/lifesexplicit/ 

• Life Sexplicit Telegram: https://t.me/lifesexplicit 

Mentioned in the episode: 

• Youtube Video: How Insecure Attachment Keeps Us Attracted To People Who Are Wrong For Us (& How To Break The Cycle) with Heidi Priebe: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pHrImgzzphY&list=PLhFOC1XMwCl8QxjTTAAM5Lao7qTNbyqWr&index=13&t=315s 

• The Johari Window model: https://www.communicationtheory.org/the-johari-window-model/ 

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Podcast artwork by Yogesh Nankar (Design by Dreamers).

Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann. 

Rachel welcomes her close friend Laura – a fellow Michigander, editor, and Buffy enthusiast –  to WD&69. Laura recounts some of her dating horror stories, shares red and green flags, and offers insights into the unique challenges of dating as an Asian woman. They also touch on the historical silencing of Asian women in society and  discuss the distinction between “alone” and “lonely”. Finally, they explore finding hope in the dating world when the bar is, in fact, in hell.

Don’t forget to “look for the evil”. Also, #JusticeForCordelia! 

EPISODE NOTES:

Discussed in the episode: 

• Article: “Chinatown groups celebrate cancellation of 76ers arena deal,” (January 13, 2025), by TaRhonda Thomas: https://6abc.com/post/chinatown-groups-celebrate-cancellation-76ers-arena-deal/15796889/ 

• TV Series: Severance on Apple TV: https://tv.apple.com/us/show/severance/umc.cmc.1srk2goyh2q2zdxcx605w8vtx 

• Article: “Should Women Stay Single?” (December 12, 2019), by Joseph Chamie: https://archive-yaleglobal.yale.edu/content/should-women-stay-single 

• Article: “ASMR – Benefits and Emerging Research,” (September 30, 2024), by Ashley Marcin: https://www.healthline.com/health/autonomous-sensory-meridian-response 

• Podcast: The Bitch Is Back With Christma Carpenter: https://open.spotify.com/show/2oq77imGQuD1t7gBe4BPN0 

• Movie: Gone Girl: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt2267998/ 

• Movie: Materialists: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt30253473/ 

• Book: The Body Keeps the Score, by Bessel Van Der Kolk, MD (2015): https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1694033202&sr=8-1 

• Music: Haven’t Met You Yet, by Michael Bublé: https://open.spotify.com/track/4fIWvT19w9PR0VVBuPYpWA 

  
  

Some Articles on the Silence and Myth of the Asian Woman:

• Cold Tea Collective – The Dehumanization of Asian Women: https://coldteacollective.com/the-dehumanization-of-asian-women-why-we-can-no-longer-be-silent/ 

• The Myth of the Asian Woman – California Alumni Association: https://alumni.berkeley.edu/california-magazine/online/myth-asian-woman/ 

• Teaching about the Comfort Women during World War II and the Use of Personal Stories of the Victims – Association for Asian Studies: https://www.asianstudies.org/publications/eaa/archives/teaching-about-the-comfort-women-during-world-war-ii-and-the-use-of-personal-stories-of-the-victims/ 

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Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann. 

Promo photo by Brooke Cagle on Unsplash.

Rachel is on her way back to the States and checks in with listeners during her layover in Lisbon. Then, she is joined by author, podcaster, and speaker Kristyn Schott. Kristyn has done a lot of personal work working through perfectionism, OCD, and disordered eating. The two of them discuss deconstructing and unbecoming in the name of self-love, happiness, and faith. They also share a number of books, songs, movies and quotes that they find particularly meaningful and inspiring. 

Episode Notes:

“Maybe the journey isn’t so much about becoming anything, maybe it’s about unbecoming anything that really isn’t you, so that you can be who you were meant to be in the first place.” – Paulo Coleho

Conversation with Kristyn begins at 00:03:39.

Follow Kristyn: 

Website: https://kristynschott.com/ 

The Unbecoming Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/42Jq64pYdApz886J0oPgrf

Book: More Than Conquerors, by Kristyn Schott (2020): https://www.amazon.com/More-Than-Conquerors-Kristyn-Schott/dp/0578636115/

Blog: https://kristynschott.com/blog/ 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kristynschott/ 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCl70yuopd5ckawVc_zmWBag 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kristyn.schott 

Resources Mentioned in This Episode: 

• National Eating Disorders Association (NEDA) Eating Disorders 101 Presentation: https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Eating-Disorders-101.pdf 

• Overview of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD): https://iocdf.org/about-ocd/ 

• Box Breathing: https://www.webmd.com/balance/what-is-box-breathing 

• Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar, by Cheryl Strayed (2012): https://www.amazon.com/Tiny-Beautiful-Things-Advice-Sugar/dp/0307949338 

• Dermot Kennedy: https://www.dermotkennedy.com/ 

• “Outnumbered” by Dermot Kennedy: https://open.spotify.com/album/4BQVnx1yJrDa1tcky9D9N6 

• “Blossom” by Dermot Kennedy: https://open.spotify.com/track/3DE0Qm4jInax5ybEdfduJz 

• “All I Know So Far” by P!NK: https://open.spotify.com/track/4LmN3eU1R1vVEdKuDELpGk 

• An Intro To Transcendentalism: https://plato.stanford.edu/entries/transcendentalism/ 

• The Midnight Library, by Matt Haig (2020): https://www.amazon.com/Midnight-Library-Novel-Matt-Haig/dp/0525559477 

• Everything Everywhere All At Once (2022): https://www.imdb.com/title/tt6710474/ 

• Wild: From Lost to Found on the Pacific Crest Trail, by Cheryl Strayed (2012): https://www.amazon.com/Wild-Found-Pacific-Crest-Trail/dp/0307592731 

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Podcast artwork by Yogesh Nankar (Design by Dreamers).
Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann.

Rachel sits down with former guest turned friend and co-worker: Lindsay Dellinger. Enjoy being a fly on the wall as Rachel and Lindsay chat about the current political hellscape, immigration, mental health, resilience, letter-writing as processing, and so much more.

Episode Notes:

About Lindsay: 

• Swipe Write: A sometimes hilarious, sometimes sad, always brutally honest account of 20 online dates with 20 different men, by Lindsay Dellinger (2022): https://www.amazon.com/Swipe-Write-Online-Dates-Different-ebook/dp/B09NBC8GGS 

• Website: https://lindsay-taylor-dellinger.com/ 

• Blog, “The Road Linds Travels”: https://theroadlindstravels.com/about-lindsay-taylor-dellinger/ 

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/The_Road_Linds_Travels/ 

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheRoadLindsTravels/ 

• WOW Wagon YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCyOnY9xuD-SJsYK3rBXKWtQ 

Mentioned in This Episode: 

• Episode 56: “Swipe Write” with Lindsay:  https://open.spotify.com/episode/2Pg91gYciRc8ttqYBhl1u4 

• Lindsay interviews Rachel in her Celebrating Women series on her blog: https://theroadlindstravels.com/2025/04/19/celebrating-women-rachel-dalton/ 

• Winded: A Memoir in Four Stages, by Dawn Newton(2019): https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1627202455/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_hsch_vapi_tpbk_p1_i1 

• The Age of Magical Overthinking: Notes on Modern Irrationality, by Amanda Montell (2024): https://www.amazon.com/dp/1668007983/

• The Girls, by Emma Cline (2017): https://www.amazon.com/Girls-Novel-Emma-Cline/dp/0812988027/

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Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann. 

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Rachel talks a bit about what has been going in her life and what lies ahead for the Wine, Dine, and 69 Podcast. She is then joined by Stephany Ann, an accomplished lawyer, author, and survivor of two abusive marriages. The two of them discuss how to recognize narcissism, escaping the abuse cycle and trauma bond, and healing through belief.

Episode Notes:

Conversation with Stephany Ann begins at 00:16.07.

Follow Stephany Ann: 

Website: https://stephany-ann.mykajabi.com/ 

Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thestephanyann/ 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thestephanyann/ 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kajabi 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephanyann/

In The Episode:

WD&69 episode with my Mom: https://open.spotify.com/episode/7ChLbC17TPhDtmBjcI09rw 

The Wife Between Us, by Green Hendricks and Sarah Pekkenan (2018): https://www.amazon.com/Between-Sarah-Greer-Hendricks-Pekkanen/dp/1509842829 

The Biology of Belief: Unleashing the Power of Consciousness, Matter, & Miracles, by Bruce Lipton (2008): ⁠https://www.amazon.com/Biology-Belief-Unleashing-Consciousness-Miracles/dp/1401923127⁠ 

Why Does He Do That?: Inside The Minds of Angry and Controlling Men, by Lundy Bancroft (2003): https://www.amazon.com/Why-Does-He-That-Controlling/dp/0425191656/ 

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Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann. 

Short Description: Rachel sits down with one of her dearest friends in the world, and repeat guest, Samantha Simpson. The two share a candid conversation about growth, dating, the future of the pod, and more. 

Episode Notes:

Conversation with Sam begins at 00:00:43.

Mentioned in this episode:

Sam’s first pod ep, Episode 72: “Intention and Introspection with Sam”: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4p802E5QFUgy4mGrY7Akax 

Miss Bennet: Christmas At Pemberley Review by Sarah Paulos – https://www.facebook.com/OldAcademyPlayers/posts/pfbid06fvTz3VPUe8Sw7jMBQefKiJhoywc5cTb8MiLSwvJ3Cm4nCkGtga2SPrvVGK4FUNyl 

The Sixth of January YouTube Trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3K4Fj6G7-6U 

Lindsay’s pod ep, Episode 56: “Swipe Write with Lindsay”: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2Pg91gYciRc8ttqYBhl1u4 

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Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann. 

Promo photo is a still from Pride and Prejudice (2005).

Rachel talks about election anxiety and the book, The Fourth Turning. She is then joined by this month’s guest, Missy XD, author of Tales of a Phone Sex Girl.  They talk about sex work, intimacy, anonymity, and of course, Missy shares some stories from her time on the job!

Episode Notes:

Conversation with MissyXD begins at 00:12:50.

Follow Missy XD:

Book: Tales of a Phone Sex Girl, By Missy XD (2024): https://www.amazon.com/Tales-Phone-Sex-Girl-Missy-ebook/dp/B0D4NJ4GNS 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/missy.848375 

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@missyxd5 

Discussed in the episode: 

[Intro] Vox, Your Guide To Coping With Election Anxiety, by Allie Volpe (October 28, 2024), https://www.vox.com/even-better/379814/election-anxiety-stress-coping-strategies-control-community 

[Intro] The Fourth Turning: An American Prophecy - What the Cycles of History Tell Us About America's Next Rendezvous with Destiny, by William Strauss and Neil Howe (1997): https://www.amazon.com/Fourth-Turning-American-Prophecy-Rendezvous/dp/0767900464 

[Intro] The Fourth Turning Is Here: What the Seasons of History Tell Us about How and When This Crisis Will End, by Neil Howe (2023): https://www.amazon.com/Fourth-Turning-Here-Seasons-History/dp/1982173734/ref=sr_1_1

Phone Kitten: A Cozy, Romantic, and Highly Humorous Mystery, by Marika Christian (2010):  https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/11222521-phone-kitten 

Baby Reindeer: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt13649112/ 

Fatal Attraction: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0093010/?ref_=fn_al_tt_1 

NY Post, “$4 a minute for fetishes: How the 1-900 phone-sex industry changed America” By Micheal Kaplan (2021): https://nypost.com/2021/11/12/how-the-1-900-phone-sex-industry-changed-america/ 

Touching Base, Inc, “NDIS And Sex Work” by unknown: https://www.touchingbase.org/ndis-and-sex-work/ 

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Rachel talks about change, values, and self love before jumping into this timely conversation with this weeks’ guest, Jenny Ferrante. Jenny shares her story and talks about what self love is, the importance of self love rituals, and so much more!

Episode Notes:

“Self-love is accepting where I am, right now.” - Jenny

Conversation with Jenny begins at 00:15:59.

Follow Jenny:

Website/Free Guide: https://jennyferrante.podia.com/ 

Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6Rm5EslbstK9qhwknKLvd5 

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@voicesofyoursoul 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/voices_of_your_soul/ 

Mentioned in this episode:

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma, by Bessel van der Kolk (2015): https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748 

Japanese Philosophy of Ikigai: https://positivepsychology.com/ikigai/ 

[intro] “What’s Yer Weird Story?” Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6X88psWPMirckekseGCaGR 

[intro] “Kidd and Friends” Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/episode/60TPvp2QCe94C8xOxDeHQY 

[intro] Finch App: https://finchcare.com/ 

[intro] The Workout Witch: https://theworkoutwitch.com/

“What would you do if you already knew you were worthy? What would you stop doing?” - Adia Gooden

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Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann.

Rachel covers some odds and ends before jumping into the last interview of the season with Leah Spasova. Leah is a sex and relationship psychologist as well as the founder of the Sexperts Business Community and a new platform called Life Sexplicit. Leah and Rachel discuss sex education  and one of the biggest threats to our sex lives: censorship. 

Episode Notes:

Conversation with Leah begins at 00:19:28.

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Follow Life Sexplicit: 

Follow Leah elsewhere: 

Discussed in this interview: 

Discussed in the intro (Make it make sense): 

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